How can I control my eating when I have impulse control issues?
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You have to literally fight the cravings/impulses as if you are being attacked. Don't fight back and perish or fight back and regain self-control and confidence. It's not bigger than you, it's not stronger than you, you have to learn to fight it.
My experience with eating is an emotional one, and when impulse is an issue, I recommend beginning to set a routine that re-patterns what your impulses are. Often when I sit down to work, an overwhelming urge to get up and go to the kitchen comes over me. In this moment, I remind myself to take a breath, deeply, and for a minute, breath as deeply as possible, repeatedly, in an effort to calm the anxiety I feel about getting to work to possibly messing up. If this doesn't calm me, I refer to the H.A.L.T. method: Am I Hungry? Anxious? Lonely? Tired? This line of questioning can help me fix the problem. I may truly be hungry, in which case, I eat a sensible snack. I may be anxious about work, in which case I remind myself that eating will only be a distraction to block my ability to achieve. If I am tired or lonely, then food also will not mitigate these feelings. If I am tired, I try to manage my sleep better the next next, making it a priority to create a healthy, calm bedtime routine. If I am lonely, then I reach out to a friend or family member. Both of these things make me feel more full and centered than anything in the fridge. And worst comes to worst, if I give into an impulsive eating episode, I remind myself that this is not the pattern I want to set, and I re-set for the next day. With food, every day can be different, every hour can be different. Be kind to yourself when creating boundaries with food. When I finally set my boundaries, I try to be firm with them. When I do cross the line though, I am kind to myself. It is okay.
Start keeping a food journal, at least for a week. Eat as you normally would, but log in the journal what you eat and when; how you feel before and after, the presence of some trigger that pushes you to food; the situation. Meanwhile, if you haven't, start exercising. Small steps, like a walk, or a few sprints, or some bodyweight exercise. It will help immensely. Report how that goes, too. After a week or two, analyze your journal, and try to look for patterns. Work with your findings. Lastly, surround yourself with love: family, friends, some hobby, music, art, 7 cups. Good luck!
"Controlling" eating often leads to restriction which in some people can lead to a restrict-binge cycle- usually disordered eating if not an eating disorder. If you are having difficulty with emotional eating, compulsive/impulsive eating, and/or binging, reaching out to an expert may help! Not depriving yourself and quitting labeling food or eating as "good" or "bad"/"healthy" or "unhealthy" can help a lot of mental anguish around it too :)
I've had a lot of problems with binge eating growing up. It's harder than a lot of people make out so I understand how stressed you might be. What I do is I only eat when I'm hungry. When I am, I get less food than what I think I need and leave. After 20 minutes if I'm still hungry, I get more. Be kind to yourself and don't give up if you slip up.
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2016 8:45pm
Recognize what might put you at a higher risk for suddenly wanting/needing to eat, like commercials and ads for food. Social media can have a lot of food images and stories depending on a variety of factors.
If boredom is the cause then be more active/busy, or, remember to do something before eating again. Even if you open or look at the fridge while not physically hungry, get up and do something in a completely different area of your house.
Put away the temptations and do something else to avoid it then eventually a confrontation will be nessecary but when it reaches that point your best bet is to go seek professional help through therapy.
I like to suck on ice to get that sensation of eating something, you can also chew on it if your teeth are able to :)
Distractions are also a big help and I know how clique it sounds but it truly is helpful. Going on walks, watching a movie, doing a sport, or doing something you've always wanted to do is a great way to distract yourself. But if it gets too hard I do recommend seeing a professional. I'm very proud of you for reaching out and just know there's a lot of support available and it can be easy to feel overwhelmed but take your time.
Drink water. It fills you up pretty fast, especially if you're not actually hungry. Water is a good way to make you drop unwanted weight as well.
I tend to chew gum or do something physical, eating is healthy if your doing it in a healthy manner. If you feel like its out of being impulsive find something to do that will cause good effects.
