How can I stop thinking about my ex?

it’s quite normal to be still thinking about them. Your brain might be telling you to text or call him/her because you miss them and the security of your relationship. Sometimes the pain of missing your ex might interfere with your life on many levels. *Perhaps you can’t concentrate at work? *Maybe it’s causing havoc with the relationships you have with your friends and family? *You might be trying to mask the hurt by drinking or getting into drugs? Experts agree that time will heal your pain but the longer you let it simmer the worse off you will be. Many people don’t realized how difficult breaking up is until it happens. There are all sorts of different routes to end a relationship. And yes, some people can breakup and remain good friends. Just understand that’s more like the exception to the rule and not the rule. Ask yourself if you are truly trying to forget about your ex? If you aren’t on board with this totally, well, it’s just not going to happen. Beware there are certain instances where you ex will creep back into your head and you need to be ready to accept, understand, and take action to move on.

First of all, you need to allow yourself some time to fully process the situation and what happened. This means that you need to allow your thoughts about him/her to flow through your mind---this is so that you can find closure, and move on with your life. Next, you need to eliminate him from your life in any way that you can (at least until you are sure that you are over him/her). This means that you need to delete his number, unfollow his Instagram & Facebook, and unadd him on snapchat. Doing these things will help you, but remember that in the long run' only time can heal.

Try focusing on something else in your life, your studies, career, family, friends, self care... Put all that energy you spend on your ex on something else. Find a new hobbies or start a new project, always keep your mind busy with something else. And don't punish yourself if you find yourself thinking about your ex, sometimes we do think about it and it's okay too, but when you do think about it, try to look at things with a critical point of view and understand what went wrong in your relationship and take that as a learning for future relations.

Slowly the thoughts you have about your ex will become less and less frequent. It’s hard to see now but soon you will be going about your day and you will notice you have not thought about them all day, or even for a few days. It takes time but it does happen. Try to focus on yourself and what makes you happy, don’t even focus on the bad times you had with them because that doesn’t do you any good. There is a reason they are your ex and you have so much more to look forward to that is positive!

Find something else you enjoy, reading, crocheting or take up a new hobby that excites you and gives you purpose. Remember all the reasons they are you’re ex and exactly why you are now not together. Make plans for things to concentrate on and must importantly take time to heal from the relationship and find joy in the people you have around you. If that doesn’t work then maybe you need closure so speak to your ex to tie up any loose ends . I hope you manage to take your mid if they ex and move on to big better things.

I was in an on/off relationship for a year. Although it didn't last long, I really liked him. Unfortunately, he was interested into another girl. I struggled to keep him out of my mind for a long time. But then I realized what I was worth and what I deserved. A year later, I met someone new. We have now been together for three years. I promise that it will get better and you will find love again. Know that you are worth it and deserve only good. You are not alone and you are amazing. Keep your head up and focus on you.

I understand that It's difficult. But it's not impossible. You can start with baby steps. By planning few one hour or two and doing something by yourself or with someone that you like to do, for example it can be going out, going for workout or run, or trying something new for a hobby. Don't beat yourself up if you are not able to fully focus on the task at hand, just keep trying. It can be difficult at start but ones you get used to the routine of planning next few hours and doing that stuff, then you can plan something for long term, like something you always wanted to do, or learn something new like language or some course, or you can work on your career.

You might be really going through a tough time. Life comes with it ups and downs, but you shouldn't dwell on the past. Remember there is more opportunities and hope ahead of you. Focus on yourself and grow as a person. Get yourself calendar of activities such as; hiking, taking a walk, meditation, yoga, or hang out with friends. Write down all the things that you use to enjoy as a kid and try to create an atmosphere in your space that encapsulates those activities. Keep looking forward and not back. There's light at the end of the tunnel. You can do it

Well, it really depends if you want to be with them or not. If you have decided with full faith in your mind not to be with them, then only we shall proceed. I suggest that you should distract yourself from thinking of her by doing something else. Something that you enjoy. Eventually you'll not think of her. Well it is the past that you're wondering about isn't it. Does that past exist? No it doesn't. So it is unwise to worry or think about something that doesn't exist anymore. You must believe in yourself. You must be yourself.

I went through a break up recently too so my answer is personal. I still think about my ex too from time to time, but less so with time. I think what's important here is that I've accepted that it's over. We both had mistakes in this relationship and in the end we knew we couldn't really give what each other wanted. It doesn't stop me from caring about him, but it's over. One door closed might lead to another open. I cherish my ex and our memories still, but he's a part of my past, not my future.

Think of an activity/hobby you enjoy. Focus on that, set some goals to do with it. How can you improve your skills? e.g. if there's a certain sport you enjoy, join a team, or try doing a hard move, watch some games of the sport, read about the sport, train to play the sport, play the sport with your friends etc. If you enjoy cooking you might want to buy some cookbooks, look up some recipes, cook with friends, invent a recipe yourself, go to a restaurant etc. This way, you're doing something you enjoy, you're improving yourself and distracting yourself from your ex.

