My dad likes to touch me. Is this sexual abuse?
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Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 8:22am
It depends on where he likes to touch you. If he touches you on shoulder, hand etc then it is sign of affection in most cultures. But if he likes to touch you on your private parts then it is sexual abuse
Anonymous
July 14th, 2016 7:53am
It depends on how he touches you and where. If its a simple touch between father and child and he is simply showing familial affection, then that is not sexual abuse. If he touches you anywhere inappropriate and makes you feel uncomfortable then yes it is,
Depends in what kind of way and what parts of your body. If his touch makes you feel uncomfortable and he knows it but he does it anyway it's definitely abuse. You should try to talk to him or at least to other members of your family, teachers, authorities about this situation. You don't have to accept any kind of touch which makes you feel uncomfortable.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 8:47am
If it involves the touching of intimate areas and/or it makes you uncomfortable and you have asked him to stop but he does not, then it is sexual abuse. It is advisable to confront him if that has not been done already or otherwise speak to a trusted adult such as a family member or professional, like a social worker.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 5:36pm
I think you need to talk a professional about this, I dont think I am qualified to talk about this but yes to me it sounds inappropriate
Depends on how it makes you feel, and where he's touching you. If he is making you uncomfortable, tell someone!
Yes it is. It is way more difficult to aknowledge the abuse and live through it when it's a member of the family being the abuser. If your father takes advantage of his situation of 'power' towards you in a sexual way, it is definitely abuse.
That depends on what the purposes that touch and depends on your feeling when he touches you. If you're feeling uncomfortable with his touch then it might be a sexual abuse, but if you think it's a safe touch for example just touching your hair.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 12:46am
If the manner of which he is touching you is sexual, then yes. This type of physical contact is completely inappropriate.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2018 6:07pm
It depends on where he touches you and how you feel in return/ Do you feel violated? Do you feel like he touches you somewhere he shouldn't?
Anonymous
January 11th, 2018 6:33am
as long as it is not sexually, or in places you feel uncomfortable in, not really. speak to him and see, if he still continues inappropriately, please do not hesitate to report him.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 10:46pm
normal phsyical affection can be a great thing, but physical contact that makes you feel uncomfortable is probably not ok. If you think the touching is abusive, then you should get professional help from a teacher, police, doctor/nurse, or someone who can help intervene. You deserve respect.
To answer your question properly, I would first like to explain what sexual abuse is. Sexual abuse is a situation in which an individual is touched either on their genitalia, between their thighs, their breast or made to touch the other individual in the same places without the individual fully willing to participate in such. Sexual abuse can occur with any member of the family,friends, neighbours and/or strangers. If a person gets touched inappropriately, the person being touched is never at fault. So whenever people say "you dress sexually or you were always giving him signs that you want it" these are just wrong.
Back to your question. If you feel within yourself that the way your father is touching you is wrong, tell him that you don't like it. Most people that abuse others say things like "you like it, you are just pretending" or "if you tell anyone I will kill you" or "if you tell your mom, she wouldn't believe you".
I do not know how he touches you but sometimes, the way someone touched you even if it is a minor touch of the fingers can trigger warning feeling in you. Talk to a trusted objective adult about this and remember, even if he is actually sexually abusing you, it is not your fault. It never will be.
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Anonymous
January 18th, 2018 7:21pm
If the nature of this touching is unwanted by you or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, you have the right to tell social services and move somewhere that you feel safe.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2018 11:32am
If you feel uncomfortable about it and he touches you in inappropriate places, it is considered sexual abuse.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2019 9:04am
If he touches parts of you no father should go near or touches you sexually then it is sexual abuse. If he is touching you in ways that make you uncomfortable but isn't genitally then it is probably sexual assault which is just as bad. You have the right to tell him NO! And the right to tell someone when he steps out of line. Sexual abuse is often someone making you do something sexually to them that you don't want to, or them doing something sexually to you. Either way it is wrong and you do not need to put up with it. Reach out to someone and talk to them about it
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 1:20pm
Where exactly does he touch you? But from what I see yes, it is. You should report it to someone immediately
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 12:50am
it certainly sounds like it... it depends on where, though. if its a pat on the knee, it is not sexual abuse. if its somewhere he shouldnt touch, like the chest or other areas, then it is considered sexual abuse. if this ensues, contact someone instantly. give them details of the situation, remain strong, and keep in mind that it is not your fault at all. you can and will get through this. if needed, contact a therapist- or a doctor, if anything
If he touches you on your private parts without your consent, then yes it is sexual abuse. Let your mother know about it. If it doesn't help then please report it to Sexual Abuse Hotline
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 8:20pm
It depends on how and where he touches you. If you feel threatened in any way you should talk to someone immediately.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2018 7:01pm
Do you feel that the way he touches you is no appropriate?
If yes and you are not in terms with it then it can be considered as sexual abuse
If it makes you feel physically uncomfortable and you have told him to stop and he persists ...then yes.
If you feel like he is touching you in an inappropriate way, then please confide in an adult you trust and they will help you settle it.
Sexual abuse is not okay.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2018 7:21pm
If he is touching you in an un appropriate way then yes! tell someone as soon as possible. This is not okay.
A hug is o.k.! Its a very good thing in fact! And you should accept it as such a good thig as it is. Any touching of your private areas would not be good! And abusive!
Hello. The intent of the toucing depends on where and how he touches you. If he touches you in on generic areas of your body such as the shoulders, arms, head, face and there in intent is affection then you can rethink the sexual abuse. However, if he touches you in the genitalia, or caress or gropes other areas of your body then that is sexual abuse. Listen to the vibe you get when he touches you and please confide in an adult you trust.
Yes if it makes you uncomfortable and if it is inappropriate touching it is. You should tell a trusted adult because sexual abuse is serious.
If you are referencing touch in that way that is assumed (your genitals, any other sexually explicit sensitive areas) then yes. You should let someone you care about (and that will believe you) know immediately.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 9:56am
Most likely, even if it wasn't you should still talk to your dad about if it's making you uncomfortable.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2018 2:36pm
Only if its in ways that you dont like or feel akward, or uncomfortable. If it is uncomfortable or akward for you.. Please tell a trusted adult or call for help
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