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What's the difference between bullying and teasing?

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DragonView2
May 6th, 2019 12:10am
Bullying is systematic: they target the same person, or same group, or same kind of people, over and over again, over a period of time. For example, it is not the same if I call you poopy pants one day because you pooped your pants (teasing), than if I brand you poopy pants for the rest of the school year or the rest of your school life because of that event (bullying). Bullying also includes spreading and maintaining bad rumours about a person or leaving the person out of the social life of the environment on purpose and trying to prevent others from accepting the person, just for sake of power, not because the victim was bad or a threat. The bully will often justify the behavior. Bullies tend to be cowards, since the bully has more power than the victim or makes it seem that way, or tries to make it that way. Teasers may feel empathy for their victims if the victim shows itself as hurt and may stop, but bullies do not.
MissLisa
August 22nd, 2019 2:27pm
Bullying is intentional words, actions or behaviour which is intended to cause harm. Teasing is when everyone feels comfortable and understand it to be a joke and understands that no harm is caused or intended. However there is a very fine line and this differs from one person to another. What one person sees as a joke might harm another and that would constitute as bullying. If in doubt dont say or do it. Also be mindful that if you are experiencing what you define as bullying, speak out as nothing gets resolved by wishing it away, there are always people out there that want to listen or help.
yancore
October 2nd, 2019 6:06pm
it's actually quite easy to tell. teasing is when people usually say a comment about anything once or twice; it doesn't progress after that. when on the other hand, bullying is a behavior that persists almost everyday. of course, both may make you feel bad, but bullying is usually caused by someone who has struggles themselves. if you are being bullied, it's strongly recommended by all parties to seek a trusted adult to combat the situation. another possible way is to befriend the bully; they could be just as scared as you are. i hoped this paragraph was able to help you out! -Yan
Anonymous
October 4th, 2019 1:06am
Teasing is typically something without any malicious intent. They are often forms of jokes that a friend or family member will play on you. Bullying however, always holds malicious intent. It not only serves to harm the person, emotionally or physically, but damages them in some way. Examples of teasing include: "Aw you're yellow hat makes you look like a cute little duck!" Examples of bullying can include: "Your yellow hat makes you look stupid." Intent is key to deciding whether it is malicious or not, teasing or bullying. In my opinion, bullying is never okay, while teasing can be harmless.
asukal
October 27th, 2019 9:24pm
The difference between bullying and teasing is bully is when it's personally attacking and pushing boundaries that shouldn't be. When it comes to a time that it's consistent and personal and making you uncomfortable, that's when it's not teasing anymore. Playful teasing is completely fine, as long as you both have an understanding or a boundary and aware of what is too 'far' for you, which by then you should let that person know that it made you uncomfortable if they continue to persistently make you uncomfortable then it's no longer teasing as teasing requires a level of trust and place of feeling comfortable.
Sagettarius
November 6th, 2019 5:24pm
To my mind, teasing is something that is done affectionately, and with the (tacit) consent of the person being teased. It's a recognition of their quirks or possibly shortcomings, but it's done in good spirit. There is no real evil intent in teasing. While it may make the person being teased a figure of fun for a short while teasing is ultimately benign. Bullying is like the dark side of teasing. It's done with malicious intent, highlighting a person's failings, shortcomings or weaknesses. The intent with bullying is to hurt and demean the victim, in their own eyes and in the eyes of others. Bullying is often designed to make the bully feel better about themselves, to mask their own feelings of inadequacy.
siameselover05
November 23rd, 2019 10:27am
Bullying is when someone or a group of people pick, harm, make fun of or tease someone on purpose for "fun". Teasing isn't much different but you don't harm people on purpose. Teasing is more of a major form of joking with someone but not doing it with the intention of hurting someone. Bullying can last forever or a long time and cause depression and anxiety is most people while teasing is only playful banter. If bullying isn't resolved it could also lead to social anxiety and loneliness if not handled and most tend to stay quite due to "consequences" from the bully. If you are being bullied, please seek help immediately.