One of the most effective methods to quit thinking about someone is to divert that energy into something new. Dig deep and use your emotional connection to that someone to motivate you, whether you're writing a book, inventing a new app, or finally launching that new company plan you've been dreaming about. It's possible that it will take you to your goal. Allowing oneself to feel the emotions connected with a breakup or estrangement with another person is critical. We must constantly acknowledge our emotions and, if required, grieve in a healthy and safe manner. Then we should start letting things go, which means getting on with our lives and pursuing our goals. You may realise that you have nothing left to feel or replay in your head once you've allowed yourself to truly feel everything.

It can be difficult to stop thinking about someone who had an intimate role in your life. After a relationship ends, there is often a period of adjustment, and while it can be a trying time, that same time also represents an excellent opportunity for inspiration, change, and eventually, growth. That time can be used to refocus on yourself and your interests. You may find more free-time on your hands because of no longer spending time with a partner. With that new-found time, you can commit to a self-care routine, volunteer or give back to the community in ways that you find meaningful, or spend more time with family and friends. Doing any of these can naturally take your mind off of your ex.

By keeping you busy with works it can be any types of work like if you like reading books then try to read a lot( cover as many pages as possible) or if you like playing chess that's also a good idea and of course if you have affection to any work which will keep you busy and at the same time give you pleasure, take a chance. Gradually, it will diminish all of your thoughts about your ex. I think those who are extrovert this not a big deal for them cause they got a lot of people to talk to but if you are introvert I will tell you to list all of your old friends, well-acquainted, now if it is possible to be there with them physically then it good if it is not possible then talk to them over the phone. You also can visit new places as you can go to a museum which I guess will consume enough time to not get any thoughts of your ex.

Try to focus on different things. Finding a new hobby or developing a new skill would be a positive thing. Or try to get yourself busy, go out with your friends and have a good time. If that doesn't help, try listing things you did not appreciate about your ex, that would make you realize why you broke up and why the break up is actually beneficial for you. I know it is hard to stop yourself from thinking about a certain matter, but if you push yourself, then you can do it because you would realize how beneficial it was for you and how it helped you.

Don't force them out of your mind, this is still thinking about them, and can make you dwell on them even longer. Instead, surround yourself with the people you care about and know have your best interest, this is family, friends, pets or anyone else you feel may help with this. Take up new hobbies, try out new things, or get back in touch with what you used to enjoy doing, whether that's doing art, reading a book, learning new information, exercising, anything that you enjoy. Slowly, over time, this person will distance from your mind and you will feel that release from them that was originally pulling you towards them. If it is needed, try block them on social media in order to not see them very often so they are no longer a trigger.

Try to think that you have better stuff to do rather than think about them, even if they were the sweetest person to ever exist just think about other stuff. Distract yourself by doing the things you love most, for example, go ride a rollercoaster with your friends or watch videos of your favorite topic. Remember that it's all in the past now anyways so there's no point thinking about it now. Cut off contact with your ex and forget they ever existed and make new friends, either online or In real life. Realize that now you don't have to worry about hurting them anymore and try to take care of yourself more.

When it comes to an Ex it is better to think about yourself and less about the other person that was in the relationship. As Rafikki from the Lion king said "the Past can hurt, but you can either run from it or Learn from it." Personally when it came to my old relationships I chose to learn from it. As you wake up in the morning tell yourself you ARE worth it, you CAN do this, and please for your own sake Choose to learn from the experience because no matter who you are you only have one life to live. Make it count.

Short Answer: Think until you feel it's enough. Long Answer: The ex is part of your life. It is okay to think about the ex as long as it does not trouble you a lot. Find a comfortable place if you would think about your ex. Analyse your time with the ex and learn as much as you can. This is your book of life. Of course you will think about the ex. You two separated for some reason. That was the best you could do at that time. Make most of it so that next time when you think about your ex, you know when to stop because you had accepted things in that relationship and moved on.

One good way to stop thinking about your ex is to focus on yourself. Find new hobbies, exercise, spend family time and be with your friends. Sometimes, you just need to erase the messages, delete the number and move on. You don’t have to forget who that person was to you: You just have to accept that… they aren’t that person anymore. Take however long you need to move on, and talk to someone you trust about what happened and how you feel. Express any type of feelings you are experiencing and let it all out in order to be at peace with yourself.

it is hard at first to forget people that we made dreams and memories with but everything comes to an end and the idea of forgetting is hard for us to do, that's why jn this case time is the healer. After sometime you won't forget him completely but you will forget the bad feeling that comes to you when you where remembering him in the past and that's the best thing. you will eventually start forgeting his appearance or voice that's where you start forgeting your ex and remembering yourself. plus try thinking about the bad things that happened and you will forget him/her😊

