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Anonymous
November 5th, 2016 4:35pm
You can talk to the person you cheated or lied to about it and coming out or writing it down usually helps
Forgiving yourself is a natural occurrence which will happen in time as you learn and blossom more and more as an individual, you will be more gentle with yourself and others as your grow to learn that everybody does things, we are human and after our actions or during we then progress feelings in our actions either in the present or future and we tend to reflect on them.
just like as we may reflect on past hurts or feelings We learn from those and become stronger. There is no right or wrong everything we do is human, be gentle with yourself. :)
I believe it is hard to forgive yourself for some things. However, if it comes to cheating for example, you can only really start to forgive yourself once you've been honest with the person that you've cheated on. I Believe, you need to admit your errors, figure out how to avoid such problem happening again, and work on being forgiven. Often you will be forgiven by your partner if you demonstrate you are working on yourself and take the issue seriously. At the end of the day, you know if you are bettering yourself. when that time comes, the time to forgive yourself will come aswell. it is important to be honest with yourself. if you know (really know) you have learnt from your mistakes, and you are taking your mistake seriously, then you are on the right path. don't give up hope
Recognize that we are all human and we all occasionally do things we otherwise wouldn't do. The important thing is to learn from mistakes and move forward to be the best version of ourselves as possible. Part of being human is making mistakes and we can only make the best effort to not make the same mistakes over and over. Don't beat yourself up about it.
Always remember you're only human, and humans make mistakes. There's no one in the world who hasn't made it through without mistakes. You're only getting better with every mistake you make. You repent and that's what makes you a person of great morals, forgive yourself. You're only human.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 6:01am
After making this mistake you should choose the best way to resolve the issue. I believe someone's poor decisions don't define who they are. It's how you move on after these decisions. I always admit when I am wrong and try to resolve the issue from there. It's hard, but you realize why this was bad and can now move on. I think that would then lead to forgiveness.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2017 2:06am
Letting yourself know that it is okay and we all make mistakes. You can't go back in time and change things no matter how much you would like to. It's okay. Things happen. Just look at is as a growing experience rather than a negative one.
Lying and cheating are big moral no-no's for me; so to do either one is in a sense unforgivable. Having been in a variety of situations, I have come to learn that forgiveness is necessary if one is to maintain some semblance of sanity because the truth is, we all mess up. Have I lied before? Yes, and have felt horrible about. Confessed and asked for forgiveness too! I accepted the forgiveness from the individual but not from myself. As you can imagine, this only caused guilt and shame--two unwanted guests. I learned that in order to get rid of these "guests", I had to invite love and forgiveness in. And even though it may not feel good, you go forward with " I am forgiven" or "I have forgiven myself" and you remind yourself of that every time your mind plays back the deed to you. Sooner or later (but hopefully sooner), you will begin to believe that you are forgiven of the lying and/or cheating that you have committed. It is not an easy task, but it is doable.
Just accept the fact!!! That's the big step in forgiving... Accept that you done mistake and take responsibility!!!
Anonymous
January 29th, 2017 10:03pm
Sometimes we hold ourselves to a standard that makes it very hard to forgive ourselves. In that sense, think of how you would forgive someone in a situation that you find yourself in. Forgive yourself, acknowledge your actions and know that those two steps make it possible to move on.
Honestly, the right thing to do (despite it not being the easiest) is to tell the person who you lied to the honest truth. You'll feel so much better if you do that.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2017 9:12pm
Acknowledging or accepting what you did is wrong is the first step to forgiving yourself. The second is becoming a better version of yourself and making sure to not repeat the same mistakes. Doing this is better than regretting what you did. This is what I've learned.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2017 5:22pm
Everyone messes up. Me, you, everybody. It’s important to acknowledge mistakes, feel appropriate remorse and learn from them so they don’t happen again. Acknowledge what you have already done to learn from this experience. Seeing faults clearly, taking responsibility for them, and making amends will then allow you to become at peace about them and forgiving yourself.
