My boyfriend or girlfriend wants to break up with me, how can I change their mind?
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Do not change their mind. It's not worth it. If they do not appreciate your company, trying to convince them is a waste of your time that can be better spent with better people.
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2015 11:21am
Hanging somebodies mind is dificult. If they have made a decision then it is best that you show them that you respect their decision. However, you can always talk to them for the final time to see their view
you should not try to changer their mind, this person dose not feel strongly for you most likely for a reason and trying to change their mind can latter case an abusive relationship.
It all depends on the reasoning behind them wanting to break up. If its simply that they dont have those romantic feelings anymore or if they have fallen for another you might not be able to do anything. But if its about maybe financial struggles or something of that sort you can always try working on it.
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Anonymous
July 24th, 2015 12:12am
show them that you really care for then and maybe do something really kind or buy them something it might work
Anonymous
July 24th, 2015 6:57am
Face and asked them what exactly happen. Give them time and never push them for answer. Try to control text them too much.
Compare yourself now to how you were when you two fell for each other. Find out what changed in you, and in them. And work on fixing that. If your boyfriend or girlfriend isn't having something bad in their mind like cheating, then things should go well.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2015 5:13am
It depends on why they want to. The best thing for you is to let them go forcing them into a relationship wont help at all it will just cause more problems for the future.
Forcing another person into a relationship is never the way to act, try asking them how they feel and why they feel this way first.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2015 11:31pm
You cant make someone love you, dont pressure them into dating you, if they love you, then you'll get over this bump in the road and make your relationship even better
Try to empathise with their state of mind and give them some positive reason for still being in the relationship;but if they still feel the need to breakup. The best thing for both is to let them go.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2015 9:17am
Evaluate first if this may be the right thing to do. Explain your thoughts if ever it does seem like it isn't.
Respect his/her thoughts on this.
if ever, don't make promises you can't keep if you're changing a few things.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2015 8:28pm
You don't want to force them into something if they have their mind set on to one thing. Communication is key. First, try to figure out why they are having the thoughts/ideas of breaking up. Second, try to understand and communicate about the problems that have risen. If the other partner just knows it won't work out, let it go. Let destiny do its magic.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 2:53am
Sometimes you can persuade people to change they're thoughts and sometimes you can't. When dating if one person doesn't feel right and wants to end it then you can't really change it. It's just how they feel . Stay Strong 💕
Anonymous
August 1st, 2015 12:57am
To change their mind about breaking up with you, you could, ask them why "why are you breaking up with me" and try to make it whatever is wrong better
Ask them why they want to split up, ask them what made them make that decision, if it was your behavior or the lack of attention that you didn't make to them.. only when you know your mistakes will you know how to improve them.
Try to ask them why, sometimes, you can't change their mind, and maybe breaking up is the best way to go, but it is always good to ask and see whats wrong.
You can't change a persons mind on a break up. If your partner thinks it's best to part ways then it means they're no longer interested or there's not enough effort put in. It depends on the reason why he/she want's to break up. Try putting in more effort and start fighting for your partner back!
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2015 10:48pm
you cant really change their mind you can try sort things out together by sitting down and talking about what you bothwant from that relationship
If they do not want to be with you and it's their final decision . Then its better to let them go . We should not beg to be in someone's life.
Surely, you shouldn't force him or her to be with you if they don't want it anymore. But you could try to change your bad habits or your attitude. Don't give up, maybe it is just temporary crisis.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 11:19pm
By showing your lover your best side and by offering him or her two things that everyone of us craves deep inside:love and respect.
This is going to be hard to here, but you can't really change his/her mind. It's his/her own mind, with his/her own synapses and brain tissue. Whatever he/she chooses, you'll have no choice but to accept it. They want to break up because it isn't working out for them for some reason. Chances are it deals with compatibility, and if you have to change who you are to change their mind, then is it really worth it?
If someone wants to break up with you it's never a good feeling, but you can't change the way they feel, similar to how you can't change the way you feel about them. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you anyways.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2015 3:50am
You really cant change a persons mind, but you can ask them if maybe you two can rebuild the relationship and fix the problems and just be honest with them they'll appreciate you even if the relationship ends
Instead of trying to change their mind, first find out why they're wanting to end the relationship, and is there any way that the two of you can work on things to salvage it. Sadly not all relationships last, and perhaps your partner feels it's best to move on. If this is the case, realize that it's better for you to move on and meet someone new, then to stay with someone who doesn't want the same things as you do.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 4:34am
Sometimes you cant, If thats what they want, you need to respect it and not try to make something that doesnt seem likeits going to last, just keep going. But if you know why they want to break up, just stop doing what that is
I don't think you can, or should. If they want to leave, that is their choice. There are plenty more fish in the sea!
It depends on the situation maybe they need more attention then they have or they need something new in there life prove to hem you are what they need
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