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Talking in front of class is nerve wracking in the best of times, often what happens is anxiety gets the best of us and makes it difficult to speak easily. Next time you are about to speak in front of your class, try taking some time and doing some deep breathing to calm yourself down. Good luck!
I talk easily now, but as a child and young person I was mortified. This came from conditioning in my childhood of feeling shame from having critical controlling parents. I had to retrain myself. Substitute teaching helped me a lot. I subbed for years. I found it funny that in the beginning I was so unnerved by even having a class of kindergartners looking at me. I had to train myself to withstand the direct eye contact. I have no problem speaking now. It took facing the fear over and over until it was no more.
Maybe you're just a shy person and that's okay! :) don't worry too much. You might also have anxiety, and there's a lot of ways to get over it!
Anonymous
November 19th, 2016 9:38pm
As a person who has public speaking experience when we first experience this feeling because we are doing a new task that we never did before. One of the key tips that I learned over the years is looking at a spot on the wall right above their heads so it looks like you have eyesight with them still. After a few times experience speaking in front of the class the anxiety of speaking in front of the class should decrease over time with practice.
I know for me that talking in front of people at school seems super scary. Even though l know that no one will judge me I still am scared. When I feel this way i try taking deep breaths so that i can calm my brain. Then I say what i need to while looking at the back of the room. Then before I know it it is over with.
You're definitely not alone in feeling this way. It's hard to speak in front of a group. Public speaking can be intimidating and overwhelming. Keep practicing and staying brave. Eventually, it will start to get easier. If not, it could be a symptom of social anxiety in which case I would chat with a doctor about it.
Anonymous
July 14th, 2017 4:54pm
When I was in school I was in fear of being embarrassed or that I was seen as not smart enough. It always was difficult for me to compete with my classmates. They always seemed one step further than I was. But later on, I discovered that I was just very nervous and anxious. I've learned techniques to calm myself down and to strengthen my self-consciousness. That helped me a lot.
social anxiety? it is a common thing and there's ways to overcome it. Practice giving a speech in front of your family
sometimes the fear of being judged or laughed at can take over us, some people have a phobia of being social which can also cause that. but in my opinion gaining, self-confidence/self love can take over it, If you asked yourself, how does self-love change that, well when you gain self-love a lot of things come with it, probably like a bonus. like self-confidence, self care and self compassion etc..
Anonymous
August 10th, 2017 11:40pm
It can be intimidating to have to speak in front of a large crowd of people at once; especially when you have to face these people every day. A lot of people worry that they are being judged by their classmates. A good thing to keep in mind is that a lot of the time in grade school, people are not being nearly as attentive as you think they are.
You may be nervous and insecure. The best thing to do is to practice in advance and make yourself appear in a flatter and confident manner.
Most people have difficulty speaking in front of people especially their peers its a normal response, you simply feel that you might say something wrong and getting embarrassed.
The most common cause of what you are describing, is called social anxiety. It is very common for most teens to slightly suffer from this.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2016 9:23pm
Stay confident..everyone cannot have a sane answer, everyone holds different opinions and strategies in life so chill!! And say for yourself..stop caring if people like it or not..be you..you are no less than anyone
Some people have anxiety when giving presentations or speaking in front of large crowds. This is a common phobia! Everyone has times where they feel overwhelmed by the potential of being embarrassed.
Many people are like that. I could talk in a conference, or a big meeting but when it comes to a public meeting at home, I stumble because I feel embarrassed if I make a mistake.
I read of a trick some use where they choose someone they trust, keep your eye on them at first and block out all others. If it is going to be a long talk, then you could try glancing at others to widen your comfort zone.
Remember, we all stumble, and one way to get around it is to memorize either by point since you should well know what you are talking about or if you have a great memory, memorize all that you have to say.
If you don't have a good memory, keep your notes handy and you can better control shaky hands by holding them together with your notes cradled inside them. try memory exercises to do better.
It could be anything from stage fright, anxiety to phobias. It's always hard to avoid when you are at school which is one of the reason I feel we need to talk mrs about anxiety and depression at school, you can try getting couches to help you though it, developing ulterior egos, talking to teachers and class leaders about it or consulting a professional.
You are definitely not alone on this! I have trouble talking in front of my classmates every time I have a speech or presentation! This is completely normal. I think the main reason for being so nervous is probably the fear of making a fool out of yourself. The majority of teenagers are very self conscious, and they care very much about their appearance. You are probably afraid that you’ll mix up your words or forget what you were going to say. I think the only way to really solve this problem is time. After multiple speeches and after becoming closer with your classmates, it will be much easier for you to talk without all the butterflies :)
I can't talk easily in front of my class because I have an irrational fear of people judging me and laughing at me as people do tend to laugh at me as I do things that others don't do. I also therefore feel shy as I think other people are better than me and that makes me feel less worthy and more stupid. I also fear that I am different and may have different opinions and different ways in which I present my ideas which might not be good.
