Why can't I learn to open up to people?

It might be because of your previous experiences or maybe you just don't feel comfortable opening up to others anyway. That's fine. ❤️ You don't have to open up to people as soon as you meet them. And I understand that you feel like you can't open up. Though do you feel like maybe you're closer to some people than others like family or friends? Have you ever opened up to them before? You can also start to open up about something that you feel least uncomfortable about, and something that you might think the other(s) might have in common with you. Even if they haven't said anything about it before, maybe by you saying it, they can open up about how they feel and their opinions about that topic too.

For some it can be hard to open up. Anything from past experiences to the fear of not knowing can cause this. If you have opened up before and had a negative experience this can make you not want to open up again. Trusting someone with personal information is very difficult for a lot of people. This doesn't mean something is wrong with you it just means that you're going to have to work on this. It will take time to get comfortable enough to open up to someone and you also have to find the right person for you.

Maybe you're just shy or you are not good with socializing or maybe you don't trust anyone with your feelings which is completely normal. You should try to start with normal conversations and elaborate only if you're comfortable. Or else if you really need to vent, you could maintain a journal or you could record yourself, listen and come to a conclusion. After all who can get you like you. There are also another options you could try, like listening to songs which feel like your current mood. Because trust me listening to that one same lyric and saying "mood" is a whole ass mood and a mood lighter.

Opening up to people may feel like hard word. Expressing what's going through your mind and feeling exposed, may be difficult at first but once you've overcome it, you'll probably realize that's OK to speak your mind, and that probably you're not alone on the road. There's nothing to fear, when you're being yourself, regardless of everyone else's opinion; who you are is what makes you special (even when it doesn't feel that way). Opening up to someone you trust, might be a little easier, the important thing, (specially if there's some struggle) is to look for support when you need it. Remember, you're not alone :)

Opening up to people can be difficult, especially if you have just realized that you struggle with being open. For me, I have always been a reserved person that generally doesn't open up about my inner feelings, not even to my best friends. I realized that I have a hard time opening up to people when I met my now significant other, as he, when we were only friends, really helped me speak more openly as a person. Admittedly, it was a struggle to be open with him at first, but after we got even closer, I've found it much easier. What I learned from that experience was that it's alright to take a while to figure out how to be open, as it takes time. Maybe as you grow closer to others, whether they're friends or family members, you may find that it becomes natural to be more open.

Because it’s challenging to be vulnerable! We don’t live in a society that normalizes the honest expression of human emotion and that can be frustrating and isolating. Just try to remember that we’re all human at the end of the day and we’re all made out of the same stuff. It can be scary to open up to somebody when you don’t know if they will be receptive or understanding. But just try to keep in mind that even if that does happen (and I hope it doesn’t!) there are plenty of other in the world who will be more on your wavelength. I’m always here if you feel like talking to me about anything, this is a judgment free space. It’s safe to share here. But no pressure! Everything at your own pace.

Being in a new space is scary because it feels foreign and uncomfortable, and I used to be afraid, but being the person you are and putting yourself out there, introducing yourself and interacting is more than enough. Sometimes the feeling of being judged holds you back but deep down, we are all human and no one is perfect. Not everyone will like us but some do. The person you are afraid to talk to might feel the same way, afraid to open up. Sometimes, just saying simple words can make someone’s day, it’s the wonder of embracing fears.

I cannot open up to certain people because of my trust issues. I have been betrayed and deceived by people who were pretending to be someone they are not. My terrible experience has affected my judgment of where I shall lay my trust. I guess it is one of the reasons I cannot open up. Another reason why I think so is because of some traumatic experience in childhood or past. It inevitably causes other mental health issues. Insecurities also play a major role here, The fear of what people or the society may think of can also contribute as factors.

You are always able to learn new skills! Learning to open up to people is just like learning how to ride a bike. It is something that some people learn at a young age, but it is also something that some people may choose not to learn although it is a useful skill. Being an open book does not come easy to everyone, but understanding your own feelings is the first step. Once you know how you are feeling and even possibly why you are feeling that way, it will become easier to share those feelings with other people. The biggest thing to remember is that no matter what you are feeling, there is always someone out there who is willing to listen to you and that has maybe even been there themselves.

I think it is very hard to open up to people especially if you have gone through something in the past that caused you to feel this way. If you have opened up to someone in the past and they broke your trust, or they took your opening up the wrong way, it is definitely very easy to feel this way. There are also a lot of societal standards that contribute to this because if you open up and be vulnerable, it almost creates a space for people to use that as your weakness and it can turn around to you. Just remember that, there are people out there that love you and support you, and even though you might not have that in your life at this specific moment, you will.

Perhaps this is because it is not something your parents/guardians encouraged growing up. But it is never too late to develop and grow. It takes some self-discovery to understand why we do what we do, but it is an important process in getting to know ourselves and develop past our limitations. Sometimes our wrong beliefs and negative self image about ourselves can limit us opening up to people. Change the way you see yourself. See a therapist if necessary. If you are a Christian spend time in the Word and ask see what God says about you - you are fearfully and wonderfully made etc. And then make the effort to step out of your comfort zones when it comes to opening up to people - this would apply to people that you can trust. You will see a change in time and will be glad you made the effort.

