Why do I feel like I'm cheating on him still, even though we broke up months ago?
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It could show that you still care about him. It was the norm for such a long time, and now that norm has been broken.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2017 9:43am
You still mentally feel like you are in the relationship, even if you broke up months the ago. The absence of the relationship in your life will take time to get adjusted to.
When u are emotionally stucked in previous relationship,u feel so, it's important to give yourself an enough time to get healed from past wounds , taking a professional help, is always a better idea if u feel unable to let go this feeling on your own even after much effort,
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2017 10:11am
Sometimes when you have been with someone for so long it's difficult to share the same feelings and moments with a different person. This is completely normal. You may feel like that today but eventually after a period of time even without you realising it you would have moved on. So hang on there. It will get better.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2017 7:20am
It is the feeling of guilt that you are left with, even if you are not with him anymore. Concentrate on more important things in your life that needs more attention you will soon overcome this feeling.
Sometimes after a long relationship (or even after a short but a beautiful one) people tend to keep nurturing the feelings that remain. It is normal and it implies that you were really involved with the person. This will surely fade away with time.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2017 2:36pm
Maybe that's guilt. But you have to forgive yourself first and move on so you dont have to feel that way
If you had a really close relationship with the boy, then it would make sense for you to still think you are dating him. If that is not the case then perhaps you are secretly hoping for you to get back with them. If you had neither a close relationship with him nor care about him, then it should just be a phase that you are feeling this way. You are probably a very loyal person :D
Anonymous
August 18th, 2017 10:29pm
Because there is still attachment to this guy. You haven't gotten over him yet, so it could be healthy to take some time alone to think things through.
It sounds like you must still have feelings for this person, even if you broke up months ago.
I'd like to mention that even if you broke up a while ago, it's normal and okay to still have feelings for that person. It's also normal to be moved on and still keep them in your heart. :)
I'm sorry you're having to go through that, and I hope that the feeling passes soon!
Anonymous
September 17th, 2017 3:48am
Lingering feelings might be your problem. If you want to truly get over him, try engaging in daily activities that don't remind you of him. Go to the mall with your friends, read a book, try baking a cake! Time is essential, but don't worry about it too much.
You may feel like you are cheating on him even though you broke up months ago because you are still emotionally connected to him. If you give yourself more time to adjust to your new situation, that feeling should eventually go away.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 8:22am
Because you still have feelings maybe? It takes time to get over relationships. I promise it gets better.
you may still have feelings, but this is normal, things like this takes time andtime heals everything.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 4:19pm
It's cause you have feelings for him and you been with him for a while and you think he was the only person who was enough for you. And it feels weird to move from being within a relationship to single. It's normal. Just gotta relax and remember why you broke up and how you can do what you like now. Life is too short hun.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2018 10:58am
Because you still love him and still have feelings for him. I guess you loved him truly and that’s why you’re facing difficulties to move on.
It is probably because you feel guilty about your break up either because you were too used of the relationship that it's weird for you now that it ended. In case it's the first option, there's no need to feel this way. The relationship is over, you can do anything you want in your love life without owing anything to anyone
Anonymous
January 18th, 2018 7:14pm
Maybe you need more time to emotionally heal. It could perhaps be that you feel you are cheating on yourself - in the sense that you are having sex before you are truly ready. Listen to yourself and give yourself the time you need to heal.
I'm experiencing the same thing right now, too. Do you find yourself in a situation where feelings between you two are still around? From either one or both of you? Do you guys still keep in touch and stay close? Do you feel like you're leading him on in some way? Do you feel like the break up is still too fresh? If so, maybe you feel as if some strings are still attached or something similar. Once that changes, you might no longer feel like you're cheating on him.
The feelings stay in mind for a long time when you come out of a relationship no matter how you end it takes time to forget the moments you have shared, give yourself time and don't feel guilty for starting a new life
Anonymous
February 28th, 2018 11:55am
You may feel this way due to lingering feelings you have for your ex partner. Taking time to think over your decisions may create a situation where you feel more comfortable.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 2:40am
It is okay to feel this way, you are not the only one who goes through this. You need to learn not to make yourself feel guilty for moving on.
Maybe there is shame and guilty inside of your heart. If you don't do anything about this feeling, it might last longer than you thought. Maybe it is better to deal with the guilt and regret that you have in your last relationship.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2018 8:07pm
You may still have feelings for him after the breakup as I have gone through the same thing but as time goes on that feeling fades and you will feel normal again ðŸ˜
Anonymous
March 17th, 2018 10:57pm
Its normal to feel attached to someone still after a break up, its happened personally. You feel this way because you're so used to being with him and spending time with him you don't know what loving someone else is like.
Simply because you're still emotionally attached to him. It's not your fault, there's a small part in your brain telling you to hold on to the idea of him,that's why you feel that way
You feel like you are cheating because you were with him for a long or short period of time and its still hard to deal with. You may be over it but your emotions cant tell the difference. They make you feel guilty even though you arent doing anything wrong.
Maybe you feel like you are cheating because you are still in love with him? If you are maybe you might want to see if things might work out now or you could always go on the web and look up the pleasant activities list and find some new cool man to do things with.
Because you still love him. Despite the fact that you've broken up, your heart is still with the person who you really cared about. People take different amounts of time to get over things.
When we love someone and have spent a lot of time with them, they stick around for a while (figuratively speaking) even after they're gone. When I feel this way, it is a signal that I am not ready to move on, and that is okay! Take your time. Allow yourself to heal. When that feeling subsides, I know that I now have room for a new, special person in my life.
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