How do I help explain to a parent that what I feel is valid after they reacted badly?

My father does this to me, and I recommend you sit down with them and have a serious talk. Tell them seriously how what they're doing makes you feel, and they should listen to you

Sometimes it's difficult to talk to your parents, but if they won't listen, try writing everything down and giving it to them to read. You can also type it too. I found this extremely helpful.

Maybe you didn’t explain well so ask about why their reaction was bad and try to explain how you feel again.

Tell them that you respect what they just said ( even if you don't ) but you still feel the way you feel and nothing is going to change that. Tell them that you hope from the bottom of your heart that they will love you even if they don't agree with you. xx good luck

My go to format was "I'm sorry this (whatever they reacted badly to) has upset you but I'm still allowed to feel what I feel even if you don't agree with my emotions, my reasons or their causes and logic. I'm not asking you to understand it, I am asking you to accept it." As a teenager and young adult there were many times the older adults didn't understand and over reacted because of it, so I found that starting with saying i just needed the acceptance of my emotions and not understanding that seemee to help. Most people try to beat around and explain the situation so people can understand when for validation it can help to start with accepting that you feel a certain way and saying that you don't expect them to understand immediately, but never leaving out that eventually they might understand. Words in the moment are very important.

People who do a good job of managing emotions know that it's healthy to express their feelings — but that it matters how (and when) they express them. Because of this, they're able to react to situations in productive ways: They know they can choose the way they react instead of letting emotions influence them to do or say things they later regret. They have a sense of when it's best to speak out — and when it's better to wait before acting on, or reacting to, what they feel. They know that their reaction influences what happens next — including how other people respond to them and the way they feel about themselves.

Parents are the reason we are able to have feelings, and they sacrificed more than words could say, but they are human and so are you. Everyone should feel their worth and sometimes, we dont always hear what we say and other times it will seem to come across as hurtful but how its said and how its received can often be misunderstood. As you approach your parent(s), always try to come with gentleness and love, no matter how much they messed up, adding fuel to the fire won't mend your hurt and will only become a bigger wall. We all feel and sometimes in order to show someone your pain from them, you must extend grace and forgiveness first.

If a parents is to react badly to how you are feeling, explain to them If you can why you are feeling this way, and that you have told them because you are reaching out for help, that you want to do something about your situation. You don't want to be judged etc, you just want them to understand or at least try to understand your situation. Let them know how long you have been feeling this way for and that it is valid even if they don't full understand your situation, let them know that you have been struggling if this is the case and that you trust them enough to help you and not judge the situation.

This can be hard but honestly just tell them that you are trying to share your feelings and trying to be honest. And all you need is there help and acceptance.

There is a difference between Reacting and Responding. When we are reacting no matter the person be a parent or child, their mind is actually quick to react to a situation which they are uncomfortable with. So what we experience a heated argument is basically because we couldn't comprehend the communication leading to no logical rational and reasonable answers. One should gradually learn to sink in, let the heated emotions settle down and articulate in a better positive way in a context with the way listener or receiver of those messages truly feel that it's not a tussle to prove who is right or wrong but find a truce of the debate and a solution. So when we are thinking to explain something think to respond in a way they can relate to. Be it a parent or anyone. It's not about proving a point or making sure we are the right in all aspects, it's about sharing a thought that, we all are individuals and we have differences of opinions and different ways to look at this. And you see "It's all fine that way". So articulation, communication is not so easy to quickly come to our minds when we jump to react but wait, have patience, think and not get emotionally drained by the onslaught of hurdles of hatred by ease up a bit and respond in a positive note so that everyone agrees to that stance.

Well, it's relative you know? think about what valid is, or what valid means really. say one person cannot see red. and you present violet color, to a normal person and to this person. normal person will see violet, that's her "valid" color but this person will see blue only, that's her "valid" so each of us, have our preferred truths, beliefs. even though beliefs are not infinite in numbers, we can choose different sets, unique sets. (and more over, we also attribute to them, different importances too) so, it's not about the parent, or child, or whom ever. it's about your beliefs, your point of view, and theirs. you can present your point of view, yeah but this doesnt imply that the recipient (your parent in this case) will also accept it as truth, or will even listen to you :D even if your parent listens, and realizes what you believe in, this doesnt mean she will also approve :D that's the parent right, as a person, the person has the right to choose to believe whatever the person wants to believe. so, if you actually meant "how i can convince the parent", then it's not possible, it never is. if you meant really "how i present my point of view" then it's nice and dandy as long as you don't try to impose your point of view and start a war for it

Feelings aren't just something we can continue to bottle up. No matter how a parent or someone you trust and respect reacts, your emotions and theirs will change, but feelings will always remain. You can't force something that's embedded within yourself, most especially if you've been fighting it for quite a while. No one has the right to degrade or belittle someone who's feelings they attain. Parents should understand that perspectives play a huge role when it comes to feelings, they may not exactly feel what their child is going through and being mindful of their actions and reactions is definitely a must, as kids may also react.

