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How to talk to a therapist without your parents knowing?

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Last Updated: 06/04/2022 at 5:56pm
How to talk to a therapist without your parents knowing?
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peacefulFreedom82
February 6th, 2020 4:34pm
Depending upon your age, you are entitled to some level of confidentiality. If you are a minor (under 18), you will likely need parental consent because the therapist will legally need consent to treat you. If you are over 18, you do not need parental consent, and your information should remain confidential -- unless there is a risk of harm to yourself or someone else. I'm not sure why you would not want your parents to know you are talking to a therapist, but if you feel like it is important enough to talk with a therapist, it might be worth talking to your parents also about getting that treatment.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2020 7:40pm
In most countries, you have rights to confidentiality when it comes to your health. This includes children and young people! The best thing to do would be to ask your GP practice for their advice. They will be able to tell you about the laws surrounding this in your country. They may also be able to refer you to online therapy or therapy over-the-phone. Depending on where you are from, you may also be able to access a service called KOOTH, which provides free, safe, online and confidential sessions with trained therapists. There is also an amazing app called MindShift which is a mental health app based on cognitive behavioural therapy.
Anonymous
September 24th, 2020 9:45am
Dealing with mental health issues on your own can be a major challenge. Getting help is an important part of most people’s recovery. But when you’re under 18, it can be hard to know where to turn—especially if you don’t want your family to know. The first treatments for mental illness that most people think of are therapy and medication. These are medical treatments that require working with a professional. They can be hard to access because you may not be old enough to consent to treatment, or in the United States, mental health treatment costs a lot of money, or if you use your parents’ health insurance, they may know you received treatment. What options are available to me? 1- You can start by learning more about mental health. 2- Find support online. 3- Look for alternatives to professional therapy like school counselor. 4- Try some self-care.
Anonymous
October 2nd, 2020 2:20am
It is always much better to take your parents as your biggest support. But it is true some parents do not care. If you have the financial capabilities, then you can find a therapist near your place or look for one online. At 7Cups, you can talk to us for free, though most of us are not professionals. But we have a basic idea. We will try to help you as much as is within our capabilities. Maybe look for a therapist that you can visit in secrecy a few times in a month. Otherwise, you can set up sessions with professionals online. Hope my answer helps you.
thxnusha17
October 8th, 2020 6:30am
You can try talking to the licensed therapists on this website as your parents don't need to know about it in order to access that feature or you could try and talk to the listeners on this website for free you dont need parent consent for that either or there are a lot of other online free therapy options. I hope you know that you are not alone and people will always be willing to help you, you can get through this don't give up :) Stay positive and I Hope this helped you.
frostyIris5554
October 11th, 2020 9:51pm
If you are a minor you will need parental consent, however maybe talking to your parents will give them a better understanding of what you're going through and maybe they will consider putting you in therapy. Even if your parents disagree on putting you in therapy you will always have 7 cups as an anonymous teen to teen or adult to teen safe space that you can always come to for support of if you need someone to talk to. it gets better always remember that. have a very nice and wonder day good luck to you :)
Enbyowl
October 30th, 2020 2:45pm
That’s tough. There are some therapists who will take minors without parental consent once you have reached a certain age. In the US, there are different laws about what age a minor can get therapy or medical treatment without parental consent. I am not sure about the rest of the world. Maybe check the laws in your area to see if it’s possible. You will also have to have some way to pay the therapist. And you will need a way to get to therapy without them knowing. It’s hard to do. It would be easier to tell your parents and ask for therapy but I also understand if they don’t approve of therapy you might need to find that way to get therapy without them knowing.
caringCreature2051
November 5th, 2020 5:20pm
It's the best if you do tell your parents and if you can't because of whatsoever reason sneak out, that's the only way. They also have therapists come to school in some countries so you can even do that if the service is available in your country. And if you don't wanna sneak out, today a lot of help is available online. And results have proven online therapy can be just as effective as in person therapy if done correctly. 7 cups itself is an example of that. But I will still say it's best if you let your parents know about this. Try to explain it to them at least once. But if you don't want to tell them because they aren't cooperative or something like that. You don't share a good bond. Their can be a lot of reasons then the two options I have mentioned before are the best. Hope it was helpful.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2020 10:57pm
I used a free website to talk to a therapist. It helped me a lot because I was afraid to tell my parents I needed help. My therapist helped me tell them how I was feeling and they were able to get me the help I needed. It felt amazing to tell them how I felt and I wouldn’t have done it without the therapist I found. I never realized how much support I had until my therapist showed me. I am very thankful for everything she did for me. My eyes were opened to a whole new light I never knew was there.