One of the ways to control eating when you have impulse control issues is plate size. According to scientific research, the smaller the plate, the less food you put on it. For example, if you've made a lasagna and you have a small plate, you're more likely to put a smaller portion of that lasagna on your plate than you are a bigger one. This always tricks your mind and stomach into thinking your fuller so you don't want more. Another way is when you're hungry, but you're only hungry because of your impulse control, drinking water or eating some fruit is a healthier option for you to take :)
Anonymous
August 12th, 2016 2:49am
You can try to focus on something else. Have a list of things you like to do, for exmple watch netflix, fix your nails, read a book and so on..
Impulse control when it comes to eating is hard to deal with sometimes. You could set out snacks beforehand so when you get hungry you have a specific food to eat, instead of just eating whatever is closest. You can also keep healthy snacks out, which will keep your body and brain more healthy and happy than junk food. Drinking water also helps when it comes to keeping you full. Sometimes, your body thinks it is hungry when it is really just thirsty. The most important thing when it comes to eating is to eat what is just right for your body. Not too much or too little.
When I have impulse issues when it comes to eating, I try to distract myself with other activities. I do yoga in my room or on my porch, go for a run/hike/ or walk, etc. Important food for thought is that during this time we should really work to appreciate nature. If you stay cooped up in your house all day, it will be much harder to resist temptations. Also, you start to get bored of the same scenery, which leads you to only eat because you have nothing else to do. Doing as much as sitting on your porch everyday for an hour can do so much good for your mental stability as well as help you resist temptations.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2020 6:34am
I have experienced that horror of impulsive eating and for me it was a mind thing. I ate because if my mind or mouth said I was I hungry i needed to eat. Not true. A good bit of advice I got from my doctor when I was pregnant(gained over a 100 lbs) is eat when you're hungry but don't eat to get full. This was the easiest way for me to eat better because eventually your body will learn to survive on the smaller portions you're fixing yourself. I hope this helps you be able to make wiser choices when its comes to food.
Have you looked at some support groups or enlisting your family and close friends to help you through this difficult time? I'm sure they love you and want the best for you so if you let them know you are experiencing a problem, I am sure they will help you through it. This may seem like a daunting thing to do but remember they love you and they would not want to see you unhappy or facing a state of depression. If it seems too confronting to face all your family then maybe just pick one or two members that you feel closest too and ask them if you can confide in them.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2020 10:39pm
When it comes to eating disorders, you have to be very careful. There are 2 types of eating disorders:
1. eating little to nothing at all,
2. or eating to much.
Both are equally dangerous for the body, and if you notice sings of either progressing, you should seek professional help immediately.
Controlling your eating, is an important part. Try to have at least 3 meals a day, 1 hot one and 2 cold ones. Make sure they are healthy and give you the nutritions your body needs. T
Sometimes planning out meals from start to finish can help with impulse control. Plan out what food you will eat during the day and set them aside in your refrigerator. It’s important to try o eat healthy ! Write them down so you can stay on track. Then plan out when you will eat your meals. A good schedule for eating is making sure you get nourishment every three hours. It is also worth trying to figure out why you are leaning on eating as a coping mechanism. Are you trying to escape from something or hide some feelings?
Anonymous
November 21st, 2019 9:10pm
You can try and substitute something else for food. If there is something else you enjoy you can try to replace it with eating. This may take time, but I believe in you. You can do anything you put your mind to. You can eventually try to replace this habit with exercising, yoga, or something beneficial. Your problem may be related to a internal or external conflict. Try to find something to do that's beneficial. You may even find guidance by doing an self reflection. I encourage you to do something today be the best version of you.
An eating disorder deals with many control issues. Either eating less where they get a sense of control over their life. overeating where they treat themselves for emotional comfort. Binge eating is associated changes in mood, which help to get the persons mind off adverse event. Over evaluating shape and weight, how you view your appearance, which leads to unhelpful behaviours. Dietary restraint some concerns that does not allow the person to eat. those are a few types where impulse issues occur, and Impulses can't be controlled.
As I read there are several ways, routines, exercises to deal with such issue. But for starters I thought one way to deal is with 3 ways. first : monitor yourself...Recording what you eat and weigh your self each week. Second: regular eating...Eating 3 meals and two snacks ( underweight). And eating every four hours... no more than that. Third: writing SMART goals. those three exercises well get a person with impulse started on the track to control their eating habits.
