Why do I feel that I am rejected or neglected by people?
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I sometimes feel like I am rejected or neglected by people or my close friends, I usually feel like that when I feel like I give all my time to my friends and people around without being selfish, but when at times I nee their help, I see no one around and draw that conclusion which makes me feel low.
p.s. Sometimes I try to make myself feel better by thinking that they must be busy in some thing, so couldn't help me, but deep inside, I still feel low and hurt!
Anonymous
April 8th, 2015 10:57pm
I think it's hard for us to understand when people don't give the attention back that we give them.
I suggest you stop caring what other people think and live your life.
I grew up being bullied as well as ignored. Whenever I said something intelligent amongst my family, it surprised them. Some of them, anyway.
I eventually realized I didn't need nor did I want to be like them. I wanted to be me. So, I am going to be me.
"Be who you want to be, not who they tell you to be." - My personal motto.
Once you are happy with yourself, you will never be miserable again.
I feel that I am neglected by people when I allow myself to give in too often. When I don't stand up for myself or explain my needs, I tend to feel used.
I feel that I am rejected/neglected by people because they choose to make plans that don't involve me, or they don't really seem to care how I'm feeling.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2016 12:42am
Sometimes people are not very expressive of their emotions. This is especially true when they are wrapped up in their own problems and concerns. Sometimes people put off negative energy because things are not going well in their own lives. Sometimes people don't know what you expect of them--if they did, they might respond differently. And sometimes people just aren't nice. Treat others the way you want to be treated. For important relationships, open up a dialog. Let the people you care about know what you need from them, and find out what they need from you.
Whatever you see in this world is a reflection of yourself. Maybe deep down you don't accept yourself the way you are. You want to change it then change it, if it can't be changed then accept it. If people neglect you or reject you then consider it their loss.
We do not attract what we like, we attract what we are and same goes here. If we don't love ourselves, the people we attract will always be the same as we are. If internal source is not satisfied, external source does not matter.
Sometimes people feel negatively towards me. I understand that I will not always be liked or understood, and I'm okay with that. Rejection is something i can learn to deal with over time. It's all apart of self love and acceptance and I understand that.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2016 3:49am
I feel loner and disheatened but at the same time i feel its the other person who is rejected by ME. I try to convince myself.
I don't have enough information to answer this question, but lots of people suffer from isolation. Why don't you explore this question more with a listener? We won't neglect, or reject, you. :)
Because self perception is that your only worth some thing when you are acknowledged by others, often people base how they feel about themselves by others opinions, generally its a matter of how we see ourselves.
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 4:31pm
People feel uncomfortable around others who may not share similar interests with them or who they do not know well enough. Feeling rejected or neglected might be a misunderstanding because people may not know you that well
Anonymous
June 9th, 2016 5:07am
I respect their feelings. Being rejected does not mean I am a bad person. I will keep doing what I think is right. If I feel frustrated about being rejected, I will be with this feeling for a moment until it goes away. If I still do not feel good, I will actively seek for help.
There are many reasons that you may feel rejected or neglected by people. It could be due to an event that happened in your past or it could just be due to anxiety and/or depression. Many individuals have a feeling of rejection or being neglected because they have certain expectations about how other should treat them because they would be willing to do it for them. Although, the problem is that many people do not think, feel, or act exactly the same. The best thing to do is talk to the people that are making you feel that way.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2015 1:01am
Take a look good look at how you estranged those people. What did you do to people? What have you withheld from people?
Anonymous
May 1st, 2016 11:12am
Don't listen to them at all. You are you ☺☺☺ Just continue what makes you feel right and people will chase you don't chase behind them
Its anxiety. I get that all the time. Like everyone secretly hates me. You're not the only one. It's ll perspective really, because everyone doesn't hate you. I promise
Anonymous
March 27th, 2016 6:50pm
A lot of people tend to make others feel that way. There are mental illnesses that can make you feel that way too. I recommend trying to look at different illnesses or contacting help to get more friends or a therapist to work you through it.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2016 9:50pm
Often I felt rejected or neglected by people because I really wanted to be accepted by everyone. Therefore, the problem wasn't so much that I was rejected, but that I had such a hard time accepting it or just took it to hard. I had to understand that it is OK if I am not "accepted" by everyone, as not everyone is compatible. Again, that is alright. I find that if I have my act together, I care less of what others think and stay focused on doing the right things and staying positive. Have a positive mental attitude is very important to me.
Most of the time, when we have a problem in our relations with others, it's because we first have a problem with ourselves. How can we expect people to "love" us, if we don't love ourselves first?
Usually this sort of thing happens to us when we fall short of being our "true" self. If you are always polite, and never have an opinion of your own, and try never to stand out, and feel easily ashamed, and have difficulty getting angry, people will overlook you as you will fail to make an impression on them. When you can be your true self, you give others permission to be their true selves, and that makes for fun company.
You may not have enough confidence. Don't be scared of rejection. Even if you may be rejected or neglected there are still a lot of people waiting to be friends with you.
I think i don't fit the mold and i don't wanna. I don't want to be beautiful or superficial i want to be brillant. I pass my time in my books instead of losing my time to talk about others life and it's real worth it.
because not everybody loves in the same way. some love more than others, and some love less because of history.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 4:45pm
You feel this way as that is your perception. If you want to stop feeling this way change your perception.
People reject or neglect other people because they have been rejected or neglected themselves, or simply because they do not care.
We feel rejected and neglected because of our thoughts. When we play a victim role. It is more closely related to self love. If we understand the statement that the world is nothing but our reflection. We can easily understand that the degree of love we have for oursleves, is refleted in the world. If we can increase the self love, more loving relationship may come in life. And the feeling of rejection may go.
"We accept the love that we think we deserve." Charlie~The Perks of Being a Wallflower. Does that help at all?
Anonymous
July 13th, 2016 3:01am
Because you have or are having hardship and trouble sin your life that makes you feel that people who love you alot are neglecting you
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