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Why do I always think about him or her?

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Last Updated: 06/08/2022 at 7:11am
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Anonymous
March 12th, 2021 6:08pm
They may hold a significant emotion or feeling with you and it's hard to let that feeling go even if you want to let him or her go. What feelings do you think of when you think of them? There might be people that hold more emotions or feels than other people which would inherently make them harder to let go of or not think about. Try and identify what makes you think of that person and identify the events or emotions, feelings, activities that surround it. How do those feelings or emotions make you feel? Importantly allow yourself to think about it.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2021 2:18am
It is hard to say based on the limited info given. But there is someone I tend to think about a lot. Unfortunately this person and I do not speak anymore. Some people just have a certain hold on us at least for me that was the case. They come to my mind from time to time. I know we will always have a special connection even though we do not talk or see each other anymore. But I just have to keep my mind busy on other things not to think about it. It can be hard sometimes
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2021 5:00am
When you spend a lot of time with one person, they become such a big part of your life. When they are gone, you miss that person. Even if it was bad, you remember the good they did. That's why I always think about that person for me. Because at one point in my life, they were a big part of and that will never go away. They made me feel a certain way That I liked at one point. It's not easy to get that person out of your head, and the hardest one is out of your mind. The only thing you can do is try to control those thoughts and emotions.
Anonymous
May 14th, 2021 4:30pm
Thinking about them is completely normal, whether you yearn for them or are trying to get over them it will take time. With healing comes time and you cant always find solutions overnight, you first have to accept the fact that you need time to heal and recover. This is normal and part of life. As you start to put your priorities elsewhere you will start to think of them less. Finding new hobbies that don't remind you of them might be the place to start to put your focus and energy into something else. With time you will think of them less.
HibiscusandHope
May 20th, 2021 2:27pm
Because we always see the beauty in everything. Maybe something looks beautiful, or sounds beautiful, or tastes beautiful, or feels beautiful, so it is beautiful. Other times it's the people around that make it beautiful. Every place you've been with them is beautiful because of the memories that you made their. Every food you've eaten with them is beautiful because of the person you were enjoying it with. Every sound you've heard it beautiful because it either reminded you of or came from them. What gives people the most pain or the most joy is the remembering of those beautiful things.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2021 3:20pm
someone enters your life because you both like each other. be it any relationship. you like them, feel good when they are around. they make you feel special be it for once, twice or more. all this impacts your sub conscious mind. you get attached to them consciously and sub consciously as well. it is obvious one would want to feel the good things as much frequently as possible. this is our nature. you get attached to them emotionally and they make a space inside your mind which leads to the state where you think about them almost everytime. and even if you do not want to, they strike your mind often.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2021 6:17pm
It can be difficult to discern why we always think about a particular person. Generally speaking, though, often if we cannot get someone off our mind, it's because that person elicits (or once elicited) a strong emotion in us. We might think often of a person who is important to us, who we love dearly, who we feel strongly about (in one way or another), or who hurt us or caused trauma to us. These types of strong emotions surrounding a person can cause that person to resurface often in our thoughts. So, if you find yourself often thinking about someone, ask yourself, what emotion do you associate with that person? What do you feel when you think about them? That feeling and the reason for that feeling, are your answer.
Anonymous
September 5th, 2021 3:13am
There can be a lot of different reasons. If you were in a serious relationship with a person you probably loved or cared for them deeply. It is very hard if not impossible to just drop those feelings. You are still going to care for the person even if they're not directly in your life anymore. It's not uncommon to still be thinking of an ex partner long after the relationship ended. It's perfectly normal to be thinking about them. However, it can become unhealthy when it is affecting your health, or causing you to become unhappy. That is when you have to start focusing on yourself and doing/finding activities that you enjoy.
Omathewise
October 1st, 2021 12:38am
Because you still have time availalbe which you used to dedicate for him or her. When you fill your time with an old or new hobby you are fond of and enjoys much, you won't find the same amount of time to think about them. So just fill your scheule with self care and self development activites as well as fun activities with old or new friends or even write stories or draw and paint, and join a club, go out to nature or have a pet. then you won't be in need to think of the time you were with him because your time is full and joyfu and you will be soon ready to have more understanding and supportive partner!
Anonymous
December 9th, 2021 5:47am
Sometimes, it is hard to get the people we love or once loved out of our heads even when we know it isn't working the way it should. While it can be frustrating, it is something that happens to many people all across the world. Know that not being able to get them off your mind is a universal experience and that you are not alone in that frustration. It may take a while to stop always thinking about them, but that doesn't mean that you will never think about them. Be prepared to think about them sometimes, even in the most random moments. It takes time to heal fully, and its a long process so don't be discouraged if it takes a while.
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2022 11:48pm
Well, sometimes when you love someone or you deeply care about them, they are always on your mind because you worry about them and you want them to always be happy and content! Caring for someone can also take a toll on you because you sometimes forget about your own personal well being and you focus on them and how they are doing. The art of being able to juggle between taking care of yourself and ensuring that the other person is okay is very important because it ensures that while you are thinking about that particular person and how they are doing you are also thinking about yourself and taking good care of you.
mrswankypants
April 15th, 2022 2:55am
I feel that I always think about him or her, because when I first felt specific emotions, they brought it out in me. I had never had sexual jealousy before him/her. I had never had love before him/her. I have never had heartbreak before him/her. Because I experienced those strong emotions, for the first time, because of him/her, they will always be tied to those emotions. It is your life, and your experiences, that you draw on for knowledge, and those strong emotional experiences, that you faced for the first time, will form the basis of your understanding of those feelings. And because of that, the him/her you experienced them with first, will cause you to think of him/her when you experience, or think about those feelings or situations again.
imhereforyou112
June 8th, 2022 7:11am
You think aout them a lot because you might have some unanswered questions. People tend to think about things that they don't have answers to or find difficult to understand. You could be stuck on something from the past and didnt get closure with the person. You could be thinking about them just because you miss them or enjoy their company. You could genuinely love them that's why they might always be in your head. They have to have some type of importance or value in your life if you're always thinking about them. There are probably unanswered things you have about the person