XxFlowingRiver
November 17th, 2020 12:04pm
Therapists generally always have a confidentiality policy in this is usually included the fact that they will not tell anyone unless they believe you are in danger. Depending on your age and where you are you will be able to seek a therapist without your parents knowing. I recommend searching for some local ones there are sometimes therapists who specialise in teens. Find a therapist you like and ask if they will take you on. Its understandable you don't want your parents to know and you deserve privacy when discussing what's on your mind especially if it may involve them or upset them.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2021 11:39pm
If you can afford it with your money, make an appointment when they are not home. Or say you are going out with gf or bf, or just friend and go to the therapy. Also, during this pandemic many therapist offer online therapy via skype, zoom etc. maybe you should give it a try? But if you don't have money for it, I think it would be the best to honestly talk with them and tell that you think you need therapy. If you don't feel like talking about it just say you will talk with them after it. Quid pro quo. I don't think that you should go and find a job to afford it yourself, it will just delay your problems especially now when you decided to go and find help. But if financial situation of you and your family cannot support your needs, and you cannot ask anyone to lend you some money, you will need to work few weeks :)
Anonymous
January 24th, 2021 5:45am
Seek help through your school guidance counselor. There are many resources in the community to assist, where you can anonymously talk with someone. Boys Town crisis helpline is a great resource and they can also provide additional resources. Ask your therapist not to communicate to parents for patient confidentiality purposes. It's okay to seek therapy without other people knowing including your parents. Therapy is life changing for so many and beneficial to mental health. Don't tell your parents, only telling others you feel comfortable doing so with. Utilize after school programs, school counselors.
youxarexloved
February 7th, 2021 3:10am
If you are under 18 it is really hard to go to therapy without your parents knowing because they need your consent. However, many schools have counselors who you can talk to without the parents knowing. Alternatively, the therapist can talk to your parents at the beginning to try and convince them that this is what is best for you. When I went to therapy as a minor, my mom initially consented but did not know how often I went or what I spoke about in therapy. Therapists should not tell your parents what you speak about in therapy unless you are at risk or there is an instance of child abuse.
IzzieBelle
March 4th, 2021 3:18am
There is an online therapist resource available here through 7cups (https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/?ob=1) but there is also a range of other options that can be more private and easier to access without your parents knowing: phone hotlines, text therapy, etc. A quick google search for "mental health hotline" or "text therapy" will show results in your area. Please just remember: If you are not talking on a private site with a registered therapist, protect your private information. Don’t offer your physical address or offer other details that may compromise your safety. Although the majority of people online are safe, there are some who would take advantage of vulnerable people. Practice proper online safety to protect yourself.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2021 4:29pm
In most places, there is a certain age where you can see a therapist without knowledge or consent from an adult. I was able, at 17, to see a therapist for my depression without consent or knowledge from either of my parents. My advice would be to check your local laws and, if you find out you can, reach out to a therapist and tell them that you would like help without consent from an adult. It can be really nerve-wracking to reach out in this manner but most therapists understand and are more than happy to help you out.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2021 3:36am
It can be hard to reach out to a therapist especially if you are not comfortable talking about it with your parents. There are websites and phone numbers available online for individuals to find therapists. There are even resources here on 7cups that you can use to find a therapist. either a therapist with 7cups themselves or to get a referral to someone else. Legally, a therapist is not allowed to share any of your information with anyone, including your parents, without permission. Therapy should be a tool for you to use without hesitation. Even if your parents are supportive, sometimes it is easier to talk with someone else.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2021 12:11am
Look for alternatives to professional therapy. You can make an appointment with your school counselor. Or talk to any adult you trust, like a teacher, school nurse, or coach. Just remember that if you tell these people that you are being abused or that you are making plans to commit suicide, they may be required by law to pass that information on to authorities. Try some self-care. There are lots of things you can do on your own to improve your mental health. Simple things like writing in a journal or spending more time outside can help you feel better. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Spend time with friends and other people you trust. Learn to pay attention to your thoughts—try to reframe your negative thoughts and learn to see yourself more positively. It’s easier said than done, but even just making the attempt can help you start to feel better.