Did you ever try opening up and it may somehow failed? Someone who by his or her words made you close up even more? It might be really hard to open up sometimes because you might never know if this person you're opening up to is trust worthy, would actually accept your feelings without judging you and would actually listen sincerely without getting bored or giving you advice or turning the story to make it about themselves and their experiences. You probably want someone who will understand you and give you space and time to open up, you are scared and that's totally fine. Maybe even confused on why you find it so hard and you're being hard on yourself right now, feeling that something is wrong with you, but there isn't anything at all, trust me. I've been there, you're not alone

It is always hard to open up to people especially when you are the type to be a listener, rather than the talker. Opening up to people may take time to getting used to saying what has been bothering you or what’s on your mind. Learn how to go by your own pace on talking to others wether it be to someone you know, or someone here from 7 cups. You are the one who knows what your limits are and how to explain what you are feeling, and we are here to provide the support you may want.

Maybe we have grown up feeling all insecure and never learned how to connect with people. Maybe we never learned to love ourselves but to criticize. Maybe we remain so vigilant about every tiny bit of the self that we forget all the skills of socializing while making a connection with other people. We are so scared to get hurt that we find it easier to keep everything inside us. Somehow we have learned that it's better not to be us than to get hurt after they refuse us or leave us. Maybe we find it safer to stay distant than to get hurt while at the same time we are longing for being able to make a connection to another human being. Whoever is living on this knife-edge, I want them to know that they are not alone. That we are trying our best right now. Love.

During your childhood, perhaps there were moments where you opened up, but got hurt. Perhaps when you opened up, your parents yelled at you, or your peers made fun of you. So your mind has 'learnt' that "Hmm, if I open up, I will experience pain. Opening up is dangerous. Therefore, I will make sure this person (you) are afraid to open up to protect them from being hurt." Perhaps it's not that you can't learnt to open up to people - perhaps it is harder to open up. You are probably able to overcome your fear of opening up by revealing more surface-level parts of yourself (e.g. your hobbies) to certain people. Once your mind 'relearns' that opening up to others is not as dangerous as it thinks, you can start revealing deeper aspects of yourself. It will be scary to start opening up, even a little, but the best and only way to overcome this fear is to face your fears directly.

Learning to open up to people is a hard thing to do and many people struggle with it. This may be because you have some trust issues or have a fear of being vulnerable. By opening up you are letting people into the private parts of your life that many other people don't get to see. When opening up these people see your weaknesses and fears that may subconsciously be causing you to believe they will use these against you. This can make you have your guard up constantly which can make it difficult to open up to people.

Opening up is a very difficult task. Some people think that not sharing anything would mame then look strong and perfect in front of others, while others beleive the opening up can help them feel better, and lighter. It can be difficult to open up to people you don't trust, or those who you think will judge you. But people like bestfriends, parents, or a therapist who value you, will listen to you. You just need to trust them, and beleive that opening up would be like medicine for you. A medicine that could possibly help you get better from anything you're facing/going through.

Hm, this can be a tough question! Opening up to people can be really hard for some, and for others it can be super easy! It is all a matter of things that have happened in your life, and your personality! There are things we can do, for example learn about trust, and exercises to build trust! It's also important to not that just because you can't open up very easily doesn't mean it's necessarily a bad thing!!! It can be good, like a little shell protection! So next time you think about it, try and remember that. Hopefully this could help!!

opening up is a process, and definitely not an easy one; it takes trust, patience and time; three things people seem to be running extremely low on these days. in a world of such high connectivity, ironically a lot of us have found ourselves feeling more alone emotionally than ever so take a deep breath and slow it down if you must; it's in all those baby steps that build up your self confidence strong enough to chip those walls down, bit by bit, brick by brick but let me remind you again; flowers can't bloom until they learn to open up - so give yourself all the time you need to blossom; beautifully, as you were destined to be 💛

The first step towards opening up people is to listen actively them. There are three types of listening. First is passive listening in which you just give slight attention to verbal words. Second is active listening where you actively pay attention to the other side. And the third is global listening where while paying attention to the verbal communication of other side, you also notice the non verbal signs , like body language, expression etc. When you do global listening you get a better idea of what the other side actually want to convey and then revert accordingly. This way you connect with them

The fact that you are unable to open up to people has become a learned behavior that the brain has associated with something unpleasant experience It is a way of trying to protect yourself from an unsafe or vulnerable place. A means to protect your emotions from rejection or negative responses from others. It also is a handicap to us by locking us in from the world. and cutting off our ability to meet new people being because of fear of rejection and or being hurt. It takes practice to change this and a willingness to dive in and take the risk. You might be surprised at your results. We can not guard our emotions from others because we are in control of our own emotions. So working on changing the way we think or working through why we feel as we do will help us to come to a better understanding on why we are afraid to be vulnerable to others. Our guard comes down and we stand raw that is not easy it takes practice.

