Should I tell my husband I cheated on him?

Maybe when we do a mistake or something that society in general would consider morally wrong it is easier to flip the tables and ask yourself another question instead, If your husband cheated on you, would you feel like you deserve to know? If your husband cheated on you, would it change your opinion of him? It's not easy to be held to high standards, it's not always fun to take responsibility for our mistakes, but I would say someone you spend your life with deserves to know these things, and if you're lucky he will be willing to try and work it out. In the end it is your relationship and your decision, so ask yourself how you would feel if the tables were turned and act in the best interest of your husband instead of yourself, because in this case the mistake was yours and not his.

I think honesty is always the best thing to do, it'll free you. It may lead to heartbreak, but sometimes our hearts need to break, so that they could be open to healing, and capable of more love.

If you want to. It really doesn't matter at this point though. You've crossed a line you don't cross.

There isn't just one answer to this, although the simplest one is that it's a good idea you should. Morally, it is the right thing to do and it would help foster a healthier relationship (if he can overcome the lack of faith and you can rebuild trust). If you are plagued with guilt and have learned your lesson, maybe don't tell him if you can promise yourself it will never happen again.

More importantly you need to look at why you cheated on him and where your relationship is at the moment. Telling him probably won't strengthen the relationship so I think it depends on how you're feeling about the relationship at the moment and where you see its future.

Yes, a relationship is built in trust and by cheating on him you've broken that trust. But the best thing about trust is it can be rebuilt

You should to create a more honest enviroment. Even though you cheated, by telling him, you are showing a certain level of honesty and trust. The only reason that I would tell you not to tell him would be if you fear for your physical well being.

Yes. If you cheated on him you probably aren't happy with your relationship with him. Make sure he's calm and just nicely tell him.

It is good to be open in your relationship. lies would not help anything and they just might make things worse. Honesty is key

Honesty should be the key thing to a relationship. If he's mad/angry at you, accept it. You made the decision to cheat on him. But maybe your husband will be more accepting if you tell him yourself rather than having to hear it from someone else :)

Absolutely. Though this make require you to take some time to self-reflect on why you did it, or to overcome problematic feelings first so that you can approach him calmly.. Please remember that monogamous relationships involve the consent of both adults. When you are sleeping with another person, then in most monogamous relationships, the consent of your spouse has been voided. That is, they are no longer consenting to your relationship because you have violated their conditions of consent. What that means is that they are ethically entitled to know when you are doing something that crosses their set boundaries in the relationship. Although it is your body and you are free to sleep with whomever you please, you have obligations within your relationship as well, and may need to terminate or renegotiate said relationship before continuing with your actions. Sleeping with other people, even with 'protection', may potentially put your partner's health at risk, and is another reason they have the basic entitlement of knowing whether you are sleeping with other partners. Please discuss this with your husband soon.

Relationships are all about honesty. If you cheated on him, it's better you tell him rather than him finding out himself. If you really feel remorse for what you did, you'll tell him you won't do it again. If he trusts you, he will forgive you. If not... I'm not sure if it will last at this point. Sorry to be abrupt, but you need to stay faithful next time.

Yes absolutely. Be honest with him no matter the outcome. Tell him why you have done it and try to work it out. If he doesn't try to work things out then maybe you should start looking for something else.

Yes, because being truthful is more important in a marriage I believed. It's better to tell someone something bad that happened recently than to wait because the more we waited, the more guilty and other bad feelings will reside in our hearts and second, the impact will seem to be more stronger as we waited. We just have to own up to our consequences for our actions and not compromise any of our integrity at the same time.

I personally think that you should, honey. Good relationships are based on confidence and comunication.

Cheating is a form of dishonesty and you're husband will probably be very hurt when he finds out, but it's definitely better for him to hear it from you than to find out some other way. If you want to hurt him as little as possible I would suggest telling him yourself, soon.

Honesty is always the best. Try to bring it on slowly don't just rush into it. He may be mad at first but try to talk it out.

Always. If he takes the confession negatively, it will be better to have it out in the open, and try to work through it. If you cheated, you should take full responsibility and not make any excuses. If he takes it positively, then there's no harm done at all!

I totally believe that you should tell your husband that you have cheated on him. He needs to know what lead you to doing this act. If he is forgiving maybe you both can seek counseling and improve your communication lines between each other. I am not one to judge but I do believe that if one cheats on their partner, there is something missing in that relationship that requires the both of you to talk about and to come up with solutions together.

I think trust is fundamental in any relationship, and I value truth above all things -- even love and god. I think as long as you're telling it with pure intentions, not to hurt, then truth is always good -- as I think speaking your truth helps you live your truth.

Yes you should tell him, because he could find out by some one else and it will be a whole lot worse

yes, its the best thing to do, it will be better in the long run, imagine how you would feel if he did the same to you

Do you think that being honest would help your relationship? If i was your husband, i would want to know

You should always tell the truth no matter what or under any circumstances because telling a lie gets you no where to go.

I can not decide that for you, however I am here to listen if you want to work through this problem with someone. Maybe in some way I can help you come to a decision.

Defiantly, honesty is always the best, and if you don't tell now, the result will be worse the longer it takes to tell him.

I think it would be good if you do. I mean, you don't want your guilt you feel gets worst every time you are there sleeping with him. I think, honesty is important. If he forgives you then it's nice, but if he won't, well... maybe give him some time. Show him perhaps that you really regret doing it.

You have to be honest with him, tell him what happened and then you both can try and figure out how to move on!

Your husband is your accountability partner. You are married because you ultimately love each other. Through thick and thin, I'm positive he still loves you, and its truly willing to forgive you: wether that's cheating on him or saying something negative.

Yes, honesty is the best policy-- as cheesy as that sounds. He will respect you for your honesty and willingness to mend the relationship.