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Jessica McDaniel, LPC, LCPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I have been practicing cognitive behavioral psychotherapy since 2007 with a diverse group of adult clients with various diagnoses, all races, and socioeconomic classes.
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Some ways I deal with my anxiety is bye spacing out my triggers throughout the week so I have time to recover before doing another. I also, take a lot of time just for myself, whether it be journaling, a good book, or just curling up on the couch. If my anxiety is really bad, I'll try meditation, listening to music, or chatting online of 7cups or another site.
take deep breathes and count to tenn and if that dosen't work lay down and then relax when u fall asleep u'll wake up relaxed
My methods are seeking support, researching to understand it better, confronting it by taking small challenges to gradually expand my comfort zone, evaluating any automatic negative thoughts and predictions and replacing them, meditation and relaxation, and laughing at it sometimes to be more comfortable and less afraid of it.
I usually read a book, take a warm, relaxing bath, listen to music, watch television or talk to some of my friends.
If you are experiencing an anxiety attack you can try breathing exercises such as: breathing in for 4 seconds then you hold you breath for 7 seconds and then you breathe out for 8. Repeat this as many times as needed.
Some ways that I deal with anxiety is to always stay calm, I take deep breaths and try to distract myself if I am feeling really anxious
Researching coping mechanism tools for anxiety is a starting place. Practice with each one until you find one or a few that fit you best in bringing you grounding and comfort. It can take some time to find something that works but don't give up.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2015 7:32am
It's hard to do, but I limit the things that I have to feel anxious about. I try not to commit to an excessive number of things, even when I feel pressured to do so. I take time for myself. I make lists - obsessively - which helps me to stay organized and feel as though I am accomplishing things. I've tried to incorporate meditation into my life, as well as eating healthfully, reaching out for support when I need it, spending time outside, and getting a decent amount of exercise.
It's a hard balance to strike, and I certainly still feel anxiety. I'm improving - it's just something that I have to work at.
Take deep, slow breaths think of the things you love and think about the positive side of the situation! Spending time with family and friends you love can also help!
I have a small bag that I carry with me in my purse at all times with some things to help grounding and I usually find a corner in which I can find solitude and breathe. The breathing I do, my therapist calls "Darth Vader Breathes" because you breathe in long and deep through your nose and out your mouth and it can seem noisy. Focus in on the air going slowly in, and than out your lungs. In my emergency bag I have a perfume I like, some rocks which textures I enjoy, and small trinkets that a child-friend gave to me. I will either fiddle with the items in my bag or apply the perfume and it gives me something else to focus in on if the breathing doesn't work. Also, if I am in my home, I find that the process of making tea is another thing to deliberately focus on step-by-step.
try things to take your mind off of it, maybe you like video games drawing or writing. try something you haven't done maybe find hobbies that relieve stress for you
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 6:24am
I practice mindfulness. Being in the moment. I acknowledge my thoughts as being there. I try not to fight or challenge my irrational thoughts, as I end up thinking about it even more and doubt myself in the process. I go on with my life, doing things as normal and focusing on important things. Distracting myself. Physical exercise also helps. Music too.
I practice the 4-8-7 calming breath exercise. I find it enormously helpful to calm myself, and I love that you can practice it any time, no one needs to know!
I try to focus on breathing and try to distract myself the best I can because distraction is key. Play a game or talk to someone. Get your anxiety off your mind.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2015 8:23am
1. Learn to recognize the signs of your own panic.
If you feel the telltale signs of panic, which include a racing or pounding heartbeat, flushing of the face or body and mental confusion, you are in a state of panic. If you are shouting, saying unreasonable things, or just saying whatever comes out of your mouth, without thinking about consequences, you are also in a state of panic.
2. Take some deep breaths.
Deep breathing will calm your body and burn off the adrenaline that’s been released in the panic. Slow down, count to ten and focus on thinking clearly and factually rather than reacting emotionally.
If you don’t understand how to do deep breathing, you can learn how to do a deep breathing exercise here.
3. Take responsibility to figure out what you’re afraid of.
Unless you’re in immediate, direct danger, what’s scaring or upsetting you is probably not as urgent as you think. Make a list of what you’re afraid of that help you move beyond free-floating anxiety and you will begin to think more clearly.
4. Check the facts.
Is what’s on the news really true? Do we have an epidemic, or only 11 confirmed cases in Calfornia? Does the source you’re listening to have something to gain by putting you in a panic? Are they trying to sell you something, get federal funding, or get elected? Are you reacting to someone else’s panic? Get some facts about whatever is frightening you. Is there a real, immediate threat or is it just wise to be cautious? Is your partner actually going to abandon you, or is he or she just angry about something?