Opening up to people can be really tough, especially if we have a history of trauma, distrust, manipulation, violation or dismissal. It can often be rooted in childhood wounds. For example, if you shared an uncomfortable feeling with a parent when you were a child, and they responded by dismissing your feelings and telling you that you’re being dramatic, or to get over yourself, etc. you could internalize that response and begin to believe that your feelings aren’t valid, thus you will suppress and not feel them. This can happen with any kind of relationship, but it often starts in early childhood and during your developmental years. I encourage you to identify the feeling(s) that come with trying to open up, and questioning what it is that makes you uncomfortable about doing so! Once you identify those unhealed wounds, it’s about healing them.

Opening up can be really difficult. A lot of times we open up to the people who we love or some people feel comfortable to open up with strangers but no matter what the situation is, sometimes it's just hard to trust the person whom we are talking to or maybe the fear of being judged or maybe it's about having a habit of bottling up your feelings or maybe you just don't like to make the conversation about you! Opening up could be really hard so it's okay to take your time to trust the person to who you are talking and making the conversation about yourself. It's pretty clear that this question was being asked because a need of opening up was felt and a lot of times acknowledging our own feelings is something that helps us to take the next steps!

Because we are scared, anxious. Afraid of their judgment and their inability of understanding others. Also one of the problems can be our fear of being left. We all have our own comfort zone built upon our own fears and we are so tightly connected to our own zone, I would say glued to it. But there is no "can't" option in life, you must learn how to open and to whom you should open as well to whom not to open. But everything is in our head so we need to clear things with ourselves before going out. Keep it up mate!

It can be difficult to open up to people, especially if you're a quiet or introverted person, or if you've been hurt in the past. Sometimes, it is hard to open up due to trust issues, or because you, yourself, don't feel you have much to open up about. A good way to tell why this is hard for you is to ask questions of your self like: 1) Do I have things to express to people that I hold back or don't express? 2) What makes those things hard to express or unlikely to be expressed? 3) Do I see value in opening up to people? 4) Do I have fears about opening up? If so, what specific fears do I have, and what are they based on? Are they realistic fears? Answering these questions may help you get insight into why it is difficult for you, in particular, to open up to people.

it's not that you can't learn to open up to people, it's that you're frightened to. you're letting you nervousness take over your entire personality as a whole, which is causing you to feel like an outcast, isolated from everyone else, or shying yourself away, as some people would call it. i feel that to be able to open up is to have confidence about yourself on the inside & out and to be able to trust others. in order to trust others, you have to be able to trust yourself. to conclude, the reason for this is bc we just cannot simply open up to ourselves.

When it comes to opening up to people, you don't have to do it with every person that comes in to your life. We all hate to be vulnerable. If you come across someone who consistently overshares their personal business, they’re the odd one out, not you. Most of us from early in childhood are not entirely trusting of anyone. Have you ever seen a toddler hide behind his adult of choice when confronted with a stranger? Infants in their cribs become agitated when approached by someone they consider a threat, and they do that based simply on the inborn facial recognition software that tells them when a person isn’t friendly. Experiments were done using balloons with faces drawn on, and infants were clearly upset by the frowning faces and drawn to the smiley ones.

Thank you for reaching out! I can really hear you are interested in sharing more about yourself with other people and can understand that it takes a great deal of trust to do so. The reasons some find it difficult to open up can vary and may require you to ask yourself why it seems to hard to open to begin with. Ask yourself if it’s because of anxiety or a negative experience that has become an conditioned fear (e.g. parental, environmental influence) of letting someone enter into you circle of people. As human beings we have this intense desire to feel accepted and want to “fit in.” Ask yourself if you have a fear of being rejected. During the hunter/gathering period, when we are alone our odds of survival were greatly decreased. Simply being in a large group meant we had a chance of survival. Has any experience of bullying shaped your reluctance or difficulty to open up to people? You may want to explore what factors have helped you trust in the past and what factors have betrayed your trust? What really is getting in the way of you opening up to people? Which people are you finding difficult to develop that openness with (e.g. friends, family, boyfriend/girlfriend , partner, spouse, new friends, colleagues)? Once you know what stands in the way of you opening up to people you can grow and learn from your interactions and insecurities and fear of rejection you have. It’s important to finally ask yourself what openness is to you. How often do you share your vulnerabilities and expect others to do so in your life? You are welcome to communicate with any one of our listeners on our site to further explore your thoughts and feelings without any judgement. Know that being your true, authentic self can be scary due to fear of rejection but that way people will know the real you. Take small, tiny steps but don’t push yourself too much.

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Opening up to someone can be a very tough and hard thing to do, especially if you are a very reserved and introverted person. first of all, i think you need to trust the other person to open up to someone. it is very hard to open up to someone who we do not trust, so i suggest you give yourself some time and not rush opening up to someone. take your time and you can open up to them when you feel you are ready. when you practise this more and more, you will be able to open up to people whether you know them well or not.