Forgiveness it's a difficult thing to do, even more when you're trying to forgive yourself. But you have to understand that everyone makes mistakes, and the important thing is to recognise that you made it. It can be a long way, for sure, but it isn't impossible.
It is not your own fault for loving more than two people in your life it is very hard to think that leaving both of your lovers but staying with another than to stay with both. If you lie then you have to stay honest, and tell him why you lied
Its rightly said that forgiveness comes only from within. Best you can do is not repeat the mistake.
Forgiving yourself isn't easy. However, if you set goals and plan to change and rearrange your habits, you will be happy with yourself. This will cause for a positive habit change.
In order to forgive oneself for cheating or lying, one has to understand the underlying triggers that caused themselves to behave in a manner that they didn't think was correct , as well as handle the quilt they are experiencing due to these actions.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2017 5:20pm
I forgive myself by knowing that I've done everything I can to apologise and try to fix the situation and that I'm not a bad person because I've tried to make up for what I did.
This is a very difficult task. The first thing to do is seek forgiveness from the other person. Whether they do or not should not decide whether you forgive yourself but it is part of the process. For myself, I focus on the future for this. Your past is very important, as long as you learn from it. We all make mistakes, we aren't perfect, but we can learn from our mistakes and not make them again. Mistakes turn you into the person you are, don't let them consume you and never leave, better yourself by overcoming them and not doing them in the future.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2017 2:48pm
It's not easy to ever forgive yourself for doing things like that, but all you can do is apologize to that person and you learn from your mistakes. Make sure you see how things went wrong and why you did what you did and avoid ever doing that again. Remember don't do things you wouldn't want someone doing to you.
Well, firstly you should try to understand that what you did was inherently wrong and is not an act that should be repeated.
The best way to forgive yourself for doing something like that could be simply owning up to someone about it.
What's done is done and you cannot reverse it. But you can understand that it wasn't something that you should be doing and make a solemn promise to yourself to abstain from it from now on.
Remember that all people make mistakes and don't feel too guilty or loose sleep over it.
Honestly, just give yourself another chance to prove yourself.
Work hard for something and then get the happiness which accompanies it rather than the guilt of cheating or lying.
We are humans and we do commit mistakes. The realisation of your mistakes for cheating or lying is one thing that makes us a better person. We should forgive ourselves for the betterment of us and not keep blaming ourselves. Its life. Learn to accept your faults and move on learning from them. This is how we grow.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2017 3:17am
Remind yourself that what you did was wrong and that you learned from it to be a better person. You're human, everyone makes mistakes. You grown from this experience and become a better person.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2017 7:54pm
Learn from this mistake and promise yourself to not do this again. I know it's hard but surely you would let go of this thoughts and continue on with your life. It will pass.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2017 4:36pm
We are all human, no one is perfect. Therefore we will do things like cheating and lying. We can forgive ourselves by realizing that we do this and we are not evil or vicious... but maybe we have a reason for doing it
We all make mistakes. Sometimes when you lie or cheat, you just have to accept the fact that you made a mistake, and you are not the only one who feels this way. sometimes its okay to confess your mistake, and it will take a lot of weight off your shoulders. try not to be so hard on yourself.
Attraction and curiosity are basic human emotions and feelings. Mistakes are natural, everyone makes them. Taking these things into account, if you cheated while in a relationship or lied about something to a loved one, living and learning is the most important thing to remember. Everyone can make mistakes and feel bad about them. But when you think about how you can learn from the mistakes and teach yourself techniques with self control it can make for betterness in the future.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2017 4:09pm
Ask for forgiveness from the person you have cheated or lied too. It might help you forgive yourself.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2017 8:05pm
Looking at myself in the mirror and tell myself about all the good things I've done that I can be proud of instead, and rather than thinking about what I have done wrong.
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