Think of your love life as a journey. Once filed with pit-stops. Now, you may feel that the goal is the destination, i.e. to fall so deeply in love, you have found YOUR person. That is SUCH an intimate choice, isn't it? YOU have found YOUR person. But what if they didn't find theirs? Ouch. I know that can hurt. To have your future (and certainty) ripped away from you. Not cool. So what to do? How can we continue on the journey of finding love? Well, first, I recommend this: OWN IT. In order to start to experience relief and tolerate your new situation (not in the preferred relationships with said person) you must get as logical as possible. We tend to operate with two types of minds. Logical and emotional. TO be able to “think” clearly, we have to upSHIFT into the logical state. Why does it make sense to NOT be in a committed relationship with your ex at this moment? What values of yours can you anchor yourself into in order to do what’s MOST right for you? If you don’t know what’s most right, then ask yourself, sincerely, what’s most important? To be able to navigate life on your own terms independently, or having to rely on someone outside yourself to make you feel happy and whole? Your values make up a large portion of that wholeness. I encourage you to explore them, narrow them down to your top 3, and explore them even DEEPER. PLAY with the words you come up with. Check out alternate words for the initial ones you resonate with in a thesaurus. OWN those words and commit to value based living and rediscover who YOU truly are, what you stand for, and what you want your life to be about. Chances are, you don’t want it to be about loss, insignificance, and sadness.

Reflect on your goals, and how you want to self-actualize. Think about how you achieved your past goals, recall how good it felt to reach them. Become the person you want to be more fully, make the kinds of changes that promote your health and well-being, that advance your highest interests. When we become the best person we can be, we embark on a journey of creative exploration and application. We find amazing inner fulfillment. We develop strong ability to be self-driven and self-sufficient, in a healthy way. And too, we become a better person which our next partner will appreciate even more.

Love yourself first. It's hard not impossible. When you start loving yourself the way you did him, it will be easier to forget him. He will still cross your mind but you're not gonna obsess about him anymore. Work on your hobbies. Spend more time with your family and friends. Work on your self-development. You can try meditation and exercise. It's really helpful. Just remember people won't give you closures most of the time. They will leave without any explanation and that's totally okay. Just draw your own conclusions and let them go. They didn't deserve to be on your mind.

You can never STOP your thoughts about someone or something. The human mind doesn't function that way. The process of stopping is not healthy either. You can distract yourself with work and other activities but these thoughts would find their way back. Thus it's best to give yourself time to heal and accept. Don't stop thinking about them let it flow. Let yourself hurt before you understand that it is part of growth. Either emotionally or character wise. Meanwhile you can share your experience with others who are experiencing a similar situations and you will see how these patterns are evident in almost every person's life.

Take time for yourself. What kinds of things do you like to do? Give yourself mindful ex-thinking breaks: tell yourself that you're going to take 24 hours to place ex-thoughts into an imaginary box, and set a day and time (like Tuesday at 2:30pm CST) to come back to them, almost like scheduling a meeting. Sometimes that helps in the short-term. More long-term, it might be worth exploring why thoughts are still coming up: do you still have feelings for this ex, are you still communicating with this ex? Why did the relationship end? There might be unresolved issues worth figuring out, and if you can no longer have honest heart-to-hearts with this ex about those issues (if they exist), consider seeking out a trust person to get some perspective and support--definitely worth doing that, if that's the case

Distract yourself so you're literally too busy to even think about them. Establish some boundaries with yourself. Give yourself some time to feel sad, or mad, or angry, or literally whatever. Understand that you may still have lingering feelings for this person, and that's okay. Indulge in all the self care

I think it's hard to do if you still feel for your ex and also depend on the bonding you two shared. But nothing is impossible, it's okay to miss him/her. Moving on from a person is really important. You need to let go of him/her, remove his/her essence but don't forget the lesson you learned. I think to move on you need to try making yourself happy everyday, that's really important. Take a break from daily schedule, go out with friends, on a vacation, buy yourself your favourite things, eat your favorite food, focus on your hobbies. I guess these things will help you a lot. Also someone told me that think of life as a journey you're travelling by train, you meet people there but don't get attached to them and when their station comes, they have to get off and then you just let them go. I hope this helps :)

Trying to not think about an ex is quite difficult specially right after a break up. From personal experience I’ll say making new friends either online or in real life is a great way to stop thinking about your ex, getting a new hobby that you can do alone or with your friends or just listening to music can really help, talking to someone about them can also help you get them out of your mind. It’s gonna be hard and takes a lot of time to get rid of those thoughts but stay strong and you’ll get through this, sending lots of love and positive energy

Find a hobby, also join a group activity-like group hikes or book clubs. I find that when I spend time being of service to others I can not only feel great, but I get out of my own head. Think about what you enjoy and learn how you can be of service in that area. If you like animals, maybe you can volunteer at a zoo or animal shelter. If you like music maybe you can volunteer to help the music department at a church. There are so many different things available to do good and feel good.