Everything in my life is messed up. Motivation works temporarily and I'm not suicidal but feel it's pointless to live like this. What should I do to feel hopeful?

You should continue motivating yourself . All you need is a push to achieve your aim. Nothing is permanent everything requires a balance for which we need to keep going such as the bicycle. Which is the basic necessity in our life . When we keep on working towards our goal then and only then we can keep our self balanced by emotions and thoughts. This is only the best way to keep balancing our life bicycle. Have a faith in your own journey and take help of people who can supply you motivation without asking anything in return. This is what I feel is the best way to live your life peacefully with a motive.

There are of course a lot of reasons a person may feel lost and hopeless about the future. Finding the reasons can be part of the solution, but even without knowing the reason, there can be helpful strategies. Try a gratitude journal - every day spend a few minutes writing on paper all the good things in your life you can be thankful for. Seek supportive relationships - we all need real friends (in person, not online) who can be with us through hard times. If you are a person with religious orientation, you can seek help from that direction. Professional counselors can also be very helpful.

There comes a time when we all experience some form of hopelessness, some more than others. However, we have to remember that this is not the end and that life still goes on. We have to find happiness within ourselves before we confide in others. Write down your main problems, try to break them down and find the best solutions. If you are struggling with this you can always reach out to someone you can trust and has your best interest at heart. Just remember you are not alone and whatever it is, you got this. Do not compare yourself to others instead remind yourself of the the things that are going well for you.

I understand the feeling that everything is messed up and the struggles of temporary motivation. One way to look towards the future is to make long-term goals. Then, make shorter-term goals, these should go out no more than 2 years out. Then, make short-term goals. This should be a series of goals that go about a year out but, each only lasts a month or so. Another thing to add to this is to write down daily accomplishments. This can be as big as large events and projects to smaller- but no less significant- activities like waking up, eating, getting dressed. Writing it all down helps to visualize the future, see how your present is aiding in this, and reflect on how you struggled or succeeded in the past.

I would start making moves to push your life in the direction that you want it to go in. If you don't like your life than you should change it to suit your preferences.

I can completely empathize with that feeling. It can be quite suffocating. Usually what I have learned from when I feel that way is because I have so many suppressed feelings and thoughts that they are beginning to seep out of my "ice fortress" and draining me. Sometimes all you can do is just talk out your feelings and thoughts to someone, acknowledge the existence of those thoughts and feelings, cry if those tears spill until you feel lighter. Forcing yourself to feel hopeful from a depressive state is unfair on yourself. You can, however, allow yourself to feel lighter by not denying the thoughts and feelings you have. Healing takes time but eventually, you get there. I hope you feel better, love.

I have experienced this and I definitely know how it feels to not have a purpose to live. All I can say is that this is the best time to find something you are passionate about! Discovering new hobbies and talking to people who make you feel better rather than bringing you down will help - this can be anyone from a close family member to someone who you are in the process of becoming friends with. Just focus on the things that make you happy, and you will learn to love to live for them. Take care and stay safe!

Life is all about ups and downs. Happiness only lasts for so long. And if your feeling less motivated or that its pointless living. It's not. I promise it will get better. Instead of waking up or going to sleep with dread just say Today I'm going to be happy. And don't let anyone bring you down. find your fire. I know you can do it. And remember your not alone in this fight. If your ever feeling down or just need someone to talk to feel free to message me. I'm here for you and I love u. I hope this answers your question.

I understand that at times we may feel like everything we are working for is pointless. Especially when we don't see the results immediately. In those times, we must stay strong and clearly remember our goals. Sometimes writing them on a piece of paper, and displaying it where we can see it often (eg: above your study desk), can help keep you driven. Start one day at a time. Plan out all your time with a schedule, but don't forget to give yourself some time off, too! Try and stick to the plan as much as you can, but don't get upset in case you are not as productive as you had hoped. Sometimes the results are not obvious and prompt when you are working towards something, but please dont get discouraged. Work hard towards your goals!

