Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?
VinylFly
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Jul 29, 2016
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You most certainly are and are worthy of and deserve to get the help you need to heal. For many people it takes a while to come to terms with and process the trauma of emotional abuse so a delayed reaction like yours is not at all abnormal.
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Anonymous
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Aug 1, 2016
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There are different kinds of abuse and it has often been said that the one abuse that is harder to overcome and deal with is emotional abuse. With physical abuse a broken leg or arm or bruise heals, but with emotional abuse, its an unseen abuse, that wounds at a very deep level that takes time to heal. Sometimes it may never be completely possible for something to stop hurting, but the degree in which it does certainly can change.
ThoughtlessDesign
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Nov 25, 2017
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You are allowed to be upset and get help for any type of abuse, whenever you are able and willing to reach. Pain has no time limits, and neither does healing. You can always get better.
Anonymous
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Dec 9, 2017
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Emotional abuse is not the same as physical abuse. Emotional abuse can leave unseen scars for a great deal of time. They can have triggers that draw them out. Another way they can suddenly come about is an aware-like awaking. An example of this would include the person not seeing the situation for what it was when it happened and even after. In that case, the person may never have gotten over what happened to them as they were, in their minds, getting over something else or nothing at all. At any rate, it is always okay to seek help. You do not need any "valid" reason. Getting help has been so negatively stigmatized over the years that many feel they have to hide it. Truth is, many psychologists and even psychiatrists have sought help. I actually feel that at least one "check up" should be done a year as a persons mental/emotional health should be kept in check as much as ones physical health is. Especially considering just how much a persons mental/emotional health can either negatively or positively affect a persons physical health and overall well-being.
romanticthi3f
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Jan 19, 2018
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Yes! There isn't any time limit on when you can get help. I've spoken with people who have gotten therapy after 30 years of coping with things on their own!
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Anonymous
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Apr 7, 2018
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yes of course you are, emotional abuse is after all emotional and you still feel it long after it happens.
GrayFelia
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Apr 8, 2018
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Yes. You are absolutely allowed to. It may have been a long time since it happened but it doesn't mean it'll stop affecting you emotionally and physically. Time is a healer, for sure. But not without efforts. Please try to get some help to overcome this, you don't have to be alone.
Love. xX
avanef
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Jun 8, 2018
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Of course! You always deserve help no matter what. Granted, it is better and more helpful when someone can do something immediately after it happened. But, regardless, if you want the help, you absolutely deserve it and no matter what, you have every right to feel the way you do.
Textingpals
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Oct 30, 2020
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Of course, you are. There is no such definite time slot when it comes to abuses and emotions. I have always believed human emotions to be one of the most complex theories, even more complex than rocket science. Few people express them, few deny, few bury them deep down into their sub-conscious. When it's too much/overwhelming for the brain to handle, these erupt out like some volcano. I believe, that may be the case with you. May be you haven't 'dealt' with it timely, may be you have tried to bury them, may be it was a defence mechanism by your brain. Whatever the reason is, it is absolutely reasonable to be upset over it even after a long time of it happening. Never try to invalidate your emotions, just feel them and deal with it or let it go. Your choice, but invalidation of the emotions is harmful.
ChaiTeaLatte138
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Sep 25, 2016
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Yes. I would leave it at "yes" but there is a 100 word minimum. It does not matter if the abuse happened today or ten years ago - you have a right to your feelings whatever they may be. I hope so much you can begin to heal and receive help.
solabee
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Jun 30, 2017
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Absolutely. Unresolved trauma can affect you for years. You should definitely get help for anything that is causing you pain in your life. Whether that's trauma from your past or things that are happening right now, you never have to justify your feelings to anyone. You're allowed to feel anything that you feel!! I hope you get some help soon and find some peace (:
DreamCatcher39
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Oct 17, 2017
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Dear it is totally fine to feel like that. Many get abused but there are many people who see the effects of these abusing later on in their lives. It's perfectly normal. Do not feel awkward about this. And about getting help part, yes you could and you should.
Wish you all the luck and happy life dear. :)
LetsCherishLife
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Nov 2, 2017
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Yes of course! And it totally doesn't matter why it's been taking 3 years. Once my therapist told me that the soul just allows bad memories to come up when it is ready for them. It is never too late to start working on something and you will always have a right to get help. Nobody should be left alone.
YasmineNotYours
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Nov 23, 2017
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of course, sometimes we don't realise we were emotionally abused until long time after it happened; or we feel the result of this abuse after some time... so it's totally normal to seek help just now... And it's 100% ok to start being upset even 3 years after...
LoveThinkerP3
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Nov 24, 2017
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Of course!!! As you grow you realize how you were treated. And maybe your brain shut out the pain and is ready to work through the abuse. It might be a sign that your body is ready to face the problem head on and ready to get help.
Angel1011208
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Jan 9, 2018
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we all heal at our own time so it's very important to acknowledge that you have emotional pain and start working through a plan to become happy and healthy.
Anonymous
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Feb 16, 2018
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The answer is Yes, you are allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional 3 years after it happened. There is no necessity that you have to upset exactly after that happened. I felt myself that whenever something wrong happens I get numb to the situation later I feel upset.. So there are situation later on when you are triggered to do grief over a situation and are allowed to get help. No matter when, but in short there is nothing wrong to get help early or soon!!!!!!!!!!!!
reflectivemind
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Dec 13, 2017
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Yes!! Often we suppress our emotions and feelings as a way to protect ourselves from the things causing us pain. It is never to late let these out. If we keep them trapped we can never truly heal.
contentedWhisper25
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Dec 14, 2017
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Most definitely. Sometimes it takes a lot of time before we realize we have been in an emotional abuse situation. Plus sometimes we carry guilt for allowing ourselves in that situation. Getting help at any time is the right time for you.
endearingLion70
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Dec 23, 2017
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Asking for help is always allowed. Feeling abused has nothing to do with time and asking for help has to do with your feelings and when you feel ready to talk about it with another person.
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