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If you are affected by depression fallout, there are some things that you can do to keep it together until professional help arrives and treatment takes effect.
In all likelihood, the most difficult step will be to overcome the depressed partner’s denial and to get them to seek professional help and treatment. Depression is a curious disease in that the sufferer’s denial of its existence constitutes one of its symptoms. A long journey still awaits once this hurdle has been overtaken, but at least you two have taken the first strides.
While you must not make it your responsibility “to fix your partnerâ€â€”as the old adage goes, they can only “fix themselvesâ€â€”there are still ways in which you can support your depressed partner’s treatment: Familiarize yourself with the disease and its symptoms. By doing this, you can try to understand not only what your depressed partner is going through, but also your own reactions and emotions. If needed, assist with scheduling therapy appointments. Because the disease impacts your entire family, the therapist may want you to come along for a few sessions. Check in with your partner to see whether they keep up with their medications. Ensure that they eat foods and take vitamins and supplements (as approved by their doctor and/or therapist) that support depression treatment.
You need to set boundaries. Talk to your depressed partner about which behaviors you will not tolerate—for example, giving you the silent treatment for days on end, or disrespectful communication with you and/or your children. In the worst-case scenario, you may need to set a boundary or deadline for yourself to decide when to pull the plug on the relationship. Yes, this is a difficult and sad decision, and one that ended a chapter in my life-story, too… As my own therapist at that point reassured over and over, there is no need to feel guilty about such a decision because no one—especially not children—deserves to suffer under the depression of a partner who refuses to seek treatment.
As difficult as it may be, pay attention to your own well-being. Find ways to replenish the physical and mental strength you need to keep going. For some people, this could mean attending to your own nutritional needs, getting enough sleep or making time for activities you enjoy, and carving out stress-free time with your family.
Create a support network of people you trust. This may be adult family members, friends, a therapist of your own, support groups, and mental health organizations.[2] Remember that there are millions of depression fallout sufferers who saw their partners regain their health and managed to rekindle the love that brought them together in the first place, or found the courage to move forward with their own lives.
Anonymous
May 28th, 2017 10:21am
Acknowledge this is just temporary feeling, know that it is going to get better eventually. Don't forget that you are stronger than that and go exercise, move a little bit, do something that makes you usually feel good and remember it is okay, it is how your mind works and sometimes it will happen, just keep fighting. Do not give in!
Anonymous
February 6th, 2020 6:14pm
Just go with it at first ...but then keep telling yourself you can do better and you can get better, it's not an easy thing to do but it usually always helps me,but I also receive a lot of support from my best friend ,Wich makes it easier. You have to keep in mind what is important for you ...why it's worth fighting depression...for some people it's the family...for some people it's the partner ,maybe a pet(my dog helped me a lot).also they say exercising twice a week can help you get rid of depression so worth a try
The way to deal with depression fallout, would be discussing with your partner about how you are feeling. Then try to come up with a compromise on how to handle your problems effectively. For example if you're partner is feeling unmotivated maybe try and do something that makes them happy like getting them their favorite drink. Another approach to this,could be letting your partner vent to you or forcing yourself to vent to your partner when you are feeling "numb". There is many approaches to this topic you could also try to do some research on this topic and find
your own ways you could possibly help yourself and your partner in coping with the harshness of depression. Remember its truly up to you to decide what is the right choice when you face a problem.
Aim for at least 15 minutes of sunlight a day to boost your mood. If you live somewhere with little winter sunshine, try using a light therapy box. Practice relaxation techniques. A daily relaxation practice can help relieve symptoms of depression, reduce stress, and boost feelings of joy and well-being.
Empty your mind. Our depression can often lead us to overthinking about we haven't done or what we "should" be doing during these low-times. Remind yourself: it's okay. Relax, take your time, and try to calm yourself by doing what's best for you and makes you the happiest, even if it's not working at it's usual percentage at that time. Your mental illness is as serious as any physical illness: you wouldn't push yourself out of bed with a fever, would you?
Treat yourself as you would on any other sick day. Take time for you. Rest up. Do what you can to make yourself feel better, and try your best not to worry too much. There are always people around to help you in your time of need.
What keeps you going? Think about it. What is your main focus when you wake up in the morning-- is it saying good morning to the first person you see? is it school? a favorite teacher? a close friend? a co worker you enjoy? hell, your fur babies?? You are blessed and unique and you need to remember that every day the sun will rise and so will you. You are only as happy as you allow yourself to be.