It can be hard to talk in front of people. There could be many reasons, but most likely you are shy. This is an anxiety many people share with you. It can be scary to put yourself out there, particularly if you haven't had many opportunities to do so in the past. I know it's easier said than done, but it can really help to force yourself out of your comfort zone by seeking out more opportunities to talk in front of your class. Perhaps you could start by raising your hand to answer more questions in class. It also can help to prepare; practice speeches in front of the mirror, ask yourself what questions you would ask if you were the teacher when going through your material and practice your responses. The best way to overcome fear is to travel through it.
It's of course also possible you are experiencing some other underlying difficulty such as PTSD and your worry might come from fears of having a panic attack, or other things in that direction. These are challenges that can be overcome and talking to someone can help.
I wish you the best of luck and remember you're not alone.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2020 12:55pm
You are not alone in this. Speaking in front of your class can be daunting and can make us feel anxious. You are maybe fearing saying something wrong, or a worried about being judged, but only you will be able to work out the true cause. The key here, is not to avoid this just because it is easy. The more you do something, the easier it becomes. Avoiding things can become a 'safety behaviour' quite quickly which means that we rely on avoiding things and it can make what we are avoiding seem even worse. It's easier said than done, I know. But it can be done!!
Based on personal experience, I am afraid to talk infront of my class due to my accent. Lots of people have different reasons to be tongue tied with presenting something to the class, it's like butterflies in your tummy - you don't know what the reaction will be or if it will be up to set standards with your peers or your teacher, especially if you are unfamiliar with the people in your class or classes. It's most likely just a jolt of your nerves getting to you, but once it's over you feel a lot better when complete.
Sounds like you have social anxiety. You're afraid you would embarrass yourself if you mess up, is that correct? Do you think people will judge you or laugh at you, and you're afraid of being publicly humiliated. There might be someone you're especially scared to mess up in front of. It can be a popular kid, someone you like, someone you want to make friends with or impress, a judgy teacher or just the general public. It's worse if you're dyslexic. Do you think you could be dyslexic? Take some online tests and find out. Dyslexia is a common cause of this.
if you are surrounded by many people it may lead you get anxious and a fear of people that they might start judging you like how you are talking, what you are wearing, your body language. All the attention of the people will be on you so that might lead you to get nervous and to overcome this you need to be confidence. Practice in front of mirror that someone is watching you that will help you to gain confidence speak in front of your friends. There are lot of videos and articles which will help you to gain confidence. And don't worry public speaking fear is common among people so you can get out of it easily.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2020 10:38pm
Because of many factors related to self-esteem, self-confidence, self-acceptance as you are, and self-love. It is important to be able to accept yourself and your flaws as they are, to stop comparing to others, to believe in yourself and respect yourself. You fear that you may be judged, mocked, bullied, humiliated, that you will die of anxiety, and forget the topic you are talking about, and those fears are normal. We all have them. It is helpful to observe your classmates as human beings with the same hopes and dreams as yours, so as fears. Imagine yourself in advance as a successful and knowledgeable professor, giving a lecture to your students. It is helpful.
Because you only think they will only focus on your mistakes and the flaws but instead of that think how they will see the perfect and amazing side of you so think how shinny you're and the useful information you're going to inform them with and think how you love yourself so why not they will love you so stick on those ideas and you'll be confident,,and actually we only see the bad things in ourselves when we focus too much on ourselves but people don't notice that because they're not looking so closely to you as you do to yourself
Anonymous
August 17th, 2020 3:20am
Based on my experience its normally from just being really anxious and worried I am going to mess up. If it is the same for you I would really recommend having index cards with you if you can because my memory cuts out when I am anxious and I can forget the information. My other suggestion would to be to stare at the back of the room the whole time, right over your classmates' heads. This way you won't and can't make eye contact with them which is normally pretty nerve wracking. If this isn't the case for you though, it could be social/general anxiety or just poor public speaking skills.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2020 5:48pm
Social anxiety can get the best of all of us, it can be tough. Even if you don't think you have anxiety, you may just be nervous or scared and thats perfectly normal. Even now, I get easily scared when talking to big crowds and so do the people you see on TV. Try taking several deep breaths before you go on and reciting the words in your mind several times before can help! Practice makes perfect! no matter what happens, it will be ok. Overcoming things like this can help you on your growth journey! I believe in you!
I used to feel that way because I was afraid that I might make a mistake and embarrass myself in front of my classmates. Try not to be afraid of making mistakes - everyone makes mistakes. They are natural! And even if you do make mistakes, it is not something that will stick to people's minds for a long time.
The next time you have to talk in front of your class and feel that it is difficult, remind yourself of why you are feeling that way and tell yourself that it is okay to make mistakes. No one is perfect.
Sounds like its hard to talk to a large group of classmates. What do you think before talking in front of the class may help? I felt the same way the very first time I had to talk in front of my class. My face would turn red and my heart would race a lot. Can you think of anything you could do right before class you can do that would help you?
Do you have a friend in class that you can ask to support you? The pressure sounds hard and scary. What are some things you like about your class?
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