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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 13, 2014
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I think that just by acknowledging that you are a bully, is the first step in the right direction. The next thing would be to try to understand why you bully others or a specific person. Is it because you are insecure? Or is that person bothering you in anyway that may be able to be handled differently? Another helpful thing would be trying to understand that they are a person with feelings just like you. If you keep in mind that they have a family, friends, and feelings it might help you relate to them more and be kinder rather than bully.
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Profile: Selfbeliever
Selfbeliever on Jan 3, 2015
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In order to stop being a bully you have to start embracing yourself before embracing others first, then you have to accept that each and every person is different from the other, and the most challenging part of all is that you should train and practice accepting individual differences. Furthermore, bullies often lack tenderness and passion so try to seek any emotional help from either a close friend or a family member, if you can't then a therapist is the best probably. Please understand that people have feelings and can harm themselves due to bullying, so put yourself in their shoes.
Profile: Devonne
Devonne on Jan 8, 2015
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Try to take yourself in the bullied person's situation. How would you feel if you've been bullied? No one should ever bully anyone.
Profile: JesseK1022
JesseK1022 on Dec 9, 2014
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That's tough. Usually by the time you recognize that you are a bully you already have a lot of habits that just come so naturally to you that you don't realize your behaviors are bullying. One thing to do is to notice which things that you do have a target and if that target is happy with the attention. If they are not, chances are they are feeling bullied and that's one behavior to try to stop. Maybe start doing that with others too--when you see others, friends, doing the same thing, you don't laugh and maybe even take offence because its not good to be a bully.
Profile: SandyCream
SandyCream on Feb 9, 2016
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Don't follow the lead , think for yourself . Think about the victim and how would you feel in his place. You can always begin by asking for forgiveness or by doing something nice for said persons . Don't beat yourself up but try to be better.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 27, 2017
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How wonderful of you to recognize behavior that you wish to grow away from within yourself. That's a really brave question to ask. It's a very personal question and there likely isn't one magical cure-all answer, like in many cases. However, your willingness to accept and understand these urges show hope that you can overcome these tendencies. More questions may unlock the clues to the way forward, such as: When was the first time you bullied someone and what were the circumstances around it, what happened shortly beforehand, afterwards, and how did you feel? When was the first time you yourself were bullied, if ever, and what were those circumstances? When was the last time you bullied someone and how did it make you feel? Why do you want to change these behaviors? What other thigns can you do instead of bullying someone when you feel like it? What can you do to feel good about yourself instead of bullying others? What dreams and aspirations do you have that you can pursue instead, for instance? It's okay to be honest with yourself or go through these questions and thoughts with a close friend, good listener, or professional. Good luck!
Profile: Erynn
Erynn on Dec 26, 2014
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It will probably be hard, because it's a big behavioral change, and if you're treating someone in ways that hurt them, you are likely benefiting in some way from this exchange. That may be a good place to start - what happens and what do you feel when you "a bully" to someone? Look for positive feelings or circumstances that follow this behavior, then ask: "How else could I get those situations/feelings?" It's important to replace any negative behavior with positive ones, so while stopping your action is your goal, replacing it is very important. It may also help to think about the pros/cons of your behavior and the pros/cons of changing your behavior. Because you're hoping to change a behavior that is hurting others, apologies may be an important part of this change, but it may be best to wait on apologizing until you are going to be able to really, and truly change your behavior. And then, after verbalizing your apology, you will need to respect their wishes for your relationship (or lack of relationship) afterwards, and follow up by trying to show a change of behavior by truly stopping what has been harmful. It may help to talk to a professional about your behavior if it's been going on a long time or in a way that significantly impacts your life and relationships. It can also help to journal, and keep a record of your successes in changing your behavior as well as what things worked, and didn't work, to help you change your actions/words.
Profile: Pandette
Pandette on Apr 15, 2015
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Ask yourself this: why is it that you pick on others? How does it make you feel? Having an idea of why you commit certain acts can make it easier to stop if you really want to. I hope that helps!