sweetPudding01
November 14th, 2021 3:50am
As a teen, I've actually wondered the same exact thing. Talking to your parents about your mental health can be frightening, especially if you're uncertain about how they'll react. One option is to talk to school guidance counselors if possible because they are typically qualified to give mental health support to students. If they can't help you with therapy, they can usually refer you to professionals who can. In certain states/countries, minors are allowed to consult a therapist under very specific conditions without their parents knowing, but it may cost money, which makes it difficult. Therefore, it is a lot easier to talk to a therapist with parental permission and financial support. Personally, I was afraid at first to tell my parents that I wanted a therapist, so I relied on 7 cups and guidance counselors to provide support until I was ready to tell my parents. However, you are the expert on you so the choice is yours as it really differs from person to person! I hope things will work out for you, and please feel free to reach out if you need anything else or more resources from 7 cups to aid in making your decision!
MulberryTree
March 5th, 2022 11:26pm
Therapists are bound by an ethical code to keep everything you say confidential unless you are of harm to yourself or others. Seeking a therapist can often be the most difficult part, however if you go it on your own, this can be the easiest way to make sure that your decisions are your own and that those you don't want to find out you're going won't. Anything that you say in therapy too will be kept private between you and your therapist and they cannot tell your parents or anybody around you that you're there or what you're telling them. The only time they are ever allowed to break confidentiality is when you are expressing that you are of immediate harm to yourself or someone else, and in that case, they have a duty to warn.
Avishi07
March 17th, 2022 10:27am
Well, there are many online therapists that can help you. And even this platform, 7 cups, have pretty good listeners who can talk and solve your issues just like a therapist. Otherwise, if you feel like you need professional therapists, then you should search online for it. But I will suggest you to first try talking to people here. Because therapists are pretty professional and a big deal. Here, you can meet people who have been through it and can solve your problem with experience. Do try it here! Stay happy and don't stress so much! And if you feel, then you may talk to me too.
mrswankypants
April 15th, 2022 3:00am
You can talk to a therapist without your parents knowing. Sometimes, a therapist can be accessible at school. If you do not feel like you can approach your teacher(s), approach a different teacher. I feel most teachers are trust worthy, as they dedicate their life to working with students. If school is not an option, there are therapists available via phone and online (here!). Do not trust everyone you talk to, but if you have someone you can trust, they may be able to connect you to an adult who can help. Getting a therapist connection can also be found at local hospitals, however, this may be specific to Canadians.
naturalhelper6843
April 27th, 2022 1:40pm
Before I answer this I must say that if you need help you should not hide it from them, they should be able to help. But if for some reason you do not want them to know, there are paths that can be taken. The first step is finding one, this can be hard depending on where you live, and whether or not the therapist requires that your parents know (but this is uncommon). Because of doctor patient privilege-confidentiality-they will not be able to tell anybody about what is said-unless the therapist determines that there is a serious and imminent threat of a patient physically harming self or others-so they can not tell anybody. The next step is finding the best time, you need to have a time that will not alert your parents that something is wrong.
musicalOcean9156
May 19th, 2022 2:54am
Unfortunately, in many states you need consent from your parents for therapy if you are a minor. However, what you discuss with your therapist will be confidential unless you bring up self harm or suicidal thoughts/ideation. You can maybe try talking to your school guidance counselor if you don't want your parents finding out? However, therapy can be extremely helpful so I highly recommend talking to your parents or a trusted adult who can help you figure out a way to get the help you rightfully deserve. It can be scary opening up about your mental health with your parents. But taking the first step to reach out for help can be highly beneficial!
MarwaneB
June 4th, 2022 5:56pm
If you are a minor and attending school, the best way is to talk to a school counselor. If you are a minor and not attending school, you can check the local laws about minors seeking therapy. However, in case you need urgent help, go immediately to the nearest hospital. You know you need immediate help when you have a problem that can't wait, when you don't feel safe or you're feeling that your emotions got heavier than usual, when you're having ideas about harming yourself or someone else, and when you experienced something traumatic, such as a sexual assault, bullying or being present in a violent scene. If you are an adult, you can talk to a therapist freely without letting your parents know. Keep in mind however that having people around you for help is primordial, and that you need to inform someone you trust about your situation.