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Do I need to tell people that I'm depressed?

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Do I need to tell people that I'm depressed?
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Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 1:45am
Telling someone that you are depressed may seem very difficult, however it is best that you do reach out to someone you trust and let them know that you are indeed depressed. Follow up with a plan of seeking professional help for your depression.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 10:09pm
yes if you wouldn't tell someone about it then it will affect you more then it should. if you tell someone about it they will help you to fight back depression .
Profile: Dwayne1974
Dwayne1974
January 24th, 2016 2:03am
I don't think telling people is nessacary unless you are looking for support. On the other hand I find one of the most effective things I can do when I'm depressed is to talk to other people. That doesn't mean that the discussion has to center around depression, but it will give at least some short term relief from the misery. I've had depression most of my adult life, but unless people know me well, most wouldn't know anything was wrong unless I told them. Think of your emotions/body language as an iceburg, most people can only see/judge the tiny bit above the waterline. The rest won't be revealed unless you dive beneath the surface. Generally most people don't hunt for those cues. They can only judge you by your outward appearance and what you say/act.
Profile: LGBTriver
LGBTriver
January 24th, 2016 7:42am
You should only be sharing personal information with people who make you feel comfortable. If you want to keep your depression to yourself, then so be it. Nobody is entitled to know you.
Profile: FlowtheUnicorn
FlowtheUnicorn
January 24th, 2016 4:51pm
Yes, but you don't have to tell everybody. You should surely tell you loved ones and your best friends.
Profile: briaannasaurus
briaannasaurus
January 24th, 2016 8:10pm
If depression affects your life you should let the surrounding people know so they can help you recover.
Profile: HelpfulOtter
HelpfulOtter
January 26th, 2016 5:54am
It's up to you and, most importantly, your comfort level. You have the right to decide who and who does not know about your depression. I've found, in my experience, that when people know that I have depression, they are very supportive. YMMV, of course!
Profile: Annaxelia
Annaxelia
January 28th, 2016 6:10am
You can speak to someone you feel you trust and tell them how you feeling an what you going through . You can also contact a support helpline and speak to a professional
Profile: Jacinthhh
Jacinthhh
January 28th, 2016 2:32pm
Yes, if you're comfortable of somebody knowing that you are, and if it's too much for you too handle. They may not understand, nor they can give an answer, but they can listen. Never underestimate the power of someone valuing that part of your life.
Profile: Redcat
Redcat
January 30th, 2016 2:21am
If you need support, then yes. You should never be afraid of telling people. There's billions of people so if you're struggling why wouldn't you use that to your advantage?
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 11:50pm
you do not have to tell everyone. you should tell your parents if they dont know. maybe a best friend at the most
Profile: CepheiStar
CepheiStar
January 31st, 2016 1:13am
You definitely don't. It can be helpful to have a few trusted people in your life that know what you are going through, but it is certainly your information to give and you shouldn't feel obligated to tell anyone. One exception to this is any healthcare personel, especially if they ask you in the course of giving you new medication or treatment, as side effects could cause reactions that are dangerous to you.
Profile: TillyT
TillyT
January 31st, 2016 10:57am
I think the honest answer is - You have the choice to decide. I personally people should talk openly about their depression. For a few reason. 1) It will help towards ending taboos around mental health. 2) Talking about your mental health is the healthiest step to managing its control on your life. 3) Your acknowledgement may help others identify their depression. X
Profile: problemsolver01
problemsolver01
February 1st, 2016 7:58am
There is NO "need" to tell it to people, You can share it with people who would understand like your family or friends or a therapist, but only if you're sure that it will help you overcome the depression
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 9:59am
No, you don't need to. But, if you are open about it with people you trust, they will be better able to support you.
Profile: sereneCreature61
sereneCreature61
February 3rd, 2016 8:44pm
Only if you feel that you need the compassion of those around you. It is most definitely not required. There are lots of people who treat others with kindness and respect, and give them space regardless of their personal life. But there is nothing wrong with telling people what you feel you want them to know. It does not have to be a secret. It is not wrong to be depressed. It is part of life and part of who you are right now.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 6:05am
It's best to talk about depression to overcome it in experience people know how to make you feel better and keep you from closing up
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 11:50pm
It will help you get over the feeling, most of the time. Tell people that truly care about you and that you trust. Talking about your feelings, and getting it on the table for another to see, can often help, because they can offer a fresh perspective and will have your best interests in mind.
Profile: invisiblehappiness1021
invisiblehappiness1021
February 5th, 2016 6:56am
I know it's hard to come out and say but yes you do. Telling the right people can allow them to help
Profile: LeoGirl93
LeoGirl93
February 5th, 2016 10:30pm
Yes. I believe so. I've been depressed and talking to someone really helps. You are not alone. Remeber that.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 4:53am
no you should talk to counselors about your depression don't talk anyone else except your parent and your counselors
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 5:33am
You dont NEED to unless you feel as if that is what you should do. Approach this one step at a time and if you are comfortable with talking to someone, go for it!
Profile: EllaLoves
EllaLoves
February 10th, 2016 1:04am
That is up to you, it can help when people know about it so they can be aware of triggers of signs of depressive behavior.
Profile: KintsugiLady
KintsugiLady
February 10th, 2016 10:45pm
If you don't want to, no. Not at all. It's true that, if it affects your regular life, there may come a moment where not telling may make people wonder what's going on, but it's your call to share or not. It's your soul you're sharing, and you can't be forced to do it. By all means, though, if you want to, do not feel force to keep it to yourself, either. Each of us needs different things at different moments, and only you can judge what those are.
Profile: Rorschak
Rorschak
February 11th, 2016 5:08am
You don't need to tell people that you're depressed.. If you feel as though it is important and relavent, then feel free to do so
Profile: peacelovemusic03
peacelovemusic03
February 11th, 2016 8:06pm
Absolutely not. You should never have to divulge your inner feelings. If you feel very comfortable- you can if you want. If anyone ever makes you feel like you have to tell them- you have a right to tell them to back off.
Profile: TheGreyFixer
TheGreyFixer
February 12th, 2016 10:11am
No, you have no requirement or responsibility to tell people that. It's your own personal business, and you have the right to withhold that information. However, if you have someone close to you, it might help your situation to tell them; that way they can be aware of your needs and help you when you need it. Sometimes it's very comforting to have someone around who knows these things.
Profile: StayStrongNeverLoseHope
StayStrongNeverLoseHope
March 27th, 2016 4:06pm
It's no ones business to know if you're depressed or not. It's completely up to you who you speak to, you should only talk to people that you trust and feel you need to about what you are going through. Letting someone know that you are depressed can be useful for you as it can get you further support for it and it may be able to let you release some of the feelings that you are going through. But it is totally up to you if you want to tell someone and who you tell :)
Profile: Huggies
Huggies
April 8th, 2016 6:43pm
If you really need help, you shouldn't suffer in silence. Suffering in silence is not an option. But it isn't required to tell all people, just tell people you trust. They can try to find help for you, it will take all the stress off and make you feel better. It can make your life easier with help!
Profile: heavenlyTime56
heavenlyTime56
April 16th, 2016 8:41am
Only you can answer this question But in my humble opinion if depression is affecting your relantionships or you productivity then you need to tell people around you so they can understand and better help you