What should I do if I am feeling suicidal, but don't want to tell anyone?
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Anonymous
July 20th, 2017 2:04pm
Most importantly, don't allow the suicidal thoughts to overwhelm you and make you do something regretful. There are ways to seek help for these thoughts without family or friends knowing, as it is a very hard subject to talk about openly. There are websites such as this one where you can talk about your thoughts freely and find understanding about them. The important thing is to figure out why you have these thoughts.
I have given this answer for a lot of things but I have seen the benefits of meditation. It gives you that 'mental break' from your obsessive thoughts, what ever they are about. It is the mental equivalent of a huge deep breath to calm your thoughts and get control again, to stop the spiralling out of control thoughts.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2017 7:43pm
A great thing to do if you're feeling suicidal is to call a hotline. You don't even have to call, as most of the hotlines you can text. I know this is the last thing you want to hear right now, but please tell someone. It can help you so much.
I know it's hard to open up to people when it comes to such a delicate matter, it isn't easy to just put ourselves and our feelings out there but in this case you must push yourself a little and do it, reach out for help, if you ever feel depressed, suicidal and overall like it's all too much to bear please don't be afraid to ask for help and tell someone how you're feeling, it won't be easy but it's necessary because you need and deserve to be helped and cared for, you won't be judged and you won't be in any sort of danger for doing so, you'll be saving yourself and it only shows how strong and willing you are to better yourself.
Anonymous
August 20th, 2017 8:16am
You should immediately go on counselling and contact the national suicide prevention society. Understand that you are not alone and you are the best :)
Anonymous
August 20th, 2017 9:57pm
Please reach out for help. I know that it can feel really scary to tell someone how you are feeling, but know that you are not alone in this. There are many people out there who care about you (pleny who don't even know you) who won't judge you for asking for help. Please call the suicide hotline at1800-273-8255, text the crisis hotline at 741741, call 911, take yourself to the emergency room, or at the least confide in someone you trust.I know that it can feel like a really huge step, but you are worth fighting for.
It's understandable that telling someone may feel scary or risky etc but in the end, your safety is important. In many cases, people with suicidal thoughts don't want to die but they are usually trying to escape a problem which is permanent or achieve joy. Regardless, telling someone will help massively with getting you the help you need. I suggest calling a hotline. I wish the best for you.
Reach out to a suicide hot line. Sometimes it is easier to talk to a stranger. If that is something you don't want to do then surround yourself with friends and people you love... Then imagine those people and what they would be like if you were not part of their life. Think of every person that you have talked to in life and imagine the emotions you would put them thru. Put yourself in their shoes at the moment they hear you are gone...
Contact your local wellbeing team for more support. If you need immediate response call the Samaritans. All professional conversations are confidential and will give you the support you need.
It is extremely important you tell somebody you are close to e.g. family, as your life is important.
If the "anyone" only includes people you personnaly know, I totally encourage you to call or text the Suicide Prevention Lifeline (https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/). You can also talk with people who can relate online (including here on 7 Cups), and learn how they cope with their urges. If you don't want to talk to anyone, including people you don't know about, you can find many coping tips and "confessions" from suicidal people on the internet without needing to talk, and learn a lot for yourself. I hope this helped! Please stay strong and take care of yourself!
Although it's tough, getting yourself back into the headspace of thinking rationally is very important. You don't want a permanent solution to a temporary problem, as cliche as that sounds. Keeping suicidal thoughts and feelings to yourself can be very difficult to cope with, which is why we're often encouraged to seek help when we feel this way. What I have personally found helpful is to create a 'toolbox' where you can keep some of the items that make you happy. These could include your favourite movie/tv show or book, a colouring in book, some playdough, old photos etc. Basically anything you can go to when you're feeling suicidal and need something to distract yourself with or lift your mood. Of course it's always safer to talk to someone you trust, but even learning how to talk back to the negative voices in your head using positive self talk such as "I deserve to live", "I'm worthy enough to get help so I don't feel this way" etc. can also be helpful. Keeping yourself safe is one of the biggest things you can do to help yourself when you don't want to tell someone your feeling suicidal.
