How to deal with people that are bad mouthing me?

People who bad mouth you, make life a lot harder as what they say can be really taken personal. For example, some people at work or school might start gossiping about you or you feel like they are judging you. Another thing is that when someone bad mouths you you start to think it might just be true. It takes a lot of courage to hear and not feel personal about it. So, ways to deal with bad mouthing there is the option of ignoring but that could make it continue or make it worse. You could confront the person and think about their life what makes them say such thing. Remember the compliments you get and try to give compliments to others.

If someone is bad mouthing me, then there is something plaguing them. So much so that they need to take it out on someone else, and that person in this case is me. To deal with the person bad mouthing me I would first be strong enough to ask why. Why are you bad mouthing me when you don't gain anything from doing so? The only thing that comes out of the situation is pain on my end. Sometimes the person may not understand how much pain and/or suffering they are causing you. If you are honest with them and clear, telling them that what they are doing is hurting you then it may change their actions and attitudes.

Personally I try not to listen to much negativity but I find having an open and honest discussion with the person can often bring some closure. Even if the person doesn't stop bad mouthing you at least you now have an incite into why that person may be bad mouthing you. For example they could be insecure in themselves and bad mouth other people to try and make themselves feel better about themselves. another thing is it could be something that you have done without even noticing that made that person see you in a negative way, talking about it allows you to fix these problems or let them know that you did not intend to make them feel that way.

Depends on the effect those people have on you. If it makes you doubt yourself then they’ve won. But the things people do only reflect themselves, not you. In realizing that we all are capable of doing negative things, you forgive them and become better, get out of the cycle. If clarifying the gossips and rumors help you in anyway, or improve the situation, do it. But if not, accept them as it is, you don’t really lose anything, they just showed you who they really are, which is an important information. Hope this help.

When someone is bad mouthing you, the first thing to do is think about what could be causing it. Most of the time, when someone is being rude to you, you are not the reason for their anger, only the target. I've found that, hearing people out and offering an open ear is the best way to deal with people bad mouthing you. Sometimes, when people are rude, it is hard but remembering that they are probably not mad at you I'd helpful. If you feel that you are the reason for the bad mouthing or disrespect, don't meet their bad mouthing with further disrespect. It is important to stick up for yourself and to not tolerate abuse, however I always try to hear their side. Many times they have a very legitimate problem that should be addressed.

I would personally look at what I consider healthy or not, and for me people bad mouthing me don't deserve to be a part of my life. When I can accept what;s good for me and not, I think it would make it easier for me to make a change and remove the bad things. Now. removing them and how to remove them is a different thing when compared to acceptance of it, which is part of it too. Maybe it can be by distancing myself from them or just cutting them off altogether, unless there was a way to let them in on the fact that they are bad mouthing and how its not welcome, if they were oblivious, it would depend on the circumstances and I hope you find a way that's best for you

I understand that such a situation is usually particularly distressing​ to anyone. You need to know that at the end of the day that if it is really not true what they are saying about you then don't pay it too much mind.

Ignore them or talk to them ask them why try and make friends be nice to them they want attention so they harass you for it instead give them the attention of being friends

Just ignore them because people who bad mouth have low self esteem themself. They are covering that by bad mouthing you. It is such a bad trait to have. But if it really hurts you them just tell to stop in their face. No body has rights to talk about other people in a bad way because everyone has their problems and we can't see them in their point of view. It us very important not to start bad mouthing them back because that's the worst thing you can do for yourself. It is never good to have bad opinions about people in your brain

If you have been criticised by someone, it doesn't necessarily mean that there's something wrong about you. Sometimes, what they say about you is a reflection of their own insecurities.

There is little that can be done regarding the actions of others. It's our own choices that is our power, so trying to control others is futile. Rather, the expression "deal with" puts to emphasis back on who matters--you! Dealing with people who gossip and spread slanderous crap are common. Social media has made our opinions an open talking-point and the annonimity often emboldens people. The best ways to deal with people who are bad-mouthing you is to ignore them. People often try to incite ugliness and engaging gives abusive people further fuel. Also, the axiom: "If you can't fix what's broken, fix something else", might be of use. Instead of bad-mouthing people in your circle, try spreading some kind words to those you know need them.

Ah to understand that they may be (very likely) in pain themselves and to try and see why this said to you and to look for ways to show unconditional love and kindness to these people. It can feel really good to show grace.

It’s sad to hear that some people are being nasty to others :( Surround yourself with kind people who make you feel comfortable and safe. Focus on the positives in your life. Message a friend and ask them to lunch tomorrow :)

People who bad mouth others tend to be insecure about themselves. Holding your head up high and not letting what these people say about you, get to you is the best way to handle something like this because it shows that you are strong and the better person for rising above.