sereneFlower7644
December 1st, 2019 10:59am
Teasing is it is once but Bullying is a continuing and intentional misuse of power in relationships through the reoccurrence of verbal, physical and social behavior that purposely causes physical/social and psychological damage. It could be an individual or a group of people using this perceived “power” Over one or more humankind who feel the inability to stop this act from happening. But there are many types of bullying including cyberbullying which is simply online bullying when people are using a social media platform to harass you or make you feel weak, upset and vulnerable. Plus I understand where your coming from I’ve been bullied for 5 years so it can be confusing sometimes
realPeigi
December 4th, 2019 7:27pm
The intention. Teasing comes from playfulness and fondness. Bullying comes from deep insecurities, with the intention to harm others.
jimmybuk33
December 27th, 2019 11:16pm
Bullying a specific and often repeated harassment, this can be a protected characteristic or unwanted negative actions which makes person feel stressed, alone and victimized. Teasing is a often mutual light hearted fun comments which don't cause offence and accepted by the receiver and peers. If a person is concerned or upset by comments or actions that teasing is then a bullying situation. When a person is bulled it is often when singled out amongst his or her friends, family or work colleagues. The challenge is people who are teasing in their belief are actually bullying in their behavior and unaware until it is made clear.
MistyMagic
February 27th, 2020 2:51pm
To me it is a simple answer :- Bullying comes from hatred and negative emotions. It hurts and can be physical as well as emotional or financial and the effects can scar and last for years sometimes causing PTSD or the need for counselling or therapy. Teasing is usually done by a loved one or friend, it usually comes from love and positive fun filled emotions. It can still hurt but the effects are usually short lasting and forgiven quickly. But, please think twice about either, as teasing can easily turn into something more and although sometimes it may feel flattering that someone is showing you attention, it can still hurt!
compassionate95
March 21st, 2020 4:47pm
when you tease someone you do not intentionally have the motive to shame them or make them feel shallow. all you have in mind is to have a laugh in a healthy way. sometimes even to make someone smile you tease them but on the other hand bullying is to steep to a whole new level where u aim to just shame and embarrass a person. that person can take it to their heart and it can make them do really crazy things. also damage their self esteem and confidence for the rest of their lives. and no body deserves that.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2020 6:49am
Bullying can be the result of menace, when someone delibrately physically or mentally hurts someone and ridicules them, and doesn't stop when the victim gives verbal or non verbal clues that they are being hurt by their action. In bullying, the victim feels threatened and the exchange is not on a level ground, one person or group of people are in most cases repetitively taunted or assaulted. Teasing on the other hand is a playful and equal exchange between two people, and there is an established boundary. Remarks made are innocuous and don't refer to a person's sore spots, instead maybe an innocuous remark for example referkng to a stupid childhood crush or a silly anecdote.
CheerfulCheese
May 31st, 2020 2:47am
Bullying is ongoing, while teasing is just making a friendly joke one or two times. When a person is being mean to another person they might tell them to stop. If they don't stop after the targeted person already told them to more than once, that is bullying. Teasing, however is just like joking around. Person A might make a joke about Person B's clothing, for example. Then Person B might stop the next day. This is teasing. So in conclusion, bullying is when the targeted person is being harmed even after they told the mean person to stop. Hope this helps! :)
Anonymous
June 27th, 2020 9:33pm
Bullying others only serves the bullies to boost their egos. Bullying gives bullies joy. It is based on others' humiliation and discomfort. Teasing on the other hand, depends on the targets and the degree. Self-teasing or self-deprecation has been used in comedic performance. Making fun of yourself and causing others to reflect on themselves can be beneficial. A lot of great comics will tell you there is a difference between laugh with you and laugh at you. I make a fool of myself intentionally so I can laugh with you. South African comic Trevor Noah was in his documentary You Laugh But It's True. A lot of truth can be understood through teasing...if it is done right.
StoryIsntOverYet
August 19th, 2020 10:21pm
Teasing is usually between two people that have an established friendship and understanding and is typically playful joking that isn’t meant to harm them or hurt their feelings. Bullying comes solely from a place of intentionally negatively affecting somebody for their own cruel amusement usually due to having personal issues themselves and feeling the need to cause others to have issues as well especially if a person has something they don’t for example being happy or liked. One is a light hearted joke formed from friendship and understanding and a the other is harmful formed from malicious intent.
