Why can't I seem to move on?

There’s still a tiny shade of hope inside you, that things will change to your favor. You are afraid of being alone.

The broad nature of the question asks many other questions that can only be answered by converging to a general answer; the reason for the question is usually the answer. You need to search for the basis of the question to enable you to understand the reason for the question. If you then insert moving on into the context of the answer you can then formulate a means to approach the way to ask yourself what am I moving on from? What can I do to enable myself to move on? and How can I ensure I do not fall back into the same question? The answer really falls with yourself. You need to probe to understand what you are moving on from, how you can enable yourself to move on.

I think that in most cases, people take the wrong approach to moving on. People repress their feelings and try to rationalize the pain away, while that only pushes the pain away instead of removing it. You don't heal, you just avoid. In order to properly move on, you need to embrace the pain, let yourself feel bad, admit to yourself that you did something wrong and cry in bed about how dumb you are for doing what you did, no matter if it's true or not, just anything your heart tells you. This might seem counter-intuitive, but it really does work, even for the moment, because you quickly stop thinking about it if you do it this way. This doesn't mean you should lose hope though, that is still really important. I think that if you do this, you are on your fastest way to properly move on, I sure hope you will as soon as possible though.

You may not be able to move on because you don’t have closure, or maybe it’s because you didn’t get say what you wanted or just need to talk through the relationship with someone?

Moving on is very hard.Love is a strong emotion and it is hard to hard to get over a person,especially when you loved them.

Because were still holding on to that memories or so were still holding in the hope we have, if we let it go even it hurts, little by little we can be happy and move on.

We sometimes find it very difficult to let go of things that once meant the world to us. We love the memories and refuse to forget about them and that's ok but it won't be ok when you lose touch with reality.. it's totally normal to not want to move on, whatever your reasons may be , but it's important you learn when to let go when you are hurting too much. Ask yourself is this really worth my mental and physical health? Is what I refuse to move on from contributing positively to my life? If the answer is no then you must let go. Seek help if you must

The reason most of us can't seem to move on from something that was toxic to us, is simply because of the regularity and routine. Take a breakup for example; people tend to not miss the person themselves, but they miss the routine of when they were with them. The always having someone knowing they'd be there to listen, always having the plans with someone, and without it, life can start to feel lonely because we feel as if we couldn't make it work on one thing, we'll never succeed in another and that's just not the case. The truth is, we will be okay, but it will take time to get back to what makes us happy for ourselves rather than focusing our energy on other people.

It's often hard to move on from someone you love and from someone you thought you would spend the rest of your life with. Usually it's hard move on because we hold on to memories. Try keeping yourself busy

When someone doesn't want to move on, it could be linked to many things like regret, fear, hurt, or sometimes just not being ready. First, figure out if you really want to move on. If you decide that you don't, then it's okay. In order to move on, you have to be mentally, emotionally and physically ready to move on. When you've gotten yourself ready to take the next step, analyze why you can't. Ask yourself questions like "why am I still holding on?" and "What the pros and cons are to letting go?" Accept how you feel and try to keep yourself busy. Idle hands make for wandering minds. Focus on yourself and do things that make you happy and better your situation. Remember that laughing is the best medicine. Share laughs with those that you care about. I have a hard time moving on so I had to learn to make myself happy and if it's meant to be it will be.

I think there may be a couple things going on here. For many people, the only way to move on completely, is to get into another relationship. It's just how humans are. There can be a person shaped hole in your heart, and you need someone else to focus on specifically to get your thought processes past the past. You loved that person. It is probable that this person was an almost good fit, BUT for some big reason that interfered with the long term. This happens all the time. Humans have feelings. And nothing is more difficult than having to realize that what we want we can't have, or is bad for us. Re-framing your thoughts would help. eg. Mary was a good person, but she couldn't commit. That's OK, she has to live her life, I have to live mine. I will do better. Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex? If the person was truly a bad force in your life, please seek some therapy. Continually choosing cheaters, abusers, addicts, or people doing criminal activities is a cycle you want to break. There is a drama aspect that can make these sorts of relationships very exciting, and so addictive. A little CBT, and you can learn to alter your thoughts to be more real in your own life Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) If you are having anxiety, you can also try EFT Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) - Emotional Health Many people have found relief in this simple method of redirecting your thoughts.

You're stuck in the past. The lovely memories that has since past. You desire to recreate them. You're trapped in that fantasy world filled with happiness and adoration. Only time away from that person can heal you until look at them as a memory of your past.

Sometimes there are strong emotions that can get you stuck in situations that have shocked you or made you sad while you relive them in your head over and over trying to make sense of it. It can take quite a bit of strength and time to learn to put your thoughts aside and concentrate on something else instead, but it can be helpful to remind ourselves that we can't change the past, but we are still in control of our lives.

Please excuse the cliche "time is the best healer", I know that it is easly said and much harder to allow. From my own personal experiences I can admit that its very true that it takes time to move on. Try keeping yourself active through this time with hobbies or mindfulness exercises as they will help. If your finding it really hard then please contact a listener or therapist for support.

There is never a definite answer as to why someone cannot move on. It is different for every person and every relationship.

I think I have moved on after all those hurdles of life. If I tend to push myself then it will happen eventually. Nothing can be as important that someone will self harming ones own motivation. So we always have to look beyond our limits to find those colors that will make us feel lot more better about ourselves. If we do not help ourselves and understand ourselves, who else can. We just need to give ourselves thag time and patience that we have always invested for others. Sometimes that helps us to grow from within. It also reflects how we have Hopes to love ourselves like we want to be loved

Moving on can be hard but from my personal experiences it is because your either constantly reminding yourself of what your trying to move on from or you are around things/people who constantly are reminding you of it/a person.

