Is it normal for people to be singled out just because they like different things?
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Being single or not is still give you the chance to like different things no matter what it Is. ....
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2015 10:44pm
Is it normal? Yes. Is it fair or even appropriate? No. Who cares if you have different interests? Why do people allow that to block off potential friendships that can last a lifetime, or even a longtime relationship? Its ridiculous.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2018 10:41pm
Yes. Because people sometimes people don't accept differences and think of them as wierd, even if they are perfectly fine.
Is it normal? Yes. Is it right? Absolutely not. Everyone is different but some people choose to judge others simply because someone else's opinion isn't the same as their own.
It is "normal" for people to notice others who are "different", whether that is because they look different, act different, or like different things. It would be boring if everyone is the same! Humans by nature identify differences and react to them. The question is what do we do about it. Singling someone out could be done in either a positive or negative way. "Wow, I've never seen someone dance that well - you are amazing!" "I really like how you went out of your way to help that old man cross the street." Those are being singled out for acting differently. But, I am guessing the question is about being singled out in a negative way. Unfortunately, that too is normal, and it can be quite hurtful. Someone being different can be seen as a threat. If you are being singled out, or you see someone else being singled out in a negative way, think about how to mitigate the "threat". One way is to humanize the "different" person to include them in the "normal" group. Then "different" becomes part of "us".
It happens nearly all the time. People's interest will always vary and its human nature to seek out those similar to ourself.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 10:03am
No it's not normal. What's normal is liking different things. People shouldn't be singled out for their likes but should be embraced.
Unfortunately people do discriminate against others, sometimes for things they like, it`s common but shouldn`t be seen as normal or acceptable. Stand up and fight discrimination!
Anonymous
April 12th, 2015 7:13am
Perfectly normal. Being different is an art and a sign of braveness who are ready to face many challenges in their life.
You can be singled out for liking different things when it is not something that is valued amongst a particular group, culture or society
That depends on what you mean by singled out. It's normal for other people to think you're odd if you like different things from the rest of the group but they shouldn't be harassing you about it. Asking you about your interests once in a while probably just means they're curious, though.
I think its normal to have such a diversity around us obviously no one is same throughout and to be honest sometimes it feels strange, like ''how you dont think like this?'' And sometimes a person personally gets uncomfortable just because he/she thinks that the world is soo different from us. Its totally fine to be like that and humans have evolved soo much so theres a great diversity no doubt and because of such a diversity and different thinking there exist development of each other. And this also results in having different fields like councelling and it also helps in figuring out new inventions, innovations.
Yes, unfortunately people are afraid of what they don't understand. However, they don't like to look or feel afraid, so they often try to mock people who are different, belittling them to make themselves feel better. Remember, even though it may not seem like it, those who single others out for being different often feel different or left out themselves. They are taking it out on someone else, which is entirely wrong, but can also give you a new perspective on how to deal with bullies. Sometimes showing them a little compassion can actually help your case. This has worked for me in the past. However, do take note that this will not work with all bullies and if you do not feel safe using this strategy, please do not use it.
Judgmental is a huge problem in our societies, and it is common for people to be looked at differently or out-casted just be cause they like stuff differently or want things that are not familiar to the norm. However, it is never right to distance someone just because of their desires and preferences so long there is no harm in them, neither for themselves nor nobody else's. Everyone has the right achieve what they want so long as they work for it or earn it. Simple as that.
I don't think people should do this but it happens to me a lot. It's caused me to be extremely open and somewhat hateful towards the Sheeple (flock-like) mentality some groups have towards others. So is it normal? Maybe? I'm not sure how to answer the normal thing since normal is totally relative.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2016 4:52am
It is perfectly normal and people do that for one reason. This being that they are unable to step out of their box to experience something new. Everyone is unique in their own way and the best thing that you can do is keep feeding that uniqueness. Some people follow others, whereas some people lead. You should always lead
Yes, it's quite normal. Everyone has different likes and interests and sometimes those things butt heads. It's hard for some people to not be judgmental of others liking's or other things of the sort. So, to feel like you're not being apart of a group for feeling a certain way is completely normal. Not one person is the exact same.
Everyone of us has different opinions and i think there is really no one two people who has exactly the way of thinking and the same opinions. I think that's a good thing, that there is no one who knows it all. I think that there will be really times that what you think is different from what others think. Those situations call for everyone to have respect (especially for their independence and freedom to think for themselves and freedom of expression), openness and maturity. It is never all right to bully, use foul language, gossip or isolate person or groups of people just merely on the basis that you have a different opinion or different preference.
Yes but we will find someone that appreciate ourselves by giving that respect to ourselves we must learn to like oursleves because we are different not because we are the same.
Actually, as surprising as it is, yes it is normal. Sometimes people are really picky and if you like something different than them, they don't want to be friends with you. Mostly because they might think its weird or just awkward that you don't like the same things. But yes it is normal.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2017 10:57am
You should surround yourself with people who are accepting of you, no matter what you like. I know it might be hard to seek such circles, but do give it a try. People who discriminate you just because of things you are keen on are NOT worth your time.
It is very common for it to happen unfortunately. People often pick out differences, whether out of curiosity, or something worse. But liking different things is good. Try not to be discouraged away from what you love, the right people will only point it out out of kind interest
Anonymous
August 10th, 2015 6:49pm
Yes, it's normal. Some people might not like the things you like, so they see you as different. But everyone is different in some way, so it's not bad. If it's like that all the time and/or getting worse, please tell someone about it, because it's probably bullying.
yes it is normal , because everyone has a different perspective on things they may feel a diverse way than what you may feel , so it is normal to be singled out just because you're different
Obviously no. i mean what type of question that is. And you are asking me to reply it in 100 characters. I am really pissed of by that question. The answer is straight and simple and contain only two character "NO".
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