5. Make a decision and take some action tackling each fear.
If it’s a health fear, perhaps better hygiene or a talk with your doctor will resolve it. If it’s a relationship fear, finding out what your partner is really thinking, instead of guessing, will probably make more sense.
Get a flu shot, go for relationship therapy or have a good talk with your partner or family member.
6. Sell yourself on a positive outcome.
Think of all the possible great outcomes of the changes you’re making. Consider what you will learn, and how much better your life and relationships will be without the panic.
With a calmer outlook, you’ll be able to make better decisions and create a more successful outcome. I wish you peace, within yourself, within your family, within the world.
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I think there is no cookie-cutter way to deal with an issue such as anxiety; a lot of things that people recommended to me didn't work out, and it was quite a struggle to find out what was right for me. Among the things that did work out, art and journaling are my favorite ways to cope.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2021 10:52pm
some ways i deal with anxiety is by taking some time to breathe. taking some time to focus on things i really love. reflecting on the work that i have put it to be where i am at today. taking some time to rest. reading a book. watching tv. talking to friends. talking to my sister. talking to my mom and dad. going on a hike. working out and breaking a sweat. listening new music. listening to a new podcast. playing with friends dogs. playing a game on my phone. drinking some tea. lightening up a candle. grocery shopping.
Hello! This a question I´ve gotten a lot from other listeners so here are a few helpful things that I have done to make me less anxious:
Stress Ball: I carry one with me everywhere I go, It helps stimulate your brain onto something else
Fidget Toy: This has many small features that are similar to the stress ball however you can interact with them
4x4: This is my own technique, you inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds and exhale for 4 seconds and do 4 of these ( Hence the name 4x4)
Count: Some people have said counting things or looking for a round shape in a room has helped them too
Wish everyone the best of luck
~ Waves
I rewatch my favorite movie series or read the books. When I feel like I need to escape my everyday space, I sit in my backyard while my dog does laps around my garden. When I'm too anxious to even think, I rest my forehead against a cool window and focus on the pull of my lungs as I inhale and the push as I exhale. Finding and feeling the thump of my pulse is very grounding and can distract me from the reason I am experiencing anxiety. I have an oversized hoodie that I will curl up in when I just need a moment to collect myself.
I have a lot of different coping mechanisms I use for dealing with my anxiety. I have learned them over the years through many training sessions and also classes and therapy and counseling. Some things I do are deep breathing, walking my dog or just petting him, talking to someone, visualization techniques, yoga poses, singing on the top of my lungs, and sometimes I just scream if I am in a safe place to do so. Anxiety is different for everyone and not every solution works the same on everyone. So, If you are suffering from anxiety and one thing doesn't work for you, try something else because that might be the key that will work and help you in an anxiety attack.
Listening to music reading or watching a film. Also breathing exercises. I also talk to someone aswell which really helps.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2018 6:32pm
I listen to music or watch tv to get my mind off of what is bothering me if that don't work I try to write my thoughts down and go from there
Breathing techniques, exposure to what I am anxious about, even though it may seem scary, building tolerance to irrational anxiety and essentially de-sensitizing your fight and flight is the best possible way in my own personal opinion.
for me, anxiety is something that makes me react when I probably should just listen/think/process the things that are triggering me. One thing I learned by myself is to just wait for a couple of minutes before saying something or reacting defensive. And once I have regained my calm and peace of mind, I try to analyse what caused my reaction and better understand it if possible. Staying present in the moment always helps. Also yoga does that too.
Take a cold freezing shower in the morning and right before bed. This conditions the body to get over a fear response that comes naturally from cold temperature.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2016 2:11pm
Here's a prayer which I use to calm anxiety: "O God, refresh and gladden my spirit. Purify my heart. Illumine my powers. I lay all my affairs in Thy hand. Thou art my Guide and my Refuge. I will no longer be sorrowful and grieved. I will be a happy and joyful being. O God! I will no longer be full of anxiety, nor will I let trouble harass me. I will not dwell on the unpleasant things of life. O God, Thou art more friend to me than I am to myself. I dedicate myself to Thee, O lord."
Exercise can be a great and constructive way to channel anxiety. Talking with a trusted family, friend, or religious official can be helpful. Some calming music is helpful. Putting something out of your mind while your subconscious focuses on it can be helpful.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 11:03am
Distraction is a big one for me usually with the app "Stack". I also use guided meditation apps like "breathe".
I try to calm myself down and think of all the good things in life and every good thing that's been happening to me.
I sit down and try to breathe in a healthy relaxing way. I try to change my perspective and not over think things and by thinking different I feel normal again.
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