I can’t always give advice but i can say hope comes from positivity, having good people in your life can always help through bad times. Spend your time doing things that are worthwhile and try to accomplish one small thing per day. Write a list of things you want to achieve or things you want to finish. Spend a day calmly reviewing and coming up with ideas on how to reorganise your life, whether the problem is money, relationships, school or work, and make sure you communicate with people and explain the situation to them, It can sometimes take the pressure off

Motivation is never a permanent state! And that's perfectly okay and normal everyone at any age or phase in life. Motivation is something we must feed constantly with things like new experiences, and new ideas, and new feelings! Just like how you can't have soup every day for every meal, you'd probably get pretty bored with that eventually. Our minds work in that same way. Try reading new things, watching videos that could make you think differently, or talk to someone you that seems to be in a pretty upbeat mood, or is achieving things you would like to achieve. When life feels stale, just remember that you are your own door way to everything and anything, get yourself around positive things, or things that make you think differently. Sometimes a change in our environment or a change in what we introduce to the mind is all we need.

i feel the same especially as i have adhd motivation is never a permanent thing i think what works best for me is that i just figured out my purpose of living for example i want to make my life as meaningful as it can be and just be a genuinely good person in this cruel society and give back as much as i can for that i need to have a career and tor that i need to study that’s a cycle of forced motivation i use often as you are not suicidal i think you should take a chance to step back and ask yourself what u really want to be by that i don’t really mean in a “ career way” i mean what you really want be like as a person what habits do u want to have or what traits you would prefer to have thinking about these things can make u more aware of ur own personality and preferences and that’ll help you if not motivated atleast hopeful or feeling like u have something to work on and what makes it more easier the thing u wanna work ok is yourself so you don’t really need other people

Hey, I've been there too and I know how hard even finding the will to get up can be, and I'm so sorry you have to go through that. Personally, I always try to look for small things that give me that good old serotonin boost, however small. Just today I stopped and smiled for about 5 minutes because I saw This strong sprout breaking through the concrete by a trashcan. As small and common as it is, I just think about how lively that little plant is, even thriving next to literal trash. Some days seeing one nice action exchanged between people is enough to keep me going. If you have the energy for it, journaling can be a great coping mechanism. It allows you to express yourself whether through words or creatively. There also many guides on how to start. Another habit that boosts my mornings is my affirmations. Every morning, I say my daily affirmations. It can be something as small as "I feel hopeful for today" or "today will be less sucky than yesterday", just to remind yourself of how good you're doing. Another good mental boost is reminders. I have an app on my phone (daylio) that let's you log what you accomplish in a day, and even gives you the option to see a progress chart. You can set goals like drinking a certain amount of water, getting x hours of sleep, or even just getting out of bed. When you accomplish those, I get a notification banner to congratulate me, and that always make me feel a bit better. Building habits like these are actually scientifically proven to rewire your brain into thinking more positively. I had a teacher once, whose favorite was to once a day, our class was to write down any one positive thing we can think of and put it in a jar. When we weren't feeling our best, she'd let us open the slips in the jars and read about what's made us happy lately. If everything is feeling grey and muggy as it so often can be, even just finding the tiniest splotch of yellow can make you want to see more. If you've read this far, good on you! You may not know me but know I'm in your corner! :)

A lot of times, people feel this same way. In my personal experience to this, I feel like it's best to do the things that you love, and to do them without feeling like you'll be judged for it. Your life is yours, and going through this state of life is tough, but knowing people care and will be there for you has always been a huge motivator for me. Even if I can't talk to someone in that moment, I know I'll be able to talk to someone eventually, talking to people and knowing they care is an amazing feeling.

Motivation is important but it is impossible to be motivated 24/7 of your entire life. Rest is equally as important too. If you are struggling to do daily tasks then maybe start with smaller tasks and create small to-do lists every day will help you keep on track of things. There will be days where you will have no motivation at all, and that is ok. Don't dwell in that sense of feeling 'useless' or 'unproductive'. Be patient with yourself and be sure to give yourself rest and self-care when you are burning out. We live in a busy world and a busy society, but it is ok to do absolutely nothing sometimes too.

Find something you enjoy doing. Find something that gives your life purpose. Something that you want to do every time you get up in the morning. A habit. Something that would take up your time. Fing joy in family and friends. Try to make abucket list and do those things that will excite you. Try new things, get new passions, experience hapiness through travelling. Talk to random people. Help people. Volunteer for a cause close to your heart. Get a pet and give it all the love it deserves. Help family with problems. Go for a hike. The possibilities are endless

That is a really hard thing to go through! It's always best to remind yourself that you do have a support system, let it be teachers, friends or family. If you're able to tell them your how you're feeling, they'll be able to lift so much weight off your shoulders and they might be exactly what you needed. I'd also recommend working towards a goal. Maybe if you get 1 hour of work done, you can reward yourself with your favourite chocolate or 2 episodes of a show you're watching. That type of thing. In terms of feeling hopeful, remind yourself why you're doing this. Keep thinking about what it will lead to whether it's a job or school or anything. Just remind yourself that everything will pay off in the end!

