How do I deal with a religious family as an atheist?
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That must a quite hard on you especially when the family is involved imposing their beliefs on you. However, have you tried communicating your boundaries in a healthy way as to what part of the religion you do not agree to be a part of? By setting and communicating your boundaries, it would help them understand your point of view without ruining the parent-child bond that the family shares. The conversation could begin something along the lines of - " I appreciate your love and concern, however... ". Further, letting them know that you respect their beliefs however, are not comfortable following the same beliefs.
Hi there, I am actually in a similar situation -- without knowing more details about your situation, I would say that even if you don't agree with the practices of the family, still try to be respectable and willing to listen. You just need to show them that you are willing to listen. You shouldn't voice your differences, just be there for the family as a listener, if they ask you questions, then voice what you want to say, otherwise try to be as respectful as you can be! That is one way of dealing with this situation. Wishing you all the best!
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March 19th, 2022 7:51pm
It sounds like you're a bit confused on where you stand within your family's religious customs! While I can't relate to this personally as my family's atheist, I can help you out a bit using my experience with my religious friends! Sometimes, I feel a bit excluded and weird around my friends when they talk about their religion and its customs, but I respect their customs and even ask a few questions to show my engagement in what they are saying. If your family is against you being atheist, try to reach a compromise! A good example is still taking part in family customs to show respect but not going to church. Good luck!
Only you can decide how to live your life and build your own system of values. Have you tried connecting with other groups that are trying to find a way to resolve this kind of issue? Acceptance, respect for individual choices and free will are key. Perhaps you could explore some of this in more detail. Have you tried talking with them about it? Is it possible for you to have a constructive conversation with them about this? If they are not open to your point of view, there are other resources available where you can reach out.
Have an open mind.
Having an open mind is very helpful.
A closed mind is all or nothing thinking, which often leads to conflicts.
Conflicts should be avoided, as much as possible.
Respecting their religious view points, is really important.
If need be, talk to their Pastor, to learn as much as you can about their religion, and why it is so important to them.
Also, do some reading about their religion and practices.
Watch videos on your family's religion.
Educate yourself as much as possible.
Maybe have a meeting to ask questions.
Open, honest, communication is another way to learn and grow.
I wish you the best, and I hope this is helpful.
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