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Why is he ignoring me after breakup?

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queenofspaids
June 18th, 2016 2:14am
He is probably trying to distance himself. Break ups are hard for both the person who was broken up with and the person who broke up with them. Sometimes it's takes a while to be able to shift from "significant other" to just being a friend again.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2017 1:43am
Maybe he or she is tired of having relationships fail or having people disappoint them
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 3:33pm
there are two possibility. first, because he love you too much. second, because he wasn't love you enough.
Sunshine201
February 23rd, 2017 11:02am
Everyone has its own way of behaving after a break up, some persons just choose to be friends even after break up and some want to have no contact with their ex, that's why they deliberately ignore the ex, they might have certain hurtful or pent up feelings for that person .
wonderousWhisper18
August 27th, 2016 3:44pm
may be he is angry and dont want to talk at the moment give him time or may be he want to move on and dont want any communication
skylerraber1234
August 11th, 2016 4:55pm
After a breakup men usually feel guilt. They know how much they meant to you and so they feel bad and guilty from breaking it off. Also, some men don't really feel the affects of it until later when us ladies already moved on.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 6:17am
When people break up, usually both parties are hurt by it, whether they show it or not. A lot of the time an ex will ignore you because they are hurt and trying to get over a relationship. It's usually best if you don't try to contact them.
MajesticJoy95
May 27th, 2018 6:26am
Maybe talking to you brings him pain... Maybe he isn't over you yet, and he believes that ignoring you will be the best way to forget you and move on. Some people need to completely cut off someone before they forget about them
Smags
November 30th, 2017 3:04am
He may just need some personal space. People might need to distance themselves to think clearly and rationally on situations, especially traumatic or emotionally stressing ones. Give these people time.
TourmalineSkies
November 17th, 2017 1:12pm
Some people need time to think and most of the times that shows as ignoring. dont think too much about it and give him time
Detelinzy
August 12th, 2018 10:15pm
Maybe he still isn't over you and he doesn't want to hurt you or himself by communicating or spending time with you.
boboshopo
June 29th, 2017 7:48am
This could be his way of coping with the situation as many people have different ways of coping with breakups.
joyousSalamander76
June 21st, 2017 1:26pm
Breakups are always a tough process. If you still want to keep in contact, it may be tricky. He may have to take some time to get through this.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2017 11:12am
If you're the one who end the relationship, well maybe he still loves you and he respects your decision about breaking up. And maybe that is his way to move on. Well, there is this time that you cannot be friends with your ex.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2016 5:33am
He needs some alone time to heal from the break up just give him a bit of space ,he might come around .
Eston
September 16th, 2016 6:32pm
It could be that he is trying to move on with his life and constantly seeing you and talking to you will bring back memories and also bring back feelings he is trying to put aside.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2016 6:46pm
Because after breaking up people sometimes choose not to talk to each other in order to heal from past relationship and make things less dramatic.
CalmingLavender
June 30th, 2016 2:47pm
There are many reasons why people branch away from their old partners after a breakup. One of the many reasons is that they are trying to move on and meet new people. As hard as this is to deal with, it's an opportunity for you to follow his example and try and move on as well. Another reason is he may feel to awkward to start a conversation. Depending on who broke up with who, he might either feel as though you don't want to talk to him or that he doesn't want to start grow a friendship with you again until he is completely detoxed of his feelings.
TiffanyLauren
August 3rd, 2016 6:52am
He ignored me after breakup because he's also hurt. I was the one who broke off our relationship and I felt that he didn't want it, but he didn't stop me from doing so.
Laks1
August 7th, 2016 10:23pm
After a break up some people still find it difficult communicating with their exes. Because once they are done with the relationship, they break ties with with you Sometimes they feel talking to their ex after a break up still makes it look like there's something or there's hope for you two to get back. Not everyone believes in friendship after a break up. When they are done, thats it for them
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 11:25pm
You've recently broke up, he's processing it and trying to get over you. He'll come back around when he's ready if he wants too.
Easylistener
December 15th, 2017 8:42pm
People ignore after a breakup because of many reasons. They are uncomfortable with how it ended, they may be sad or unhappy about it, or they are sorry they hurt you and don't want to give you any hope that it might not be over. It's normal to experience this, and remember, it's not about you, it's always about them.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2019 12:05am
If your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is ignoring you after a breakup, this could be because he or she feels uncomfortable talking to you. They may feel too upset about the breakup, then avoiding you in a hopeful attempt to forget it. Breakups can be difficult for both parties and the other person may feel differently about the breakup than you do. The other person could find it too painful to continue having a friendship or having casual chat occasionally as it could be a reminder of what you used to have together. This usually happens after a recent breakup, time is a great healer, if you want you can wait a few weeks and they tend to get in touch them selves or may feel ready to talk when you contact them.
raindrop333
June 26th, 2016 3:11am
While we can't know for sure, it's probably because he thinks it's time you got some distance so that you don't make rushed decisions to get back to together if you're not ready to do so (either side).
Skittlemonster96
October 19th, 2016 2:55am
Guys are less emotional than women and I have been ignored after a break up before so I understand that. Men take a while to miss someone. He's ignoring you because he is trying to cover up his feelings. Or at least that's how I see it.
Lottielou19
October 18th, 2016 7:33am
Sometimes space is the best healer. When I broke up with my boyfriend, even though I still cared about him and wanted to see him, I knew that talking or meeting up would either lead him on so that he felt we might get back together or make me feel sorry and decide to have another go even though I know that's not what I want. Being ignored isn't a sign that he's stopped caring altogether it could be because he needs to get over you .
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 11:05pm
It's either he really wanted you out of his life or he just feels better without you. It could also be that he has no intentions of getting back together
kindButterfly20
July 19th, 2020 7:56am
Break-ups can be tough! He may need a little time for himself, therefore if he is ignoring you he may be trying to figure out his own personal feelings and emotions with the events of the break-up. Be patient, allow him to have the time and space that he needs to figure out his next moves for himself. Take this time out to focus on yourself, figure out your own emotions and feelings! Find your own next moves in life and always be the best version of yourself. Everything will work out for the both of you, and you will both regain happiness again!
Missionmagic101
September 23rd, 2016 10:16pm
It depends on many things. Some people ignore their ex's after a break up because they don't want to get hurt while getting in touch with them or want to distance themselves so it doesn't hurt that much. Others ignore because they are no longer interested in maintaining a friendship or even a cordial relationship with said person. It's not easy to understand the reasons behind some people's actions because everyone is different at their own way. But if he's ignoring you maybe you should do your best to move on and only focus on yourself so you don't get hurt. And that's my opinion.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 6:31pm
Many times after a breakup people want to do their own thing and take a break and just be on their own for a while. It may not be ignoring but he may just be trying to take care of himself and you're viewing it as ignoring. Don't think too deep into it as it will only make you feel worse.