Why can't I learn to open up to people?

Opening up is hard, whether it is to a friend or family member. Sometimes it's a fear of being judged or criticised for how we are feeling or that worry that they won't care. Perhaps it can be we don't want the person we want to open up to worry in about us. But people care about you and people will want to help you, no matter how much you think they don't. There is always someone who wants to listen and opening up can take time but they will patiently wait.

sometimes its hard to put how you are feeling into words, and thats okay, you can always try writing them down before you talk to someone, you can use that as a guide

Opening up to people isnt as easy as it seems. When you have a personal experience with opening up to someone and either getting hurt or let down, it is normal to not open up again because you constantly live in that mindset that you'll get hurt. It is a long process and it will only work if you are willing to take it step by step. You've probabaly been through alot and shouldn't be upset with yourself if you have a hard time opening up. I personally find it hard to open up to people that aren't considered close. I even have a hard time opening up to those who are very close to me. Surrounding yourself with good people is a good start

Because opening up to someone is not an easy thing to do at all. Some of us find it easier to keep it all to ourselves instead of telling other people how we feel, which is totally normal. Opening up to people is not something you can learn to do, because your problem most likely isn't just trouble opening up. Sometimes, the problem that we have is anxiety, which can be the whole issue behind not being able to open up to others. And that is something you can overcome, simply by working on it. Some of us naturally keep it to ourselves more than others!

Opening up to anybody can be a very difficult thing to do. For me, I find it best to understand limitations. When talking to somebody, make sure that you know who that person is to you. What their role in your life is. Make sure that you understand anything that they think of you will be based on what you tell them. If you're not comfortable sharing your deepest fears, then don't. That being said, don't stay closed off to everybody you meet for the fear of rejection. Those who matter won't care and those who care don't matter. That means, if someone judges you for who you are, they clearly aren't meant to be in your life for the support that each and every individual needs and deserves.

I struggle with opening up to people myself. I am just now learning as an adult that humans need healthy relationships with others in order to have a healthy, active social life and good support system, as we are social creatures by nature. Sometimes in life we have experienced pain or traumatic situations with others, and it causes us to close ourselves off from forming new relationships and wanting to be around others. Sometimes it can stem from a lack of self confidence or an inability to relate to the environment around you. There are many factors that can be the reason one would feel uncomfortable letting their guard down around people. What I can say, is that with time and healing, you'll allow yourself to eventually trust enough to let another person in your life. It takes patience and it isn't easy, but there is always someone who cares and when you are ready, you will establish those bonds. It's never too late to try something new.

You may have experienced a bad relationship. Sometimes it can just be your personality whether your an introvert or extrovert. We self-reject before we give others the chance to do it because we are afraid to be judged. You can simply just not be able to explain how you feel.

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Opening up to people is sometimes a daunting task. It can be even more challenging when you’ve received negativity in exchange for doing so. Finding someone in your life who has a good sense of boundaries and self-awareness can be useful when you’re looking to reach out. You may wonder what boundaries look like. As people, we can only take so much on our plate. It may be overwhelming for you to spill out your whole life story to someone you barely know. During quiet moments in your life (ex. riding in the car with your guardian, hanging out in the park with a close friend), share a bite-sized chunk of what’s on your mind. You’ll find your connection with that person strengthen even more and you’ll get helpful support too. This can be even more effective if you both make sure you’re ready for a heart-to-heart talk.

It is a very hard thing to do. It can be because you have had a bad experience or that you find it hard. Doing it in small steps can help. Maybe either speaking to a listener here and then finding the courage to talk to someone you know and open up about things.

Just writing this is hard, as a person who has grown up in a large family, I was often told that I was the "rock", and that I was great for emotional support that I never cried. What people do not realise is that they were reinforcing this behaviour, making it a positive trait when one should really be comfortable to ask for help. Opening up is harder to do as you get older, because people who struggle are often taught at a young age that they should not; some people learn this in their teen years when they try to open up to somebody only to have their trust be betrayed. To answer; you can open up to people, you're just struggling to learn. You have probably suffered in a situation where you have tried to do so, but experienced something negative, or you have been taught from an early age to keep your emotions and your life to yourself. Now imagine for a moment - If you were sat next to your 10 year old self, what would you sat to them now?

