My boyfriend or girlfriend wants to break up with me, how can I change their mind?
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Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 9:16am
It's not your job to change their mind. If they want to break up, its their choice. If they wanted to be with you, they would stay
You can never make anyone change their mind, but you can remind them of why you're together in the first place.
I used to think you could change their mind, but you really can't. If they really want to break up, that's it. I'm really sorry, but that's how it is.
firstly you are showing the strength by not letting the other one go. and if you are that adamant, then you should make them sit down and have a conversation. Jot down the points you would like to talk about, so that you dont get any last minute jitters and screw the situation. Call them back with all your love. If he/she really loves you then the love and honesty your soul carries towards them , will be reflected in your eyes, and wont remain unseen from them.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 7:10pm
You can't, if that's what they want its best to leave it at that but if they want that they shouldn't be worth your time
In such case, sometimes letting go is the best way we can save a relationship. If it is mend to be it will be yours for life. Moreover you can not make a person to love you, it should be from the heart :)
At first I don't think so... if someone is lacking interest in you can stay with you for much long... But Still... Try to mend up things.. try to do what they love to keeping aside your interests Only for a while But beware! If it continues still then they are not ryt choice to be with.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 3:45pm
If my boyfriend or girlfriend wants to break with me, I should find out the reason behind this. If it is a minor problem, we can talk about it and try to settle things down. However if the reason behind the break up is cheating or he/she has fallen in love with someone else, the situation is more complicated. Changing his/her mind will be useless. So in this case, I should let it go. But in all situations a dialogue is a must because whatever the outcome, we would have heard each others point of view.
just dont MAKE him/her change their mind, just try to tell him/her that u love him/her, that if you both try, the relationship can work out, its hard but its better than let him/her go. sometimes you gotta do your best for your love one, and this is one of those moments. talk and try.
Try to talk to them about it. Find out what had happened for them to feel that this is the right option.
Recognising their autonomy as an individual is important, in fact this is important if you you want to foster any kind of relationship with anyone. If they decide to break-up with you it might because they see it as a decision that best "fits" the circumstance. We all love being in control of situations, however, at times, there are things that are beyond our control. Accepting this might reduce the scale at which the effects of your boyfriend or girlfriend's decision has on you.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 11:16pm
Establish why they want to break up with you to begin with, and see if those reasons can be addressed and worked on together.
you cant force them.....and if its your fault only then u can mend it but maybe if they just dont want to stay then they arent worth working on
Well, if you think you can reverse the situations.. Then you must apologise them first and ask them why he/she is wanting breakup.. If their is problem about understanding, compatibility or habits.. Then you can apologise for a new fresh start to change and improve the things... You can make changes and develop better understanding with time to overcome problems which are the reason for breakup.. And if their is some other issue.. You can talk to them without leading any fight.. And try to solve the matter
This is circumstantial, but in most cases: don't try to change their minds. This is happening for a reason, and it's awful but you'll be okay.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 2:30am
Unfortunately, you can't force someone to love you. It hurts and it sucks, but in the end, it is better than being in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about you. If it was meant to be, they might realize that they made a mistake, but remember to put yourself first and don't spend your days hoping for that. And remember for every door closed, another one opens.
If someone asks you, Can you pls tell me the direction to ---- then you can only tell direction. However you still can give some suggestion.
prove them they are wrong with their decision. just prove that whatever is the reason for the breakup is not there. and remember, youre awesome!
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 7:37am
First know Its gonna be a bit challenging to change someones mind once they settled on the ideal. If he or she is thinking about breaking up with you, they are obvious not happy in the relationship they are in. And the fact that they want to end the relationship instead of fixing it shows they want to move on. Its pretty obvious you want him/her back soo the best thing you should do is to meet up with this person and just have a honest 1-on-1 talk about how your feeling and how there feeling. Who knows you might find something interesting you didn't know before!
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 5:26am
Communication is key. Ask your romantic partner what it is about you or the relationship that bothers them. If there is something concrete that you can fix, do your best to fix it to preserve the relationship, if it won't harm you in any way. If there isn't, you will have to accept that some things are out of your control, and you will have to let your partner go. (But remember there may be someone just as good for you who wants to preserve the relationship!) Good luck.
Unfortunately, if they feel like it isn't going well and they don't want to continue further, you need to let go. You need to respect their decision. You can't change them, and you can't change their mind. If they want to leave, they will. The more you try to convince them to stay or change their mind, it will push them away even more which may create an unhealthy breakup which will not be good on both ends.
It should be their choice whether or not if they want to break up with you because sometimes you can't just change your mind that if you love someone or not, right? If you are really wanting to, show them all the cons to the breaking up that they are wanting to do. Be as loving and supportive as you can.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 3:08am
If your boyfriend and girlfriend is willing to break up with you, they are obviously not the right one because you wouldn't need to change their mind.
Don't. If they don't see that you truly love them, they are simply not worth your time and you love.
You can change the situation by wise thinking but you can't change a person perspective if they are not ready to listen..be calm and if the relationship is important to them they won't take that step and if they still do ..Just let go bcoz you are saving yourself from worst and in future you will thank yourself for staying neutral. .take care
One can never change a persons mind, a persons mind is their own. But there are often things that we can do that may help them realize that it would not be for the best.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 2:48am
unfortunately you can't always look to change someone else's mind. sometimes people need space and time.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 8:35am
When you get into a relationship with someone you make a commitment but also understand that there is a possibility that the person you are with could lose interest or have something come up in their life. If the person who is trying to leave has made their mind up p, you really can't change it as it isn't your own choice. You could confront them but that may not always work depending on the issue.
Unfortunately you can't change their mind. It is their choice, you should not force them to do something they don't want to do. If they don't like you that way anymore it is better for them to leave you rather then to be with someone who doesn't feel the same way as you feel about them
You can remind them why they are with you. Do things they love or try new things to spice up your relationship
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