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How do I stop being judgemental?

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Caringheart23
March 14th, 2018 9:10pm
Try to remind yourself that you don't know what the person in front of you've been through. Everyone has their own story and own struggles. That always works for me. But it's not easy and takes time. The most important thing is to never stop trying ;)
Molot3140
March 14th, 2018 6:40pm
I don't think there's a way to stop judging people... However, there is a righteous way to judge people rather than to just judge someone. A righteous way to judge someone would be to look at their good works and positive side rather than to look at the deficiencies that a person has. As a wise man once said "all those who look for the beauty of a rose, shall surely find it. But those who look at the imperfections thereof will surely point out the thorns."
happyPineapple0943
April 15th, 2018 4:43pm
In my experience, the best way to tame a judgemental mindset or attitude is to habitualize empathetic thinking. Put yourself in the shoes of whoever you may be judging and take a moment to appreciate that they have a life as unique and complex as your own and that you never know what may be going on with someone that might be causing or contributing to whatever you may be judging them for.
izaya
April 20th, 2018 10:36pm
Embrace the ideology that everyone and everything around you is made of different components, and while there are similarities, there are differences. You cannot change the universe around you, but you can change yourself. In order to have a grip over your judgement, you must accept this and admire what's before you for what it is, not what you want it to be.
positiveForever73
April 25th, 2018 3:22am
Treat others the way you wish to be treated. Really is the golden rule here. Sometimes that seems silly. But to me that truly is the best advice.
exsamaritan80
April 25th, 2018 3:10pm
Look at people as trees. Tree's are all different shapes and sizes and this is through aspects they have no control of. The amount of light they receive is not in there control so, like humans, we all receive different light which defines who we are.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2018 9:17am
Not to judge is sometimes hard for some people. And to answer to your question I would say to stay open-minded and exposed yourself to new things and learn to see things in different perspectives.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 12:26am
I am still struggling with being judgemental as much as, I am trying to accept that life does not come with an instruction manual. We are human and nobody is perfect. Learning to say that it is okay to make errors is all part of growing as we adapt to a lifestyle that no matter what we do is never going to satisfy anyone but our own selves.
specialear
May 3rd, 2018 4:08pm
Before you judge, ask yourself, would I want someone to say this about me? If the answer is no, then you should not judge.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2018 5:45pm
This question is a little bit hard because as human being its out tendency to judge. But to stop being judgemental you have to try to step into the shoes or let's say imagine yourself in their situation to have a better understanding of what they are going through. Those shoes may not for you though.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 6:38pm
as Soon as you go to make a judgment on something/someone try to stop yourself and train your brain to give things a chance, maybe see if there is a trigger, if there is try working on it...good luck!!
friendlySoul49
May 5th, 2018 2:07am
Put yourself into the shows of your judgement target and when you are able to see things through their eyes you will be unable to judge them.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2018 2:11am
Remind yourself that everyone is human,no one is perfect and might be going through hardships that you don’t know about. They can’t change who they are.
Engineeringhappiness
March 9th, 2018 3:49am
start thinking of the positive side of things. think of how important people are to you and how you can help them
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 3:07am
I think we all judge one way or the other. Its normal to make judgement in everyday life. However, I believe we should always re-evaluate our judgements and look at thing from different point of view before we act
SolidusYen1993
February 25th, 2018 6:47am
It is HARD to not be judgemental in general. I mean, we are all humans and inherently judgemental by nature. But it does help to keep an objective mindset before jumping the gun and assuming anything about a situation or a person, etc. It helps to keep an open mind because in reality you have no idea if these judgements will affect the person. I will go as far as to reference telltale games and confirm to you all that "silence is a valid option" indeed.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 6:20am
Try to place yourself in the shoes of those you judge. How would you feel being judged? As long as you keep trying you are doing a great job. Try to recollect moments you've judged and been wrong. To try and convince yourself that it's not a helpful attribute. Good luck!! Xx
wonderousApple40
June 20th, 2018 12:22am
Understand that everyone is different, and just because something is different from 'your way', that doesn't make it wrong.
phosphenerelief
June 17th, 2018 5:26pm
To have opinions, thoughts and preconceptions about people is human nature - your schemas that your previous direction or media based experience will make an assumption whether you consciously intend to or not. But what you need to do it imagine people complexly, and not take your existing template as the truth. Be optimistic, get to know people and show them the same kindness that you hope people would show you.
MissesOliver
February 22nd, 2018 8:54am
I've always heard you are not accountable for the first thought that pops into your head, but the second is what you choose to think. Try stopping and thinking about other's situations before judging them.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2018 10:00pm
There is something called the fundamental attribution error (FAE) which says that people in general interpret behavior as due to personality or other internal factors more so than external factors like situation. So a person does something, like yells at a waiter. You can either attribute that to internal factors (the person is rude, the person is not nice, etc) or external factors (maybe the person had a bad day, maybe they got no sleep and is stressed, etc). We have a tendency to assume the first rather than the second. But often time, there are external factors too. So, think about that before you judge someone.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2018 10:52pm
What are you most judgemental about? Only you can determine what is too judgemental. While sometimes being judgemental can be a bad thing it can also help you do it is up to you whether being judgemental can help you or hurt you.
SunOfMyLife
February 23rd, 2018 3:05pm
Every day, compliment somebody on something. Even if it is outrageous or silly. It will help open yourself up to people.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 8:38pm
Step in the shoes of the person you are judgemental about. Think about how they feel like and think about how to handle the situation differently.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2018 2:00pm
It is normal to judge others because its an evolutionary advantage. You just need to keep in mind that everyone has flaws
BronyDice
May 24th, 2018 3:03pm
If you take a moment to stop and think of what a person COULD be going through, it might help you be less judgemental. Even better, you can ask them what's going on in their life or why they behave in certain ways, that way you'll know, rather than assume and judge. Everyone has a different set of circumstances. Understanding those can help you understand why they behave (or look) the way they do.
patientBraid77
May 30th, 2018 10:46am
There's no formula but try to be openminded and more aware of what you say and do around people. Even better if you can do the opposite and judgemental and be interested in what people are saying to you. If you're struggling with this issue know that it's common and you can talk to me or another listener anytime :)
mthilliard
February 28th, 2018 4:16pm
Be able to express empathy to people beyond your immediate family/close friends. There's a word to keep in mind that may help. "sonder n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk." Everyone has their own problems that they hide from the world, but it's difficult to use that idea in real life situations to try to understand people. It takes practice like anything else.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2018 6:28am
First off, kudos to you for wanting to work on this part of yourself. Being more accepting of others is a great thing, and something we need more of today. Maybe you could try some things when you catch yourself being judgmental, such as putting yourself in the other person's shoes, or trying to look at their situation or whatever it may be from a different perspective.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2018 11:28pm
Surround yourself with people from different backgrounds to avoid being judgemental. talk to someone with an open mind.