There could be many reasons behind not open up yourself in front of others. It could be because of fear of being judged and then people will start disliking you and end up losing those people. It could because of inferiority complex disorder in which person think that his idea of seeing world will might not impress others and they will not talk to him again. It could be because they are not good at expressing their emotions. It could be that they are introverts and they don't like to talk much. Some people think they know they're right and feel like not sharing their own ideas.

It's hard. Sometimes we feel like the other person won't care or can't provide the support we need. Or sometimes we're just scared to. But it's okay.

Some are shy and some doesn't trust. I'm a person with trust issue. Opening up to people is hard. Some needs to earn it, you opening up to them. You just need to accept yourself and them, and you will open up to people.

Hm, this can be a tough question! Opening up to people can be really hard for some, and for others it can be super easy! It is all a matter of things that have happened in your life, and your personality! There are things we can do, for example learn about trust, and exercises to build trust! It's also important to not that just because you can't open up very easily doesn't mean it's necessarily a bad thing!!! It can be good, like a little shell protection! So next time you think about it, try and remember that. Hopefully this could help!!

Opening up to people is not so easy for everyone. Infact, it is absolutely normal to be hard sometimes. Maybe you just haven't found the right people to open up to yet, or reached the level of trust that you as a pesron need to open up to others. And that is okay. Although it may be tricky, remember that with the right people nobody will ever judge you. You have nothing to be afarid of, infact, venting to someone is such a great way to clear your mind and get important stuff clearly into focus. Trust yourself, you can do it, when you think you found someone who you think is the right person to talk to, go for it.

Opening up is a very difficult task. Some people think that not sharing anything would mame then look strong and perfect in front of others, while others beleive the opening up can help them feel better, and lighter. It can be difficult to open up to people you don't trust, or those who you think will judge you. But people like bestfriends, parents, or a therapist who value you, will listen to you. You just need to trust them, and beleive that opening up would be like medicine for you. A medicine that could possibly help you get better from anything you're facing/going through.

Learning to open up to people is a hard thing to do and many people struggle with it. This may be because you have some trust issues or have a fear of being vulnerable. By opening up you are letting people into the private parts of your life that many other people don't get to see. When opening up these people see your weaknesses and fears that may subconsciously be causing you to believe they will use these against you. This can make you have your guard up constantly which can make it difficult to open up to people.

During your childhood, perhaps there were moments where you opened up, but got hurt. Perhaps when you opened up, your parents yelled at you, or your peers made fun of you. So your mind has 'learnt' that "Hmm, if I open up, I will experience pain. Opening up is dangerous. Therefore, I will make sure this person (you) are afraid to open up to protect them from being hurt." Perhaps it's not that you can't learnt to open up to people - perhaps it is harder to open up. You are probably able to overcome your fear of opening up by revealing more surface-level parts of yourself (e.g. your hobbies) to certain people. Once your mind 'relearns' that opening up to others is not as dangerous as it thinks, you can start revealing deeper aspects of yourself. It will be scary to start opening up, even a little, but the best and only way to overcome this fear is to face your fears directly.

Maybe we have grown up feeling all insecure and never learned how to connect with people. Maybe we never learned to love ourselves but to criticize. Maybe we remain so vigilant about every tiny bit of the self that we forget all the skills of socializing while making a connection with other people. We are so scared to get hurt that we find it easier to keep everything inside us. Somehow we have learned that it's better not to be us than to get hurt after they refuse us or leave us. Maybe we find it safer to stay distant than to get hurt while at the same time we are longing for being able to make a connection to another human being. Whoever is living on this knife-edge, I want them to know that they are not alone. That we are trying our best right now. Love.

It is always hard to open up to people especially when you are the type to be a listener, rather than the talker. Opening up to people may take time to getting used to saying what has been bothering you or what’s on your mind. Learn how to go by your own pace on talking to others wether it be to someone you know, or someone here from 7 cups. You are the one who knows what your limits are and how to explain what you are feeling, and we are here to provide the support you may want.

