Everyone in school thinks I am bitter. How can I change their minds?
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Eat more and drink more so your not grumpy when you talk to them. Make sure your feeling physically good. Sometimes if we are suffering internally it comes out as bitter or aggressive but really you just don't feel good
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 10:27pm
Just be your self and your sky will shine through and they will know hi amazing you are smile smile
Anonymous
August 4th, 2016 2:59am
You can't change anybody's mind if they don't wish to change their mind. You can choose to change yours (and that's about it).
Don't listen to people who are trying to make you feel bad. If you don't think you are bitter, then you definitely aren't!
Try smiling more, making a little bit of an effort of being kinder/nicer to others, making a little more effort being more sociable and don't be scared of opening up.
If you'd like to change their minds, smiling more ,talking to more people and just being more sociable in general will help
Just be yourself, and socialize more, soon people will realize your the the bitter person they once thought you were
Anonymous
August 13th, 2016 9:17pm
Be how you are. If they still think it don't listen to them, just be yourself, you shouldn't try to be different for others
Make them realise your not and maybe change your attitude and be more active and positive towards situations but dont take it personal you are who you and in the end the right people will come to you
Anonymous
August 17th, 2016 9:21pm
Who cares if kids think you're bitter in school? You are you. If you're happy in your own skin, don't ever change. If this REALLY bothers you, I'd suggest smiling a little more. Maybe help that one kid with his homework. But please, I beg of you do not change.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2016 6:27pm
You could easily change their minds from thinking you're bitter by being nice to them, helping them in whatever they need help with, and most importantly be there when they do need help and you think you are able to hell them.
Be excited and preppy, everyone thinks those girls are nice. Try to be helpful too! Iyou can do it😀
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 9:37pm
just go to them and try to interact with them and try help those guys on occassional moments so that they can feel your warm heart
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 4:13pm
Try being polite, and happy as you can. As people how they're doing, avoid drama, and if someone wrongs you, forgive, but don't forget.
Smile. Be friendly. Step out of your comfort zone. It's hard at first but gets easier. Ultimately though, focus on making you the best person you can be, not what others think.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 1:52pm
By taking some initiative, telling a few jokes or even just smiling or waving when someone greets you. Don't go over the top, it's the little things that make it.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 8:39am
Talk to people and be more social, participate more in social events and show kind gestures as well as not doing anything that will ruin your self image
Don't bother! Maybe instead, take stock of how you feel and why. It's okay to feel bitter, but it might be worth investigating. Perhaps it might be safest to remove yourself from others who make you feel judged or less than you are. You don't need the extra strain.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 6:58am
Show them how thankful and grateful for your life and the things around you by smiling compliment others.
Thinking is something which people will never stop. Don't care about what people will think. Just be the real you. If you have any bad habits then it is suggested you leave them behind.
Be good to others and they will be good to you..
Have a positive outlook throughout. Smile and help out. The more positive you are, the more positive vibes you'll send out. Eventually, people shall notice.
Do something not bitter :D Show them that you are not bitter, but warm, open and kind. Even simple things like smiling and saying hi to someone show that you're a great person.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 2:39pm
Just don't be bitter. Here, it's a concept of actions speak louder than words. You can tell them over and over that you aren't bitter, but if you are, then they won't believe you. Even if you just aren't being bitter and they don't believe you, you have to know for yourself that you aren't....once you get it for yourself, their opinions matter less and less....
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2016 5:05pm
You can't change anyone else's mind. . . Only our own. In this case, you have tons of options!! From stopping caring what they think to deciding to change how you present yourself. No matter what you decide know that other's still have the right to choose how they think about you and sometimes that has nothing to do with you at all.
Sometimes it is impossible to change their minds. It is easier to change yours. I became seemingly less bitter to others when i started smiling a little and being aware of how you treat others helps ease the process.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 6:50pm
Dont be yourself and people will understand they may not understand why your like this so try to talk to people
You can't. Society is very cruel. Just be yourself and if people don't like you that's there choice. There will always be someone that likes you.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2016 1:08pm
Have they given a reason for why you are bitter? If so, change their minds. Do the opposite of what their telling you that you do.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2016 5:26pm
By not passing sarcastic comments or taunts. Though those are bitter truth, but there are certain ways to let people know the actual truth.
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