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Pursue what makes you happy no matter how good you are at it, because at the end of the day what matters is that it does make you happy, not that you'd have to be good at it. You can always get better, after all.
All I can say is if you enjoy doing it, it shouldn't matter what people think. Also, practice definitely makes perfect! x
Anonymous
April 9th, 2016 4:19am
I believe we all have these doubts or self perceptions that we might not be so good or successful in what we love to do. sometimes it's okay to feel like this, as there's always room to improve and stay inspired to keep on creating, other times it can get the best of us. you're not alone. plenty of people high in what they love to do, face this regularly it's a matter of fact. sometimes interests change or shift, you become unmotivated or uninspired or there can be many other factors. if you believe you are unmotivated or could do better and want to continue within what you are doing, there are plenty strategies you could try to keep on task and further your abilities within it. in short, one thing i would say is never give up. regardless of talent or another factor within a task, if you love it or want to learn more about it.. keep going. there is so much potential within us and our minds. we are endlessly evolving and intelligent, creative beings. you can do it
Keep at it! Practice makes perfect, you have to start somewhere! If you keep practicing at whatever it is you love, you will see the results!
Sometimes loving what we do is not enough to be good at it. However, this doesn't mean we can't get better. If you love something, keep trying, keep doing it, and you will improve little by little.
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2016 11:16am
keep doing it. it doesn't matter if you're good at it or not, just as long as it makes you happy, that's what matters.
Do it anyways! If you love to do it, then that is all that matters. If it makes you happy, then do it.
Continue doing it! Everything we do is always not only a matter of ability but also a matter of know-how. You can't expect do be awesome at something without putting effort into it. Also some people are quicker learners while others might need longer but reach a higher upper limit. Do not give up to do what you love unless you stop loving it.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 4:41pm
Then you keep practicing. If you love what you do, you can always get better. You gotta start somewhere, you will be good one day.
One of the reasons we love to do certain things doesn't necessarily have to be because we are the best at it. Instead, it may be because it brings us joy and great pleasure, which in turns keeps us coming back to it...and, as it is popularly known, practice makes perfect. You've got the motivation for it. You've got the love for it. Now what are you comparing your skills to that is making you feel that you are not good at what you love? The goal is to be better than the "you" you were yesterday. With motivation and love, you are already doing great because you've got the passion. Keep it up. Overtime you'll grow better and more confident in yourself and achieve great things.
That's actually a confusing question, almost like a paradox. But, I can understand where you're coming from. I'd say, instead of worrying about whether you're good or not, how about taking the time to enjoy what you love to do. In the end others don't decide whether you're good at what you love to do, you're the one who decides.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2015 8:22pm
Loving something doesn't mean you must make it career. It can me your hobby. amy be you part time or leisure job.
It does not matter. You're doing something that you love, something that makes you happy, and that's enough. Even if you are not good, you'll eventually get better with practice.
Keep practicing. Don't give up. No one starts out perfect I promise. You are not worth less because you can't do it and it doesn't undermine how much you love the thing. Keep at it.
You don't have to be good to love something. As long as you love it, that's all that matters. Keep enjoying what you like to do.
what is the definition of good? I work with people all the time and enjoy it but i wouldnt say i am a the best at all times. Passion and dedication can outweigh academic ability or some of the skills needed, and naturally we progress and learn through time. Stick with what feels right and the GOOD will follow.
Practice makes perfect. With patience and determination you can reach new levels of talent that you had not though possible. Problem is that few are willing to wait that long to get to that level. Be practical and learn as much as you can. Most of all, remember that it's not about being the best as much as it is about being better than you were yesterday.
It's alright but that doesn't mean you should stop working towards it. Let the passion guide you to perfection. Nobody is perfect at anything. Just keep improving.
If you have found what you love, first of all, I would like to applaud you. It can take many people a long time to figure out, as strange as that may sound. Secondly, I would like to point out that no one gets anywhere without a large amount of hard work. Even these so-called "naturally talented" people you see around will have had to put in work to get where they are now. For some, it's easier than for others. For those others, it can be a lot harder. Never give up on what you love. But don't feel like you have to stagnate, either. Seek new ways to get better at what you love. If it's art, or music, try a free life-drawing class or join a group. If it's sports, find events to take part in or try out a new workout. If it's algebraic equations, find workbooks on the internet. The possibilities are endless. But don't let yourself be downcast because you're comparing yourself to others or having trouble progressing. If you're doing it because it makes you happy, just do it.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2016 11:28am
If you love to do it, then you should keep doing it.If it makes you happy, dont let it go.Success comes after fails.
Take it as a lesson learned. There is always time to learn a new trade, and to find a new passion that may be relative to what you previously had wanted.
You don't have to be good at something to enjoy it. Having fun is a lot more important that being good at something. :)
Well, you have to keep trying to be better. Expert in anything was once a beginner! You will - mostly - fail in the beginning. But eventually, you will be good (very good probably) at what you love to do!
Recognise why you feel that you aren't good at it - chances are it is just your personal perception, and whether you are good or not is subjective anyway. If you enjoy what you are doing, and have a passion for it - that is the most important thing. Passion is rare, and doing something you love helps so so much. Don't give that up because you feel you may not be good enough - because you always are good enough.
if you love it do it. do not second guess your ability. i love basketball doesn't mean i am going to play in the wnba just means i wish to participate in basketball where possible
Anonymous
April 16th, 2016 3:38am
If you don't like one of the things your interested try another of your interest and find a way you can approach it in a different way.
we are social being , we have some skills and qualities , sharp your edges and work hard what you love to do , i'm sure you will be successful.
many things we thought we really love and wasn't meant to be ours , at some point there will be one thing that we are really good at by nature or by hard work, that we truly love doing it
Still do it! Do what makes you happy because nothing else matters. And after some practice you will get better at what you love to do.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2016 10:38am
Always trust yourself in what you do if you love what you do all you need is the inspiration to keep pushing forward in what you love to do and excel on it.
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