SpontaneousDragonfly
November 25th, 2020 8:09am
While bullying and teasing are similar, bullying is when the unwanted action is repeated multiple times and when asked to stop, the bully refuses. Teasing is typically done once and ended after that moment, there is no repeat the next day or even next hour. Bullying tends to choose hurtful things to say about the victim each day and makes it a habit to seek out their victim in order to do so. Teasing tends to be more light-hearted and while teasing can still hurt your feelings, there is typically no ill-will in doing so. While bullying is purposeful in wanting to offend and attack the victim.
DaisyDaph
November 27th, 2020 2:58pm
The difference between bullying and teasing lies within the intentions of the person doing it. For example, teasing can be done for the sake of being playful and lighthearted; it can happen between friends or other people you deeply care about. Bullying, on the other hand, comes from a dark side, with the intention of hurting someone; whether physically, mentally, verbally or all. Teasing has a limit, whilst bullying does not and ends up with the victim being intimidated, overpowered or frightened. However, there are some cases, where teasing turns into bullying. But then again, it is important to note that the intention of the person doing it and who they are can contribute a lot to knowing the difference of something lighthearted and something severe.
confidentpanda
December 20th, 2020 10:43pm
Teasing is fun and playful, usually with someone you are comfortable and friendly with, though it can be flirty too. It is innocent and not made to hurt you feelings, though sometimes it can hurt, that’s usually unintentional and the person didn’t mean it. Bullying involves repetition, an imbalance of power, and someone is hurt. Repetition mean it happens more than once. An imbalance of power can be physical like height or strength, but also something such as age, intelligence, or popularity. And someone can be physically damaged, or be hurt emotionally. Sometimes this can be very subtle, so consider the persons intentions
Anonymous
December 25th, 2020 4:48am
Hey there! I would like to talk about my opinions and how I've separated the ideas between bullying and teasing. I believe bullying is more aggressive or stronger than teasing. Teasing is more like testing your limits while bullying can be the stage after teasing. Teasing is not always seen as negative or bad since it can be playful too. Teasing can build relationships, it is a type of communication that can send both negative or positive messages. Bullying on the other hand, is suppose to hurt the other. Bullying makes the bully seem stronger and the victim feel weaker.
sallysalad1233
December 30th, 2020 2:59am
Bullying is when you want a person to feel bad so you purposely do something that could make them feel terrible. And teasing is making fun of someone but like in a funny tone so they know that you are joking. People that bully someone else have the purpose of making someone feel terrible while people who tease someone else just wants to have fun and has no intention of making someone feel bad. However, if a friend saids something you personally do not like hearing, let them know! Communication is key. In easier terms, people that bully have the intention to make someone feel bad and terrible while people who tease do not want someone to feel bad, rather they are saying something for fun. If you have any additional questions, let the 7 cups community know and we will answer with the best of our ability
Anonymous
January 10th, 2021 1:35pm
The beautiful auburn hispanic- white guy who's tall with beautiful curly soft hair Bullying and teasing are two very different things. The difference is that bullying is usually done with a malicious intent. Violation of boundaries usually occur where the other people is offended but injured, humiliated. Obviously a bully tries to injure their targeted person. They can injure someone emotionally, mentally, and physically injuring them, scarring them for life. A bully is usually an aggressor and they are within a close proximity of you and they get close enough to your face to even touching you, shoving you all over, and violating you, as I've stated before; humiliating you. They can even intimidate you, frighten you to such an extent you are left in a state of shock. It's usually done by insecure malicious people who just want to be the boss of another human being. You should usually make sure someone knows, or you get your parents involved, school counselor, even the police if you need to involved. This usually occurs in school for many students but you'd be surprised with the way society has been it's been a shame to humanity. These are things that if you feel unsafe, you should let a therapist know as well, psychiatrist, and also making sure you are not silenced by them. Bullies are great at making you be quiet while they are usually the first to instigate and pester. As far as teasing goes, teasing can be a playful kind of provoking to make fun of someone. As far as the extent of being provoked usually depends on the intent of the person doing it, and then that changes from teasing to something else. Most of the time it is done with a playful intent. For instance: "Na na na na na, Where you going with all that hair? What are you doing with your hair? GOSH, it's so pretty, you're beautiful, soft and dimpled!" That's playful teasing with a bit of a flirtiness to it. Here's some non- flirtatious types of teasing: pointing out something embarrassing, mocking someone, challenging someone. Often times teasing can be mistaken as bullying and it may be in some cases.