Profile: professionalDeer72
professionalDeer72 on Sep 19, 2016
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by understanding that all of that anger that causes you to be a bully, will not vanish by treating badly other people. Try to address that aggressiveness, that sense of anger in some sport - Boxing for example. Channel your negative feelings into positive power, into the realization that you don't need this to feel better. Stopping being a Bully can be your first big step towards becoming a better you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 21, 2016
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Maybe just think about it for a second. Not think about it as you, not think about it as someone who's been bullied or is being bullied - think about bullying. Were you born to bully? Were you born with a bullying streak? Has anyone ever taught you to bully? These are some examples of questions you can ask yourself. Then, perhaps, you could start being empathetic. Think about it as the person you're bullying. Or, you could ask yourself things like why am I bullying this person? What have they done to me? Am I jealous of them? For instance, if you were jealous of them - learn from them. Watch for their good qualities and aspire to be the same - but don't overdo it! Basically, if someone is kind, find your own ways to be kind. Just think about it, it won't hurt.
Profile: niceMonkey80
niceMonkey80 on Nov 26, 2018
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Firstly, you need to ask yourself why you’re bullying? Why are you saying hurtful things or doing harmful things that you know are not beneficial towards you or the person the words and actions are directed at. Empathy is great. Think about how you would feel if you were in their position, how would it make you feel. You also need to ask yourself, what is the point in saying something that you know is going to hurt someone else? Why hurt someone when you can say nothing at at all? Or, better yet, compliment them, make them feel better about themselves, smile at them. Why spread hate when you can spread love? It’s a simple question.
Profile: majesticForest71
majesticForest71 on Dec 22, 2014
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Except yourself for you ,face up to your true feelings any pain that's hidden and talk about your feelings , and do your behaviour may have been negative it doesn't make you bad , apologise to ever you have hurt when you mean it as yiu can save them from a lifetime of pain , and know the fact that you are asking this questions mean that you are talking the right path , you are aware and if you are ready one day will be role model
Profile: Mayaisthename
Mayaisthename on Nov 15, 2014
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Stand up for yourself, or ignore them, it may hurt at first, but fake it till you make it, worth it
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 21, 2014
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You can learn how to empathize simply by asking yourself "If this happened to me, what would I feel?".
Profile: AlyCatx
AlyCatx on Nov 22, 2014
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I think it's all about accepting everyone, and not judging them the first time you've met them. We don't know what anyone else are going through, and even if they don't appear to be very nice, they might just be having an awful day. Moreover, don't discriminate others just because they are different, and try to be nice to others. If there are a few people that you just don't like in general, it's fine, we're not expected to like everything we come across, just try to avoid or ignore them. Stop spreading your hate, but spread love instead, so you and others can be happy. :)
Profile: WolfCrimson
WolfCrimson on Nov 23, 2014
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It might be hard to stop once you start, but there's a number of ways! For example, involve yourself in something you are passionate about, a hobby. Painting, reading, writing.... Try to be polite and kind, upbeat. Apologise to people you have bullied, but accept the fact that some of them might be unwilling to instantly forgive you. Make an attempt to befriend more people, and remember not to use violence or aggression when solving problems.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 1, 2014
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At least once, put yourself in the shoes of the one being bullied. Recognize that he is human too and even if he might now be showing it, he might be feeling hurt. Consider his/her feelings.
Profile: miraculousBeauty78
miraculousBeauty78 on Dec 17, 2014
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By putting yourself in the shoes of the person who got bullied! You'll be able to understand how the person feel!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 30, 2014
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Recognize within yourself that what you are doing is hurting others. Use empathy and compassion in order to understand others and not cause harm to them any longer.
Profile: EnchantedPepper
EnchantedPepper on Apr 19, 2015
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Put yourself in their shoes. Imagine for one second that you're the one being told you're fat, ugly, worthless. Imagine what it would feel like to feel so alone, to feel that the world is against you that your life is no longer worth living, because this is very much a reality for some victims of bullies. So if you see somebody being bullied, how about instead of joining in, you go over and help them out, stand shoulder to shoulder with them. Because after all, it's nice to be nice.
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