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How do I know if I'm in a toxic relationship?

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5thousandmiles
July 13th, 2017 11:56am
If you're unhappy, anxious, always feeling on edge, finding yourself wishing you could be single or with someone else. If you're not growing as a couple and things feel stagnant, it could be time to go.
WhenTheTimeComes
July 16th, 2017 2:08am
What triggers a toxic relationship is different expectations on each side. It doesn't mean that one or the other is being abusive or treating poorly its partner (this would define a toxic personality, which is different from a toxic relationship), just that since each of you expects more or less than the other, it brings conflicts, resentment, bitterness and all will affect the relationship itself, making it difficult.
dancingSong41
July 19th, 2017 3:09am
here are 5 ways to know if you are in a toxic relationship: 1 - you stop doing all the things you loved doing before you met your partner. 2 - they make you feel wrong even when you are right. 3 - you make excuses for there faults. 4 - you agree with them even when you don't want to. 5 - they make you feel as if you can't do any better than them. yes, all relationship have it's down but true love should make you feel more than you ever were before. make you feel like you are the most beautiful thing in the world and you should never feel like you are fighting alone.
heartfulSummer89
July 21st, 2017 10:37pm
When you don't feel like you anymore and you are more concerned with making you significant other happy then you are making yourself. I was in one to where i lost myself and became so physically sick i couldn't get out of bed.
alina17
July 26th, 2017 1:32pm
People can be toxic and manipulative in your life and not even realize that they’re being that way… Communicate & if they’re not taking a step towards change, it’s up to you to make the necessary changes or just simply let go. Stop giving people excuses. Stop giving them chances & allowing them to drain your energy. Escaping a toxic relationship can feel like breaking a piece of your heart off. Leaving is never easy, but sometimes it’s necessary to save yourself and others from dying inside. It’s great to breathe fresh air out of something so toxic.
CarissasHereToTalk
August 4th, 2017 6:12pm
If somebody hurts you constantly, if their apologies never feel genuine or sincere, if they say mean things to you and play it off like jokes, if they tell other people information about you that they promised they wouldn't, if you feel like you're being violated.. Remember that if you feel the need to ask, you're probably not in the right relationship.
YourFriendSahil
August 31st, 2017 9:49pm
Being in a relationship is about sharing, having fun and respecting every aspect of the other. The day your relationship takes away your freedom and you are depended on the person for every smile, that's a time to realize that It's toxic..make changes. #keepgoing #mostimportantly
Clarkguild
September 14th, 2017 12:05pm
If your partner is manipulating you and hurting you, mentally or physically, you're in a toxic relationship. The best thing to do is either confront your partner or leave him/her. You just have to do what's best for you in this type of situation and remember that you don't deserve any pain that is inflicted on you.
Maia0A
September 28th, 2017 9:25pm
When you feel like you're always wrong, when you're so afraid you feel like you're walking on eggshells. When no matter what you do, you are not enough. When your partner points out everything thats "wrong" with you. And still, you feel that the problem is you and can't pull away. When he tells you on one side really nasty things, but on the other ear he whispers "I love you" - and he makes you feel like you are crazy.
Numberz
October 6th, 2017 8:31am
If your happy and safe, then your okay. If it hurts, or puts you at risk- then maybe you might want to re-evaluate.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2017 8:30pm
If in any way, shape or form, your partner hurt you, mentally or physically. This could be playing mind games, putting you down, calling you names, hitting you, causing you physical pain, lowering your self-esteem and so many other things that can come under the same topics.
AliceCares96
October 22nd, 2017 12:37am
Do you feel drained or depressed? Does your significant other make you feel bad about yourself? If the answer is yes, you may be in a toxic relationship. In a healthy relationship you should feel happy and confident to be yourself.
gracefulJoy29
November 9th, 2017 5:03pm
By your behaviour if you are happy laughing and that happiness can be in your face and if u r sad I never feel like to mingle and talk to others
Anonymous
November 10th, 2017 11:12am
When you feel that you are giving much more than you're receiving. When you feel that you need too many things of this relationship and you can not find any! When you realize that in the current state your relationship, being single is better than being alone with someone else.
competentBlueberry60
November 15th, 2017 8:42am
Usually relationships are a mutual give and take where both parties have mutual respect for each other and there is an equal amount of healthy interactions between the two parties. In a toxic relationship this balance is disturbed and there's a lot of blame, guilt and fear thrown around which is usually done with the intention to gain control over the other person.
MorbidRainbow85
November 23rd, 2017 6:35am
If you feel sad abused let down told it's your fault called name's that are hurtful ...................................
GentleBlizzard
November 24th, 2017 1:36am
If you generally feel uncomfortable in situations constantly that likely means you're in a toxic relationship.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 11:06pm
If the other person hurts you anyways continually with intent on doing so. Things like this can be considered toxic.
Loveablebabygirl23
December 7th, 2017 4:19pm
You know when your in a toxic relationship when all you do is argue all the time. You can be scared for your significant other to come home. You deal with insecurities and trust issues. You have no actual communication.
PeacefulDove227
December 8th, 2017 4:09am
If you are not happy, simple as that, and your relationship is causing your stress and negative emotions.
DestinyyXxXx
January 4th, 2018 9:16pm
If you know you know basically he treats you like your in hell dont let it go on end it ! Man!!! Your worth so much more !
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 12:51pm
There are several signs which may include verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. Jokes turn into slight insults or jabs at character. Endearing names turn into profane name calling. A push turn into also. Sometimes we don't see these things until it's too late.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 11:43pm
When you feel like the person brings out the worse than you then the better, and you feel as though it is a one sided relationship.
raeprince
January 13th, 2018 4:19pm
If you don't feel like the relationship is helping you grow as a person, or if you don't see the other person growing, or if you feel unsafe or reluctant to engage in any sort of activity with your significant other, it may be a toxic relationship.
HouseOfGold21
January 18th, 2018 5:43pm
Unfortunately, if it's something you feel the need to question, it could be a sign that you are. You need to ask yourself if you feel happy in your relationship, if you feel in any way controlled in your relationship and if arguments are being started over insignificant things.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2018 5:32pm
Some warning signs are that you've felt increasingly isolated since beginning the relationship, they are manipulative or controlling, they lower your self esteem, you feel drained after being with them, you don't trust them and they don't trust you, etc.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2018 5:11pm
Relationships are different for everyone, but there are so key clues. If they don't treat you with respect or think of you as inferior is one. And if they manipulate you for the good of them but it hurts you, that's another sign.
MonicaQu
February 3rd, 2018 6:04am
when you start to feel like you have lost yourself, and don't feel happy as you were. There is some sort of emptiness and dissatisfaction to your life. sometimes these relationships you seem to know you don't want to be together but still return.
stella1013
February 7th, 2018 5:35pm
you should constantly ask yourself how your partner makes you feel in the relationship and if your answer is wrong (bad) on so many levels, maybe it's time to consider the relationship toxic.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 7:13pm
not allowing you to spend time with friends or family, has to know where you are and what you are doing