Sometimes parents react out of fear or anger before they think. It might be best in this situation to let them cool down a bit. Then once you both have had time to think we approach the conversation with a level head. They might have to take a little bit more time to come around. No that no matter what they say your feelings are valid, and so are their’s. The key is to come to an agreement or at least an understanding. it won’t always be easy, but that is why we are here to support you through hard times. No matter what they say no that they love you and most likely want what’s best for you.

Parents are usually not good at validating our feelings but the first step towards making them understand that our feelings are valid are through a calm and open conversation. First, please know and never lose sight of the fact that your feelings are valid. Second, try to understand where they are coming from and what made them react that badly. Third try to restate your feelings again building on what they have already said to you as to why they reacted badly. If they still dont understand you, keep having those honest conversations. Always make sure to check in with yourself and how these conversations affect you to make sure you are always working towards your own wellbeing.

It’s really hard. Try to use a dear man. Describe what’s going on then express how you feel. Next assert -tell them what you need and r Reinforce . How this is good for both of you. Feel free to message me if you have questions! Here’s a example. When we where talking earlier about my anxiety you made me feel really invalidated. I really think it would best if we try to validate each other’s feelings. This way there are less arguments and our relationship is better. I really appreciate you listening to me and what I have to say

By using words that don't start by blaming them for how they reacted. Or even telling them how bad you felt by the way they reacted. One should start with an apology about the thing which made the parents react that way. It will help the parent to calm down and listen to the opinion of their child. And, after the apology two things may happen one they may automatically understand their behavior and apologies for it their way. Or the child could explain the way he/she felt after their reaction. It will help them understand that the child isn't attacking him with the blame games but making a point. Also, it will give them a clearer mind to understand the same.

It's a hard one, isn't it... When you feel not understood or your feelings are overlooked. I think a lot of parents find it hard to actively listen and sympathise as much as someone who is not as emotionally involved in your life, your parent in your case. But know that they really do want the best for you but probably have not learnt active listening, which I weirdly realised after coming here and becoming a listener. You can ask them to just listen to you and repeat what you said and ask if they can see it from your point of view. Walk a mile in your shoes if you will... I am still trying to figure it out with my parents. But I hope this helps somewhat!

Getting them to a place where they can listen is the first step. No one can fully pay attention in the heat of the moment. So, I would start by letting them know that I understand why they might have reacted in such a way, while using a calm, warm tone. Parents can get overprotective because in most cases they want what is best for their child. As soon as the tension is somewhat relieved, I would reassure them that my intensions were not to defy or undermine them but that it would benefit both parties if they understand my view of the situation and do my best to give clear arguments. This might not apply to every situation, but being calm and respectful is a great start when trying to discuss something sensitive with parents.

This can be a problem of generation gap. It is very important to express yourself in a way which is not hurtful for them too. So try to be patient with them and also explain yourself in a way that doesn't hurt them too. Try to understand where they are coming from and then work your way around at changing that point. Statements like : -The other day we had an argument about this thing. - I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. -It hurt me really bad that you couldn't understand me. -I would appreciate if you could try to give a chance at understanding me.

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My mom and I love each other very much. I’m grateful for her every day. But every once and a while me and my mom diss agree on something and yell at one another. I end up feeling awful and guilty for yelling at my mom and apologize to her almost immediately afterwards. But recently I’ve discovered that that is not quite the way to go around the issue. Recently, I’ve made a point of talking about the issue after we’ve both calmed down. Sometimes it ends quickly, other times we both have to leave the room again in order to not have to start all over again. I’ve learned through this experience that my feelings are valid and I shouldn’t feel guilty for sharing how I’m feeling.