Anonymous
May 10th, 2018 12:30pm
If your feeling impulsive the best thing to do is distract yourself. Maybe go out for a walk or find a new funny app to play on your phone. The most important thing to do it distract yourself.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2018 10:13am
I try to meditate and stay calm. First thing is to try substitute the food that makes bad for my body to good and healthy foods.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2018 7:09pm
One shift you can do is not buy the trigger foods or the go-to foods that are impulsive to you...if they are not easily available then you wont be so tempted or have the opportunity to eat it right then and there.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2019 11:19pm
In my experience, I feel like eating when I have other problems I need to focus on, or other stressors in my life that I don't want to deal with. Some ways to stop impulsively eating might be to start keeping track of when you feel the urge to eat unhealthily, so you can learn your triggers. Then once you figure those out you can tell your family and friends to check in and keep a closer eye on you when they notice you're feeling that way.
Another way is to distract yourself, get out of the house and take a walk (or wherever the tempting food is,) or go somewhere where food is not allowed, like the library or church. If nothing else works, you can buy one of those lock boxes with a timer that won't unlock until a certain amount of time has passed.
Anonymous
October 20th, 2019 3:41am
I can understand this issues very well, I am sweet tooth and double boned guy, I would like to say we don't have to cut our eating just trick the mind.
1. Drink more water, it will fill the space before eating.
2.Dont full stomach at once, eat in short intervals like 1-2 hours, make sure the things are digested what we eat before.
3. Control unsaturated fats, eat more fiber, like apples.
4. If you can do some exercise or yoga or pranayam too helps a lot.
5. Have a check on calories, try to reduce some.
6. Fasting is best option. Don't overdo it.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2019 5:19pm
When you figure out the secret, let me know. For me, I have to make sure there is no junk food in the house, that it's a monumental effort to go out, buy the stuff, come home, *then* pig out. The best ways to control impulses like that are to stay on track with goals, to keep order in your life in the ways you want, to achieve the goals you have set for yourself. Too often we slip in one area or exhaust ourselves and then find other areas slipping as well, to the point where we wonder how to get out of this hole. One step at a time, and build good habits on top of good habits. Progress, not perfection.
First of all you have to remove the temptations from anywhere near you. Don't keep any unhealthy snacks in the house and when you have a craving for something unhealthy, just grab the first fruit that you see in front of you and eat that. I know it sounds hard but I've tried it and it's worked great for me so far. Whenever I get the urge to eat something sweet for example or fast food, I just try to eat something healthy instead as fast as possible. If I am not really hungry, the cravings are not as hard to resist to.
Oftentimes, we can over or under nourish ourselves in response to another event or series of events in our lives. We can sometimes sort this out with small steps to address our whole body and mind. Then we can find the eating behaviors are easy to manage and change. For example, other things we may look at is our sleep, our work, entertainment, and people in our lives. How do you feel when you are doing these things or being with these people? Is there anything you do to much of or not enough of? The things you want to increase practice doing 2 minutes more per day. The things you want do decrease practice doing 2 minutes less per day. Most importantly, we are not racing anyone. If you find it to be difficult or you don't make it one day or a few times, it is okay. In time you will learn self-discipline. Small steps, small steps, small steps. You got this!
Anonymous
January 10th, 2019 12:46am
I have personally experienced this and know how hard this is to control. It will be slightly different for each person but my best advice for you is to take a deep breathe and think about what you are about to do. If you are around people when you feel and impulse coming on, tell someone you can trust so they can help and just be there for you. The main thing to remember thou is, don’t beat yourself up afterwards. You will make some mistakes along the way but just keep trying and take the good with the bad.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2021 1:09am
Personally, for me, I like to exercise or take a walk, or even read a good book. Are used to have eating problems, and it has gotten better now that I realize that food is not the only source of happiness, but there are so many other things that will make us just as happy, if not even more. There are so many things out there that are waiting for us to experience. Focusing on something else rather than food will help immensely. Also, even meal prepping will help or planning out what you will eat for the following day.
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