proudRainfall9188
January 29th, 2021 3:27am
I think the difference between bullying in teasing is that it is repeated behavior that has bad intentions. Friends can tease playfully but you know that they never actually mean it, but if somebody repeatedly makes comments that you feel are made with ill intentions, then I would consider that bullying. At the same time, that isn't to say that friends can't bully. It is important to establish boundaries! If somebody says something that hurts your feelings or crosses a line, tell them that! That is the only way they will know that they can't make comments like that next time!
crispWhisper30
February 18th, 2021 1:41am
Bullying is constant and it doesn’t stop.It’s not just being mean or making rude comments it’s being tormented everyday or when you are around the bullies weather that’s mentally or physically it’s constant.Bullying doesn’t stop just by saying leave me alone.It hard to prevent and it’s not easily ignored.Bullying can’t be just moved on from it can’t just be solved easily.The person being bullied will feel have low confidence or feel worthless.The bully might feel more powerful by targeting someone or it might just be entertainment and a joke to them.Bullying isn’t always from “jealousy” which people make it seem to be.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2021 1:41pm
Bullying and teasing have a really thin line to differentiate between them thay it could be tricky sometimes, but ones the situation is analysed, the difference will be so clear. Teasing doesn't have to be a bad thing all time. Some teasing are meant to be playful and being relatable, even it could strengthen the bonds between friends for example. In another point of view, it could be a simple exercising for getting constructive criticism and getting used to it. On the other side, even playful teasing could unintentionally be hurtful due to the one receiving the teasing felt offended by it, their social skills isn't that good or they are greatly sentimental. Bullying is different. It's goal isn't to establish an friendship or being relatable, it's meant to hurt the victim by embarrassing them and making the bully themselves look stronger and better. It could be physical or mental bullying or both. Teasing could actually be a start point for bullying, and ones it's done over and over again, then that's confirmed to be bullying case.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2021 12:15am
Bullying is abusing/offending someone over many occasions. Teasing is a small joke that you may find funny. The difference is bullying occurs many times and offends the said person more. As an example for this. If you say a joke to a friend and it is brief and cheerful then this is considered teasing. Bullying is more serious, if someone or you’re constantly going up to said person and saying cruel things or harming them this is considered as bullying, this is a offence and could lead to someone harming themselves. Teasing is more friendly and if it is seen offending someone then you should apologise or ask the person to apologise before it becomes bullying.
Anonymous
February 27th, 2021 5:26pm
bullying can be verbal as well as physical while Sometimes teasing is harmless and playful. Other times it can be used to hurt others. And even playful teasing can hit raw nerves or be misinterpreted, especially when kids struggle with social skills. Good-natured teasing is a way for people to communicate with each other. It’s a social exchange. Many kids tease each other to bond or form relationships. When the best kid on a basketball team misses a dunk, and a teammate says, “Hey, Magic, nice shot,” they can both laugh it off. The teasing shows each other they can joke around and still be friends.
friendlySpring3273
March 4th, 2021 12:46am
When it is teasing it is a joke to both parties and nobody minds what is being said. When it comes to bullying, the first party either says something as a joke or purposefully says something hurtful and when the second party asks the first party to stop they continue anyway. The difference is that in teasing it is just a joke that both parties are okay with, in bullying only one party is okay with what is being said and they don't stop even if the second party tells them they do not like it. That is the difference.
CuriosObserver
March 4th, 2021 4:36pm
teasing is a casual action done informally between people like friends etc and generally it doesn't harm a person's mental health a lot ( this also depends upon the person how they feel about this ) but bullying is something which is not at all a casual thing as it harms the person's mental, emotional well - being and sometimes physical well - being too. sometimes, it can also lead to mental illness(es) for the person who is a victim of the same. teasing is a healthy thing and sometimes fun too but bullying includes constant criticism which crushes the person's self esteem.
peqchybliss
March 18th, 2021 5:45am
i have been bullied before. teasing is once or twice. bullying is many times ongoing for a long time. you start to not want to go anywhere near where the people bullying you are. teasing may be a silly game and you have to understand that but you also have to know your feelings too. bullying is an ongoing thing. you will get through this, i just know you will, because you are a strong person and you have been through so much in your life. i’m always here to help if you need me, just message me right here on 7 cups!