How you feel will always be valid to you no matter who disagrees with you. No one can disagree with someone else's experience. But we also have to respect that not everyone will understand our truth or our feelings or experiences and we have to find a way to live with that. All you can do is be honest and communicate with your parent how you feel and how their reaction hurt you. Being honest and vulnerable and brave in that way shows your strength and that you're prioritizing your feelings. That's what's important and that's all you can do.

making your parents understand can be hard , especially if they don't know what you have gone through in your tough times. to make your parents understand, start slowly by putting out your points how you are correct, don't straight get to the point, edge towards it slowly, after explaining the basics, get to the more important points , like how you were correct, and how their reaction you would have expected rather than the reaction you got. after that, try explaining what happened in minor details, and then major ones, after you have placed those points. try to convince them how it was not your fault

Sometimes, things can not always be explained in words and it must be explained in the way you live your life. Your parents may not always approve of the things you say or do, but the moment they start seeing the impact of whatever it is that is going on, that is when they are prone to start validating you. It comes with time and it may not be easy all the time but do understand that your parents are just as human as you are and understand that they do have flaws. So accept them and validate their emotions as well as they have human emotions as well

That can be very hard to navigate, and it's especially difficult sometimes to explain your feelings to someone in a position of power, or who is "superior" to you in age/experience. My suggestion would be to first make them feel validated to an extent. It's important to avoid justifying their reaction (if it was inappropriate), but immediately accusing someone of overreacting can quickly put them on the defence and result in the rest of your words going in one ear and out the other. So, acknowledge what you did that might've lead to that heated moment. Once you've done that, explain how you feel. Explain how specific aspects of what transpired impacted you negatively. Sometimes people aren't aware of the power of their words or actions, and explaining that can be helpful. Try to keep the conversation in a cool, calm place, and then focus towards an action plan of what can be done next time a situation like this arises.

I think it's important to advocate for yourself, even if they react poorly. Maybe say something like, "I didn't intend to hurt/upset you, and I'm sorry that you feel that way, but I still really feel ______ emotionally, and it's not wrong for me to feel that way." Even if they react poorly, you'll know you stood up for yourself. It can be really hard when parents don't understand how you feel. Keep your head up, and remember that your parents are just people who are also flawed. They also probably grew up in a generation that wasn't anywhere near in touch with emotions.

Everyone feels sad sometimes, just like everyone can feel joyful, angry, proud and plenty of other emotions. In other words, everyone has feelings, and those feeling are always changing. Sometimes we feel happy (such as when we’re having fun) and sometimes we feel sad (such as when we lose a loved one). Whatever the feeling, it is real and part of living. Even if you think a parent won't be willing or able to help, it's still worth a try to talk. People are often surprised by how much their parents rally to their side when they ask for help, even if the parents have a lot going on themselves. Occasionally, parents have too many troubles of their own or other issues going on. If you reach out to talk and it turns out your mom or dad can't help, go to another adult (such as a teacher, counselor, coach, or relative). Don't give up until you find someone who can help you. It's that important.

It’s extremely hard to get other generations get it. Unfortunately the mental health stigma is even more visible in such generations. Where there isn’t understanding coming from them, we sometimes feel really alone. I think I would start with this - telling them how important it is for me for them to understand and support me through what I am currently dealing with. Showing them how important that input would be for you might make them try their best to understand you. I’m sorry to hear they have reacted badly, you don’t deserve this. However don’t take it the wrong way, ideas can be rejected by others who do not feel the same and it’s often the case that such reactions come from a place of compassion and not poor understanding!

Find a time when you can approach your mom or dad in a calm way. You might want to open the conversation by asking, "Can I talk to you? I've been feeling depressed and bad about things. I've been thinking I might need to talk to someone." If it's too hard to start a conversation in person, you could write your parent a note saying you need to talk. Sometimes the conversation just gets started by itself. For example, if you're crying or overwhelmed, you might just blurt out your feelings. This could be the perfect beginning to the conversation you need to have.

It can unfortunately be really difficult to convince parents about something they are against or have a negative outlook about. In many cases it might take a lot of time to make them understand. But what you feel is always going to be valid so don't give up and keep trying. Parents will in most cases change their mind with time cause they want to see us happy. But the change can be really really slow so please don't lose patience. Lastly I would like you to know that make sure you are not in a situation where you can get hurt, take care of yourself and if you think they love you? Then be a bit patient and they might come around!