What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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You simply tell them that you do not want to speak to them anymore and they need to respect your boundaries
Tell him goodbye, block his number from calling and texting. block him on whatsapp and block him on instagram and social networking websites and tell him to leave me alone.
Politely try to get away! If it gets worse tell someone trusted like an adult! Exes are often an issue for many so try to aproach in a safe manner!
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2015 6:00pm
If he is abusive.. go to the police or tell someone you care about like a parent or a friend. I would say to ignore it, turn off your phone, or get a new number! Whatever you do I suggest do not contact him back. That will just create more problems. I hope I've helped, I know what your going through I was dealing with the same issue last week. Stay strong and remember the best is yet to come.😊
If you want to maintain the friendship tell them. But you also need to tell them if you dont. Communication is key. Just be polite about it.
Do you honestly feel like talking to that person? How does it make you feel? If it negatively impacts you I personally would ignore them because my well being is important to me.
If you don't want to talk, start off with making the message clear and if they don't get it... Say Adios! Block that boy/girl/other!
Clarify things out. Talk about it to your close friends.keep your self productive not busy. Follow your hobbies
If your ex continues to contact you, and the contact is unwanted, there are a couple of things you could possibly do. In my experience, politely telling them stop contacting you will allow them to understand that their attempt at talking to you can be painful. Sometimes, even leaving the message to the side for a while before you are ready to talk to them, will give you a bit more time to come to terms wit your feelings. Sometimes not saying anything is more powerful than any words we can write down.
If you have moved on with your life it would be wise to discontinue all personal communication with your ex. However if you are still single and see where you still have feeling for the person then you must evalute your feelings as well as the reason you broke up then decide whether to start over or break free.
You tell straight out how you feel about it, and make the person see the things from your point of view.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 7:26am
It depends upon why they are contacting you, whether it's because they want to talk to you as a friend or if they want to get back together with you. If they want to be friends then there shouldn't be an issue with talking with them from time to time and being there for them, if it's not too difficult. However if they do want to get back together with you but you don't feel the same way anymore, tell them.
If your ex keeps on contacting you, I would change numbers, block him, or even tell him to move on. If y'all broke up, it was because of a reason. Time to move on.
If it is causing you stress, trauma, sadness or any negative feeling, then you must ask them to stop. If you have asked and they have not complied, you must find a way to block them from contacting you. If there is no way, then I suggest trying to ignore them or changing your number if that doesn't work. If it becomes threatening, don't hesitate to contact the police.
deberias tener cuidado avisar a tus familiares para que esten al tanto o podes llamar a la policia .
There are two things you can do about it. One is that you tell your ex clearly that he/she needn't conact you anymore . Two , avoid the calls .
Firstly if you do not want your ex contacting you. Be firm. Let them know without being nasty or personal that things just will not work out between the both of you. Its over and no going back. If they keep calling you can always change your phone number so they get the message loud and clear that you mean't what you said. If the person really persists like coming to your home and or place or work continually this is called stalking and is a police matter.
I recommend blocking them on any platform they are contacting you on and if its possible, report them. Most of all, remember it'll all be okay!
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 12:10am
block him/ her on every form of social media as well as your phone or mobile device. seek support from the police if need be
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 7:31pm
If my ex boyfriend keeps contacting me I take a step back and remember the reason why we stopped talking in the first place.
Tell them that it is over and that they should try and move on. If they still won't leave you alone, block them.
Try the no contact rule which means politely tell them to leave you alone (unless you want to talk with them).
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 6:40am
If you do not want your ex to keep contacting you, you can tell him/her that. Or you can just ask that person why he/she is contacting you.
Tell him flat out to stop messaging you and if he doesn't tell your parent mom/dad/legal guardian and if that doesn't stop it get a new phone number
Call your service provider and tell them to block their numbers. Block them on all social media. If it goes any father then that get a restraining order.
I know how it feels to be ignored by an ex, who I've just broken up with. So knowing the feeling I could empathize. I would smoothen the process of breaking up gradually instead of cutting of contact all of a sudden which is a big blow.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 1:33pm
Tell him that you do not wish to be incontact with him if thats what you want but if not then talk to the police or parent/gaurdian
He is contacting you because you are letting him. It's up to you what you really want, you have to ask yourself that.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 8:16am
Start by explaining why things didn't and aren't going to work out. Ask nicely that they leave you alone. If that fails I suggest blocking the number.
Do they mean well? Are you still in love with them and wouldn't mind giving them another chance? If so, feel free to reply back.
However, if you wish to have nothing to do them, clearly let them know so. Explain it to them that you both are adults who wish for the best for one another, which is why you think it is best that you two do not keep in touch.
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