I would first ask them why they are bad mouthing me? Did I do something to hurt them? If I did not do anything wrong then, I would express that their bad mouthing is affecting me in a negative way and I would like for them to stop. If they don't I would just remind myself to not listen to them, because what they are saying is just their opinions. It does not mean that what they are saying is true about me. As long as I am a good person and being my best self, I do not need to worry about what they are saying. Although, if they are bath mouthing me because I hurt them, then I would apologize. I would express to them that I will change my behavior, if I did something wrong.

First off I know that sometimes people just lash out at others, reasons they do are not as important as knowing that sometimes they do. Depending on the conversation/situation compassion and understanding can help avoid me taking this personally. If this kind of treatment continues or continues to escalate then it is time to ask them politely not do this. Again this really depends on the situation. If it is just a way for another to vent what they are feeling then I don't have an issue with allowing them to continue, but if they are just being mean then I would have to ask them to stop. If they don't respect my request then I would point out to them how they were being mean or bad mouthing me and if that still doesn't work then I would have to end the conversation. Depending on what was done/said will determine if I report them or not. Last think I would want to do is report them but will if necessary. Biggest thing for me is to not take this personally!

It's easier to say that we should ignore those people as they are not important to us or they have no right to bad mouth us. But ignoring them in reality is difficult, if we do that with real patience it would work, but in my case I have found sarcasm works always. A perfect answer to their taunts makes them feel we aren't weak and thus won't target us. (ofcourse we shouldn't be like them and even Bad mouth about them)

If you care about them, confront them about it and let them know that it hurts your feelings. If not, they are not worth your time!

Always focus on those who think in a different way about you, and avoid those persoms who bad mouth you, they are probably reflecting things they don't like about themselves in you, so feeling empathy sometimes helps too.

If you can cut those people out of your life I recommend that. If you can't ignore it, don't feed them..

You should 1. turn the other cheek and tell a trusted adult 2.If you cant turn the other cheek result to no physical violence if possible if it comes to that and hopefully it wont seek a counselor and tell them how you are feeling and why you took on those actions because where im from we follow G.O.L.D. G- grow in mind, body, and spirit. O- own your actions. L- lead by example. D- dream BIG!!! So dont let those people that bad mouth you bother you ignore them and follow G.O.L.D it will help you improve and move on past the sight of the bad mouthers.

Tell a trusted adult. Consult a therapist or close friend. Bullying is a serious matter and can do serious harm in the long run, so don't keep it to yourself. Also, don't add fuel to the fire by bullying back. That will only make them push back harder. Instead, kill them with kindness so that they feel guilty about what they've done.

Remember that people only bad mouth people who do better than them. People only talk negatively of people because it makes them feel in control. However, if several people agree, it is time to reflect. Is there something you've done? An energy you give off? While some people do it for fun, other people do it in fear.

In life unfortunately and it seems very unfair, but we can not control what others say about us or do. People who bad mouth you are looking for us to react, it makes them feel powerful by hurting other peoples feelings the best way I deal with people. Like this is to cut them out of my life and I'd you do have contact just be polite or simply ignore that person, you know you. It's brave of you to come here on the site and I hope we can help you. Talking helps. We are here to support you.

This is the toughest one I find. Sometimes, I don't find a single person in my favor. In those situation, the best thing I do is to ignore the person who is doing so. Sometimes, when people bad mouth what ever goes around comes around. Also, they themselves create bad impression on others by criticizing. They are weak and insecure. Criticism is their weapon. They can't live without it. It is worth staying strong. Somewhere I heard that if you are in criticisms that means your doing something awesome. Remember all the landmark discovery happened in the mist of criticisms.

Tell them straight that they need to come to you if they have something to say, or tell someone that could help you stop them together

You can imagine an invisible eraser and make it drag across their physique, as if to erase them totally. As if they don't exist. And then, you'll find them not deserving the slightest of your attention.

It's understandable that you will be emotionally affected by what people think of you. It's alright to be concerned, but don't let your fear consume you. Don't worry, regardless of how bad it seems, rumours always die off because old news gets boring. Don't add fuel to the fire and just keep doing what you do. There's no pointing altering your behaviour because it shows that you're affected by what they say. As long as you have a clean conscience, all will be good. Don't retaliate. You're better than they are. :)

Let people talk. If my name is on there tongue im flattered clearly they see fit to spend there precious time spending time on me. Good or bad what people say always says more about themselves than it does the person whom there speaking about. To be more assertive one could approach said people and confront them about what has been said. It depends on the context the people if i would approach. Sometimes I can't be bothered to spend my time worried about what others think, I did that enough in my early 20's. Life is now about living and enjoying!

Either confront them and tell them how you feel or report this to someone in authority if you're younger such as a teacher or parents. If you are going to confront them, ask them how they'd feel in your situation. If that doesn't work, just ignore them. It's hard to do but when they see that they have no impact on you, they'll stop.