I can't get over my ex after 5 years. What should I do?

Take some time to figure out why this might be happening and work on it. I know it must be very hard to go through this, but the most important thing right now is focusing on yourself and on self love. It might sound like a simple thing to do, but it can help with so much. Take some time off of social media and come into terms with how you feel. I am in no position to dictate how you feel, but it is possible that you may be hung up on the attachment of the thought of your ex rather than your ex themself. Try to explore new things and find new hobbies or people who can make you feel safe and hear out your problems. I know nothing about your ex, but I know that in your eyes, they may have been someone wonderful. However, just because it may have been a happier place with your ex, it doesn't mean that you're going to have to stay hung up on them to be happy. Even if it may be the other way around, that you actually may not even stand to be around them, the attachment is still there for a reason. Just know that the breakup happened for a reason too, and in the future I'm rooting for you to feel better about it and realize some things that you may have ignored. I hope to have helped even just a little bit, and thank you for listening even if I might've said something insensitive. I hope you have a great day and just know that there are so many people rooting for you!

The answer for what you should do will come from the same person who asked it, you. The same love, strength and devotion you invested in your previous relationship can be used in your relationship you have with yourself now. So being a help for you to adjust and proceed forward in a healthy, positive and self-appreciative manner. You have been struggling greatly for a long time, and taking the time to reflect on the path ahead will be a struggle focused on you to be happy again; whether you are in a relationship or not. Remember that the focus is solely on you to: "Proceed, exceed and then succeed!"

Getting over your ex is hard especially since you’ve spent all those years together, but you need to realize that they are your ex for a reason. Breaking up does not mean that you’re going to automatically stop losing feelings for them, your feelings are going to fluctuate, some days you’ll feel like you’re over them and others you’ll be thinking about them non stop. Moving on takes time but eventually you will be proud of your growth and you will gain so much self love for yourself. Try spending more time with people who make you forget about your ex and who make you happy. You can try doing things that you love or try finding a new hobby. Try not to let your emotions and thoughts get the best of you, try to keep yourself occupied but at the same time, try to allow yourself to understand that they’re your ex for a reason and at the end of it all, you deserve the best.

Ask yourself, how badly do you want to move on with your life? What is it about your ex that is difficult to get over. Maybe you can journel this down. Is it the person? Is it the relationship? Was it the emotions? I think what helps to get a person to move on is self-care. Be your own best friend and help yourself heal and recover. Sometimes pain is a great motivation to put into habits that can be beneficial like working out, creating projects, pampering yourself. This can also be a time where you can learn to become content and happy with your own company. Freedom with new set of eyes.

I'm happy you reached out, that shows a lot of courage and responsibility. Getting over a serious relationship ending can be hard, it sounds like you're experiencing grief and missing the connection you had. I'd encourage you to connect with a listener here, sometimes talking with another person can help us see things through a different perspective, and better understand our emotions. and maybe take a look at 7cups path for grief and relationships. Losing a relationship can be hard, and its important to reach out for support and remember that you aren't alone. If you'd like to connect with a listener, there are many happy to hear from you, and listen.

You should understand why the breakup happened and try to focus on better yourself. focus on yourself and learn more about yourself. Break ups can be difficult but with time and effort you can move on and you may find someone better for yourself. Learning more about yourself, you will know what in a relationship you would like and won't like whilst being in it. Just remember that this feeling you are experiencing is temporary and you will feel better with time. Just keep looking forward and you never know, you may find something better for you that never even knew of.

When dealing with the matter of heart, i usually try to reason my way out of the issue to ease the process. If i'm in your position, i'd remember what was the reason that we broke up then decide whether it was a better outcome for both of us. If it was for the best, i'd learn to let it go because anything that was forced is exhausting for any party involved. The one constantly chasing will be exhausted because the effort isn't reciprocated, and the one being chased will be exhausted feeling like they're trapped in the relationship. Hope that helps :)

Directly confront the feelings, the grief of loss. Face them as much as necessary to understand them better. Talk with other people about those feelings: don't hold them in. Remind yourself the ex is no longer with you; remind yourself the ex is likely not coming back. Also, remind yourself that being stuck in the past is preventing you from living your own real, and worth-while life right now in the present. If pictures or memorabilia from the relationship still exist in your home, consider getting rid of them respectfully in order to help make a mental break from the ex cleaner in your mind. Stop all communication with the ex if that has not already happened. Consider finding a healthy, low-energy hobby. Seek out a small group of new people to get support in your community. Keep facing those hard feelings of loss head on; it will be hard to face them, and facing them and understanding that the loss is real might get easier over time.

Firstly, I can understand what you’re going through, it’s difficult getting over someone you’ve spent so many memories with. But think about your life and whether you want to ruin years of your life thinking about someone who doesn’t care about you, when you can think about people who you can love from now on , people who can promise you a lifetime of love. Think about how happy u you can be from now on , god has someone written for us , it’s just waiting for that one that matters. Just get over him how he got over you, shown him you’re better than cribbing over him and succeed in your life,

I'm really sorry you're feeling that way. I know it could be draining and frustrating to still have feelings for someone who you aren't with anymore. I'm sorry I can't give you advice since I haven't walked a single day in your shoes. You're the expert in your situation and of course you know it better than I do. Is there anything that you tried that might have helped this get better? If yes what sort of things or activities have you engaged into to try to get you over this? And what do you think the reason is that you're still attached to your boyfriend till this day?

Hey there! Sometimes we just can't move on until we have some kind of closure. This can take many forms. I have known some people cut up photographs and burn them, others find that changing their social media profiles and removing pics, etc does the trick. Others find that when they find a new love then their past is dimmed and not so painful. But, for some people to get closure they need to have a face to face chat and just clear the air. Sometimes that just isn't possible. So the next best thing might be to write everything down, your feelings and thoughts and also the 'what if's' and 'if onlys'. Be kind to yourself about this, you will be able to move on and find a new relationship. You deserve that!