What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Believe it or not, I was the one who was hung up on the girl who broke up with me a few years ago. If someone feels that the relationship ends on bad terms, it's hard for the dumpee to accept because there simply isn't any closure. If you're trying to avoid your ex after dumping them, I'd say you give them if only a few minutes of your time to make sure he/she understands why you had to do what you did.
Change phone numbers. It is the most effective way, so much so that I'm considering adding this as a new skill to my resume.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 8:41am
If the ex is harassing you or bothering you, the best thing to do would be blocking anything they are able to contact you with.
what do you do if your ex keeps contacting you? You can possibly block him from your contacts or get a new number which one works best for you
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 4:36am
If you don't want nothing with him, tell him to stop annoying you, and if he keeps doing it block him
I had an ex do this to me, you just ignore them. Delete their texts, hit the little red button when they call.
You should ignore them and block them. Make it clear that you don't want them to reach you. If they consistently try and contact you, confront them in person with a friend and tell them to stop.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 7:21pm
Ask them to stop contacting you. If it's over social media, block them. If it's over text, block them and change your number
block him or just talk to him about that, you won't feel better until that happend
Your ex keeps contacting you. You don't want to talk to him/her for some reason. Would you like to talk about that?
I think that depends on your relationship and the breakup really.
If you were on good terms then perhaps you can politely ask them to stop contacting you and that will be enough.
If it wasn't so good and/or asking them to stop hasn't worked then it might be best to block them from contacting you where ever possible. If they still won't leave you alone and you feel you are being harassed by them then this more serious and it will probably best to speak to someone about this and get some extra help and support, especially if you need to report them to the authorities.
If it is bothering you and making you feel bad then it is not acceptable and you do not have to put up with this.
All depends on how messy the breakup was, how you feel towards your ex now, and what they are texting.
If your ex keeps on contacting you and it makes you feel uncomfortable or doesn't do you any good (i.e. in terms of moving on, for example,) then you can be honest with him and tell him that you don't want to talk anymore and would want to have some time alone. Just make sure that you don't sound rude, but be honest with him as well. Tell him why you don't want him to contact you anymore. After that, you can wait for his response. If he still contacts you, and if you are really bothered by it, then maybe you can block him.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 6:30pm
I would ask him politely ask him to stop. If he does not, then I would try blocking his calls and text messages.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 6:11pm
You should ask him to stop or block him or her. You don't need to have him or her intruding ........
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 12:30pm
Well, you can be friends with him/her. If you feel like being disturbed, be straightforward.I hope your ex understands!
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 4:34am
Inform them that you do not wish to be contacted, if they continue block them and then if they find other ways contact the police as this i believe is a form of harassment.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 6:40pm
I had an ex who kept contacting me, insulting me and stalking/hacking me. I let this go on for a few weeks thinking it would stop. It didn't so i went to the police
If he is nothing you, depending on the extent. I would recommend either asking him to stop and deleting him or blocking him.
Talk to them. See to that matter. If you are intrested too then its good else call 911.................
Continue blocking him/ her, repeated attempts are just demonstrations of being desperate. Any contact with your ex immediately after a breakup is not a good idea at all, emotions are still highly strung and it's highly unlikely anything productive will come from an exchange. Leave it for a few months until you're sure that you're over the relationship and then maybe attempt contact to resolve any issues you may have but only if you want to. You're the only person who can give yourself closure.
If your ex keeps contacting you after a break up when you don't want to hear from them, make sure you are clear to them that you do not want any contact with them and if they still continue to contact you, I recommend blocking their number and profiles from social media.
You should tell them to stop if its bothering you. If they don't you can ignore it or block them all together, because no one should be allowed to bring you down :)
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 8:58pm
From my personal experience I can tell you that ignoring is the best way. You can block persons almost in every app nowadays. And if he/she won't stop calling you, changing your number may be an option.
Block their number. Even in the case that you miss them too, if you truly want to move on it's best.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 3:02pm
See what he/she wants. But if they keep harassing you you should tell someone you are close to. If it gets really bad you should contact the police.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 3:34am
You should let him know that you no longer want to hear from them. Block numbers and social media if needed. Notify family,friends, and anyone else relevant that you do not want to speak to your ex in the case that your ex tries to contact you through them.
Mute notifications or block their calls and texts. If you don't want to talk to them, don't respond. If it persists, I would contact them and ask them to stop reaching out to you.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 2:52am
Answer it and ask him what he wants so you will know. And then its up to you to make decisions. In Tha way.. You can either tell him to stop
Tell someone. Anyone who could help you or knows both of you. Your parent, their parent, teachers, friends and anyone who will listen that can help. Some situations like that can turn violent and as long as someone knows about it then that can make a huge difference.
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