TELL SOMEONE! That is ONE thing that should NOT stay a secret. If you are having suicidal thought, never keep it to yourself... ever.
You tell yourself all is well. Do not let your heart be troubled. Then write down why you want to suicide and ask yourself is this the solution. Then write down all the solutions you get and start by the easiest one.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2017 5:32pm
Sit down and try to think hard about why should you live and why should you give up. You will find that there are more reasons for you to live than to leave this cruel world. It's cruel but you are still kicking. Why waste your efforts now?
Anonymous
November 10th, 2017 6:49pm
Well firstly I think tell about this to the person whose most special for you..by spitting words such negative thoughts remain only in words not in actions.plus your loved ones have the right to know.you can't snatch it from them and consult a professional psychiatric..medical help is a boon . just lyk v go to doc for fever..plus think about your loved ones for once. U don't have the right to punish them
Don't force yourself to feel uncomfortable but it is a good idea to get it out to someone when you can. If you can't talk to someone in real life, speak to a hotline online or via the phone that will give you the help you need. Some of these can be anonymous.
Suicidal thoughts are dangerous, and all of us just want you be to safe, in the end.
I think you should continue doing the things you love, and think about all the positive aspects of your life!
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 12:02am
Just know that you mean a lot to a lot of people, I know it might not seem like it at the moment but I promise you it’s the truth
Anonymous
November 20th, 2017 11:46pm
If it's the fear of judgement, I believe this website is good because you're just someone online. Even if you do, for some reason, get judged, the next listener you find will most likely be kind enough to deal with it more professionally.
In case venting in general really isn't your thing, there are many ways to deal with it and what worked best for me is realizing that there will always be that someone who cares about you, even if you don't see it. You just have to think deep. I find that whenever I'm at the brink of suicide (which happened a few times), at that very last second, I realize that all those people in the background I never notice actually care. That motivation should be good enough to keep you going until you figure something out.
Tell someone!!! talking about this is the only way to work through it. lots of anonymous places you can speak to. no one judges, youre not alone, don't suffer ins scilence
From personal experience I whenever I am feeling that way and I don't want to tell anyone I try to just let all my thoughts run it's course. Also I vent writing in my journal or talking to a friend about a unrelated topic. Also I recommend this rule. Do not make any haste decisions while you are feeling suicidal. These are thoughts that don't need to turn to actions because you can't turn back. If you think you can't control yourself it is safe to tell someone. I rather you be safe than sorry. I know it's difficult but hold on.
Think about the people I care about, the ones who care about me the most, the ones I dont wanna make them suffer from my loss
Even though telling someone would be really helpful, I get, why it is hard to do so. Texting a crisis hotline would be good if you feel suicidal. There are a lot of resources out there, which don't require you to tell anyone in person. (e.g. 1-800-273-8255 or www.suicide.org)
Getting help for anything is scary, especially if you are having ideas of hurting yourself. Remind yourself that asking for help is a strength. Even coming on here and asking this question is a huge step in the right area. If you don't feel like talking to anyone you know right now, please try calling your suicide hotline or try calling your local emergency services. They may be able to provide you with professionals who are trained in that area of expertist. You can also chat with trained crisis professionals free on imalive.org
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 9:55pm
Call the suicide help line imediately. Your conversations are confidential and anonymous and they are professionals who can help you.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 4:03am
It is important to tell people about these feelings, maybe think of all the blessings in your life. Also try to do things for others like compliment people, do volunteer work! Anything so you're not stuck thinking about yourself!
it is highly recommended to contact to suicide hotline or find a therapist, the conversation is gonna stay between you two if the therapist is professional. because that is a big problem specially when people around you are oblivious to your situation, please try to do something about it, do not give up on yourself so easily. Every kind of pain, every problem has a solution even if you cannot see it right now.
If you or someone you know is feeling suicidal but doesnt want to teel anyone,. you should go to your national suicide helpline's website. There, you will be able to find out some anonymous' support and other tools like therapists and other forms of contact besides calls.
I would immediately contact suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or www.suicide.org and please get help from a trained therapist and know that people do care about you!
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