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A few reason: you could still be attached to the idea of the person, the memories you shared with them, maybe being afraid that you may not have that again with someone else. But, it ended for a reason - remember that. Once you stop surrounding yourself with the thought of them or things that remind you of them, then you can fully move on. Don't dwell on what was, think of what could be ( a better, happier, you)

The reason why you can not move on is that you have a big heart, and sometimes you want to keep someone because they once made you happy and who does not love having those types of memories. But that is the thing we need to stop thinking because we might not see it, but it's hurting us, and it is not letting us move on. I would say that it is something you should take baby steps; you can not just sleep it off. Making new hobbies or new friends is what helped me. but that does not mean that you should mask your feelings, you need to acknowledge the fact that you feel that way and make mental notes on how to improve and how to be happy on your own and not to depend on others for your happiness

Hi dear friend ! My personal experience on this is that its not easy to do so in general, as your existence somehow gets defined / limited by something; i.e, its some sort of comfort zone or, habit or something like that. You just don't want to take risk to explore the other possibilities.... maybe you're lacking confidence or, faith or, just --- you think moving on may lead to further complications, i.e you fear... But believe me ... at times its the best thing to do which can enable you to grow further in life, rather than sticking to something you're not destined for .... Good Luck !!!

Sometimes moving on is a lot easier than it sounds. A person may have treated you poorly whether that be cheating, lying, or not coming to you. But sometimes it's hard to remember that and instead you can foxate on the good times, even if there were very few of them, making it even harder to move on. It's important to remember that this is completely natural and one day, it will get easier. Remember you are worth more. And if actually they were good... Maybe they just weren't ready. Always reach out to talk to someone if you can.

Sometimes it is hard to move on after a breakup. I think if you give yourself some time that you will eventually start to feel better.

Moving on is challenging. Personal growth is challenging. Moving on requires healing, forgiveness and confidence. When my heart is broken after a situation that I cannot move on, and think of 'moving on', I have to evaluate myself and understand why does this situation affects me that much to the point that I cannot stop thinking about it, makes me anxious, or it causes me fear. Sometimes it is because we compare ourselves to others... sometimes it is that shock and sense of unbelief that makes us unable to accept what has happened. When we don't dedicate time to analyze, understand, and accept, we cannot heal. When we don't heal, we don't forgive, and when we are not forgiving, we cannot trust or/and have confidence. It is a process, which begins within the heart, and a true desire to be free from negative feelings.

Usually moving on requires also moving onto something. For one to move on, they will need new goals, values, focuses or at least something to keep them busy. Most common mistake is trying to move on from something without anything to move onto. My most preferred mentors is finding something that fulfills your values whether is volunteering, other people you care about, new beginning or anything that moves you in your heart to move onto a new better self, life, circle... Visaulise what you are trying to move onto instead of focusing what you are trying to move on from, focus on that instead of loss and pain. Fight with hope instead of heart ache

Our feelings of love could still be there but instead of cooling it off, thinking more about it fuels those feelings which may lead to yearning. It makes us want what we once had, despite the difficulties that relationship had. I have only been in serious relationships and those are truly heartbreaking when it ended. I couldn't seem to move on as I kept on reminiscing how perfect I thought we were for each other despite the flaws we had. But I cannot continue picturing the past so I distracted myself with good thoughts and productive activities. I surrounded myself with supportive friends and family. Recently, I've learned that it's not moving on but "moving forward". It's unlikely to forget and just move on as if it's easy, but to move forward in life as you carry those burdens, hurts, and the memories of the past. That even if you do not forgive or was not forgiven, it takes acceptance of the reality and to continue on in spite of it.

I'm sorry to hear this, sometimes we are moving on. we just don't realise our progress. if your feel your stuck in a rut you could use distractions techniques and find out what helps you. maybe you could watch a movie, talk to a friend or exercise. it could also be useful to talk to a family member or trusted friend about how you feel you can't move on. this could help you get more one to one support. maybe you could even try facing up to what your moving from such as a person or fear your worrying about.

Break ups can be draining. You've invested a large part of yourself in another person. You've devoted time, energy, and feeling into being with someone. When the relationship ends, you can't get that investment back. You need to replenish what you lost. That can take some time. Building up your confidence and trust can be difficult. You shouldn't expect to be ready right away. Over time, be it weeks, months, or even years, it should all come back naturally. Good things take time. This is a natural occurrence. If you need help feeling ready, feel free to contact myself or another listener!

The truth about not being over it, about not moving on, about not being able to let someone go is simply, because you aren't ready to. It means you aren't ready to face a world where you will be okay without them. You aren't ready to see the instances where they were not right for you. Maybe we should see the bigger picture. Accept the fact that this wont work. Maybe you still have a hope of him/her coming back, which clearly will not happen. So you should accept the fact and let it go. Free yourself from his/her thoughts and focus in yourself and your growth. And soon you will do great.

I think there may be a couple things going on here. For many people, the only way to move on completely, is to get into another relationship. It's just how humans are. There can be a person shaped hole in your heart, and you need someone else to focus on specifically to get your thought processes past the past. You loved that person. It is probable that this person was an almost good fit, BUT for some big reason that interfered with the long term. This happens all the time. Humans have feelings. And nothing is more difficult than having to realize that what we want we can't have, or is bad for us. Re-framing your thoughts would help. eg. Mary was a good person, but she couldn't commit. That's OK, she has to live her life, I have to live mine. I will do better.