Sometimes the best thing to do is relax and take care of yourself. This may include taking some time off work (if able to). It may involve meditation, going on walks, spending time with family or reading a book. Some people like to have some alone time which is completely fine too. I think it is important to have a balance of alone time and time spent with others. It is hard to move forward if you isolate yourself. Getting support from friends and family can be of tremendous help during difficult times. Fun activities that may ease the mind could be baking, swimming, or any kind of exercise.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 1:35pm
Get up and start moving, call someone, do anything to get out of yourself and depending on severity seek professional help.
keep yourself busy don't stand still, of do things you like or things that don't take to much thinking.
Anonymous
September 16th, 2016 8:37pm
Music, Gaming, and Drawing has been my way of cooping with depression, I have resorted to more aggressive actions in the past but tried my best to stop them.
Living your own life is the most important thing. Being there for others and giving them the time and support to heal will allow you to heal as well.
Anonymous
September 7th, 2016 5:38am
talk to a listener in this site if he can't handle or have a similar situation the listener will refer you to a therapist or another listener.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 9:11am
Hang out with people that make you happy to keep your mind off of whatever is bringing you down in your life
When I get depressed, my best bet is to do something that requires all of my focus! Playing a video-game, or going for a drive with my best friend always seems to be the cure!
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 10:43pm
Talking with someone that you trust and telling someone how you feel helps. In this we can find people that better understand us and accept us.
The best way to deal with that is to talk to close friends and family if that doesn't work try writing down everything that hurts you and then rip it up
Begin with something small perhaps.... like writing down all of your feelings and then throwing away or burning the paper you wrote it on. We all need a little release sometimes.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2017 6:40pm
You need medical help
You need to understand its just like feevr..so it's ok..you will take medical help and u will be fine. Okus you need to be strong..to recognize the good points of life
Focusing on the good, positive aspects of your life while monitoring your thoughts for unreasonable, pessimistic thinking and then reasoning with yourself. In a way confronting yourself in a kind way, have a conversation with yourself :) of coarse don't forget to seek help and support, everyone deserves that.
Stay as strong as you can, talk to your close friends and family and come up with an agreement to help you as much as possible. We care about you too! You're always wanted here too
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 10:33pm
Try some sports,hang out with friends, do some activities, try to spend your time useful and not on boring stuff
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 12:58am
Depression could be a very difficult emotion to deal with.
Begin with these few steps:
Letting go of what's hurting you
Remain positive
Practice alone time
Read a book
Do something you like
Only you can control this type of feeling get out,get up and let go.
This is a hard one. I think communicating openly, honestly and properly is crucial so that both parties know what is going on. Talk about what sort of patterns you tend to fall into before a fight or disagreement begins so that there is a safe environment for that to happen. Seeking therapy if possible is also a great idea because it usually helps to have a professional opinion on ways to deal with different things.
If the situation has gone very sour then I would suggest giving both parties time before trying to re-approach them with a conversation of what is actually going on.
I hope this helps.
Sometimes, when depression fallouts attack, you gotta think small. Baby steps. Try to talk with one of your friends from the fluffy pilllow (safe network). and try to deal things like they are a check list. However, if you need, reach for medical help.
Talk yourself up. Ex. I'm not stupid. I'm allowed to make mistakes. I have so much to thankful for (go ahead and say them out). I'll make it because every success story has the not-so-good times. It is important to SAY these OUT LOUD.
Or Chat with someone you know(don't know)...Flirtingly. This also helps loneliness.
OR help someone else by giving to them or praying for them sincerely.
Then speaking in tongues helps. For those who believe in Jesus and The Holy Spirit.
It must be really hard for you but trust me everything will be okay soon.Do things that make you happy,try to sleep and eat well and try to talk to someone about this problem.If you feel things are getting really out of control visit a psychologist or a psychiatrist.Take care of yourself.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 12:52pm
Find comfort in the things you enjoy or used to enjoy. Talk to someone about it, because keeping it bottled up can do more harm than good.
Change the attitude to everyday affairs and responsibilities.
Postpone serious decisions until better times come.
Avoid stressful situations.
More communication with people.
Do what really gives you pleasure.
Avoid idleness.
try to do what you enjoy doing. stay close to your family and if you are suicidal get help! do you remember the last time you were faced with a crisis and you thought you werent gonna make it? well, you did! and you can do it again!
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