Did you ever try opening up and it may somehow failed? Someone who by his or her words made you close up even more? It might be really hard to open up sometimes because you might never know if this person you're opening up to is trust worthy, would actually accept your feelings without judging you and would actually listen sincerely without getting bored or giving you advice or turning the story to make it about themselves and their experiences. You probably want someone who will understand you and give you space and time to open up, you are scared and that's totally fine. Maybe even confused on why you find it so hard and you're being hard on yourself right now, feeling that something is wrong with you, but there isn't anything at all, trust me. I've been there, you're not alone

Perhaps this is because it is not something your parents/guardians encouraged growing up. But it is never too late to develop and grow. It takes some self-discovery to understand why we do what we do, but it is an important process in getting to know ourselves and develop past our limitations. Sometimes our wrong beliefs and negative self image about ourselves can limit us opening up to people. Change the way you see yourself. See a therapist if necessary. If you are a Christian spend time in the Word and ask see what God says about you - you are fearfully and wonderfully made etc. And then make the effort to step out of your comfort zones when it comes to opening up to people - this would apply to people that you can trust. You will see a change in time and will be glad you made the effort.

I think it is very hard to open up to people especially if you have gone through something in the past that caused you to feel this way. If you have opened up to someone in the past and they broke your trust, or they took your opening up the wrong way, it is definitely very easy to feel this way. There are also a lot of societal standards that contribute to this because if you open up and be vulnerable, it almost creates a space for people to use that as your weakness and it can turn around to you. Just remember that, there are people out there that love you and support you, and even though you might not have that in your life at this specific moment, you will.

You are always able to learn new skills! Learning to open up to people is just like learning how to ride a bike. It is something that some people learn at a young age, but it is also something that some people may choose not to learn although it is a useful skill. Being an open book does not come easy to everyone, but understanding your own feelings is the first step. Once you know how you are feeling and even possibly why you are feeling that way, it will become easier to share those feelings with other people. The biggest thing to remember is that no matter what you are feeling, there is always someone out there who is willing to listen to you and that has maybe even been there themselves.

I cannot open up to certain people because of my trust issues. I have been betrayed and deceived by people who were pretending to be someone they are not. My terrible experience has affected my judgment of where I shall lay my trust. I guess it is one of the reasons I cannot open up. Another reason why I think so is because of some traumatic experience in childhood or past. It inevitably causes other mental health issues. Insecurities also play a major role here, The fear of what people or the society may think of can also contribute as factors.

Being in a new space is scary because it feels foreign and uncomfortable, and I used to be afraid, but being the person you are and putting yourself out there, introducing yourself and interacting is more than enough. Sometimes the feeling of being judged holds you back but deep down, we are all human and no one is perfect. Not everyone will like us but some do. The person you are afraid to talk to might feel the same way, afraid to open up. Sometimes, just saying simple words can make someone’s day, it’s the wonder of embracing fears.

Because it’s challenging to be vulnerable! We don’t live in a society that normalizes the honest expression of human emotion and that can be frustrating and isolating. Just try to remember that we’re all human at the end of the day and we’re all made out of the same stuff. It can be scary to open up to somebody when you don’t know if they will be receptive or understanding. But just try to keep in mind that even if that does happen (and I hope it doesn’t!) there are plenty of other in the world who will be more on your wavelength. I’m always here if you feel like talking to me about anything, this is a judgment free space. It’s safe to share here. But no pressure! Everything at your own pace.

Opening up to people can be difficult, especially if you have just realized that you struggle with being open. For me, I have always been a reserved person that generally doesn't open up about my inner feelings, not even to my best friends. I realized that I have a hard time opening up to people when I met my now significant other, as he, when we were only friends, really helped me speak more openly as a person. Admittedly, it was a struggle to be open with him at first, but after we got even closer, I've found it much easier. What I learned from that experience was that it's alright to take a while to figure out how to be open, as it takes time. Maybe as you grow closer to others, whether they're friends or family members, you may find that it becomes natural to be more open.

Humans get used to habits and it can be scary to break this habit. If you’re used to bottling emotions and have never opened up to people before, it can be frightening not knowing how they’ll react, being vulnerable and experiencing something new. Opening up and trusting people takes time and will not happen overnight , take small steps before pouring out your heart and soul - try sharing your thoughts or feelings anonymously first. This will help overcome any fear of being judged. Open up to a professional or authority figure first. Try writing down your thoughts on paper and handing it to the person - this saves you muddling up words or panicking in the middle of it. Keep trying, take things slow!