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What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?

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What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Anonymous
June 21st, 2015 7:10pm
He is still not over you. Help another human who still has feelings for you in his heart to outgrow it. However keep reminding him that you dont have any feelings for him now. You ll feel better by helping another person. Look at it this way. Hope this helps!
Anonymous
June 21st, 2015 6:34pm
Talk to them , and tell them that you don't want to talk to them anymore. Or ignore or block them on social media.
star012
June 21st, 2015 3:10pm
You cut all contact if he keeps trying to contact you block his number and if that don't work go to the police.
lovelyLynx18
June 21st, 2015 7:25am
If they are annoying you or you want them to stop, tell them to leave you alone. And if they continue, then change your numbers.
Brownieyes
June 21st, 2015 3:17am
That depends. I'm going to assume you don't want them to contact you if you are asking this question. Block them. Delete there numbers and if they keep trying to contact you tell them if they don't leave you alone you will call the police.
ashwarya
June 20th, 2015 10:16pm
You can talk to him/her and just clear out everything and finish it for once and all, because avoiding/ignoring would not help for a very long time. If he/she stil doesn't understand and keeps bothering you, maybe it's time to make a formal complaint!
BrokenDefinition
June 19th, 2015 7:17pm
If you are feeling harassed consider filling out a police report blocking your ex on any media sites or from your phone. If it continues or becomes threatening call 911 immediately!
Anonymous
June 19th, 2015 5:53pm
That depends on what you want. You can answer him/her and talk to him/her properly as a friend or you can tell him/her to stop talking to you because it makes you uncomfortable and block him/her
starryRiver83
June 3rd, 2015 10:04am
Hi, if you are not wanting to stay in contact with your ex, you either need to make it clear to them or just ignore them and hope they get the message. Whether you want to get back with them or not, it is clear that you want the space to deal with everything. Maybe you are over it and wish they would understand that too. It doesn't always work out when people try to be friends afterwards and if you don't want that contact, you need to make it as clear as possible to them.
Annie626
May 29th, 2015 11:00am
If you want to stay friends with them, then there should be no problem. However if you feel you are being annoyed or harassed to stay in contact with them, you should block them from whatever media platform they are using
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2015 5:17pm
Block their number, email, social media accounts, etc. If all else fails, contact your local police department. If they continue to contact you it goes from being continuous contact to stalking and that's not healthy at all!
TomUK64
May 15th, 2015 6:04pm
I found that difficult. I was with my first partner for nearly 9 years. We split up just before he went to prison. I then discovered that he had been living a double life and had another partner in another flat in London. I had no idea. When he went to prison (money fraud - again - I had no idea), I felt so stupid and gullible. Of course I should have known. The signs were there but I ignored them. Then he contacted me and wanted me to visit him in prison. I thought - why? He's just put me through hell. But I did visit him and, looking back, I realise that I did it for me. It helped me put him into the past. It also helped me accept that I would possibly never get all the answers to all the questions that I had. But that was ok. I could move on. When I started dating again, it was difficult to trust someone. I remember following a boyfriend to work one day just to double-check that he was actually going to work! So it took a while to re-build my trust for someone else. But, one step at a time, I did learn to trust again. Years later, I'm happily married and that time feels a lifetime ago.
AppleSauces
May 1st, 2015 5:38pm
If an ex keeps contacting you, first let him know that you do not wish to be contacted at this time. If he continues to try to contact you, contact the police, non emergency number, to see what they can do.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2015 7:11am
Your choice. You want ex- keep it going or no troubles - leave him off by a simple DO NOT DISTURB message.
Shikaa
April 5th, 2015 8:56pm
Try to tell him/her politely that you are not interested. If they still don't stop, block them and let them not have any means to contact you.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2014 6:22pm
block him....seriously, if you don't really want him to contact you, there are ways...AND YOU KNOW THE WAYS YOU JUST HAVE TO DO IT!!
Pandette
November 18th, 2014 6:01am
Ah, this one is a bit tough. How do you feel when your ex is contacting you? Have you tried to tell your ex to stop calling you? You can always go to the authorities for harassment. It's really all up to you and how you feel about the situation!
Anonymous
November 17th, 2014 4:53pm
Tell them to stop, and if they don't stop even after you have told them to stop contacting you then contact a close family member or the police.
BroadwayBaby
November 17th, 2014 4:39pm
All you gotta do is tell them to go away. Explain why you feel uncomfortable with it. Maybe they'll understand that.
Mayaisthename
November 15th, 2014 5:56pm
Tell him straight you don't like that, so his clear on things, he probably doesn't know how you feel
KristenBugg
November 15th, 2014 4:39pm
I think it really depends.if you do not want them to contact you, you could ask nicely for them to stop. However, if they continue then there is always a first step of blocking them from your phone and anything else they could get in touch with you on. IF you do want to talk to them.... I would cautious of their true intentions An ex is an ex for a reason! Never forget those reasons why you broke up to begin with. In my experince in that they only wanted to come back around when another girl didn't work out.
Behappylovie101
November 15th, 2014 2:29pm
Don't be mean by not responding. They either still still like you and are trying to get over you or they want to make sure that everything is okay between you two
Anonymous
November 12th, 2014 6:52am
It depends if you want him/her to contact you or not. If not, politely explain to your ex your situation, or simply block them/delete them from your contacts.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2014 12:04am
If it bothers you, then you should tell them clearly that you don't want them contacting you. If they continue, then it's better if you change your number or block them from social media and stuff like this that will prevent them from contacting you again.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2014 1:49pm
Tell them that you don't want them to do it. If they don't listen, block them from social medias. If you don't feel comfortable talking to them yourself, get a friend to let them know that you don't want them to contact you. In extreme cases, like harassment, the police is the best option.
helpmeHelpyou61
November 3rd, 2014 10:40am
Explain him that it is not comfortable for you. Even if he doesn't understand then block his number and if her gets too aggressive please report him to police as it will eventually get worse as you will start enabling him.
MickeyMouse
November 3rd, 2014 10:39am
Block the ex, if they are making different accounts to try and contact you, ask them nicely to stop contacting you, because you need some closure, some time apart from them. Explain that to them in the nicest possible way at first, but if they get angry about that, be firm.
CourageousIceCream19
November 3rd, 2014 12:31am
I had something similar to this happen. You need to sit him/her down, or call them and tell them that it's starting to bother you and you're trying to distance yourself. If that's not helping, maybe it's time to get some of your friends involved to tell them your thoughts and feelings to show your sincerity about the situation. Block them on your social media accounts if necessary.
notnewton
November 2nd, 2014 11:57pm
I would recommend that you do not respond! Even if you still wish that you were with your ex, speaking to her will only hurt you more.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2014 5:07pm
Tell them, be firm. If they still do, block them out or just move away from being accessible. It's harsh but that's the only way you both will have space to move on.