I am so sorry to hear - Have you been looking after yourself recently? Self - care goes a long way in benefiting your mental wellbeing. Even the little things make a difference like getting enough sleep and exercising :) If you have no motivation to do any self-care activities, start small - take it one step at a time. -With meditation : Start with a 5 minute guided meditation before moving onto longer ones. - Exercise - start with walking, before moving onto jogging, etc. - Sleep - if you have trouble sleeping, try breathing exercises and journaling to vent all your feelings. Hope this helps :)

Know that your life can and will change. You can change your life. Help is available. Take advantage of it. Don't isolate yourself. You are alive and every day forward is a new day. Where you are in your life with your problems is temporary. Again, you can get help if you seek it. I hope that this helps. You can change your thinking and change your circumstances. You are already trying to be hopeful. You can do it. You are trying to get support. Please get some help. Take it one step at a time and your life will not feel so overwhelming.

A key factor in solving problems is firstly, identifying the problem. It may sound like it’s really obvious at times but once you take note of it, you’ll see that there may be more to a feeling then you think there is. That’s how you start on the journey of re-enacting the feeling of hope. Starting out with the temporary motivation would be my first approach into solving something like that. I would ask myself what, when, where, how and who are the key sources that impact on my motivation. “When am i more motivated?’’, and “what makes me motivated” or “when is my limit” is what I would ask myself. This will be made clear to you what you should avoid and what you should consider trying to practice more. Notice how I hadn’t ask myself why I feel the way I feel. In my case, it’s like asking why do you breathe? I breathe because I live so as I feel because I’m alive. It’ll only keep you running in circles and dwell in your own assumptions. The next thing I would do is to rationalize and my own opinions or assumptions with things that are actually happening around me. (I do not mean or is assuming that what you know is not true but there are times when our emotions are much stronger than reality) I understand it’s a hard exercise to do but there’s nothing that willingness, practice and consistency cannot improve. Asking what am i telling myself, what am i assuming, what conclusions am i drawing to myself and is there relevant reason or logic behind it is important. This will help you realize and label your emotions that leads you to think that life’s just black and white. The other reason why identifying and realizing is so important is because it’ll give you a sense of purpose to keep going. Hope comes from changes and changes come from effort in solving the issues. I really hope this helped even if it’s a little bit. I understand where you’re coming from because I’ve been there before myself. I wish the best of luck for you!

I have felt like this too. I started to learn new skills and practise old ones to keep me engaged and away from all the negativity. you could learn to develop a new mindset this way and you will see yourself enjoying it. this new skill can be singing, learning a new instrument , dancing, painting. just tell yourself that everything in life will just sort out fine and whatever is my situation right now, it will not remain forever. this too shall pass one day. try to avoid if the negativity around you is too much, talk to new people and make new friends. talking to a new set of people doesn't mean u will tell them about the bad things that are happening right now in your life, u can just make a good conversation about good and happy things. all this need to b done to distract yourself from the negativity. stay happy and blessed dear!

Depression to me is when nothing is wrong around me but everything inside feels hopeless and a wreck. No money problems, no family problems but inside is a wreck. Things that once brought you joy no longer seemed fun. Concentrating was so hard and almost impossible. And you try a lot of things to make yourself better but everything is futile. I understand you feel like this but there will be better days and you will push through them you need to be here for your friends and family don't give up buddies, life's to short :)

I feel this way often mainly because of the situation right now but I have noticed that keeping a journal helps. I write down things I am great full for including even the simple things such as food and I also include some goals that I want to achieve in a day these consist of for example, 3 out of 5 things that I would normally do in a day such as taking a shower or watering my plants. At the end it makes me happy that I checked off some things on the list and my day was not a waste.

When I’m not feeling like life is working out I try to focus on the positive things, and how I can change what i am able to change. Struggling with finding purpose is hard, but focusing on things that make you happy can help. Going for a walk or meditation can help clear your head. Writing in a journal (on your device or get a book specifically for your thoughts and dreams) that are only for you to see is something that helped me. I don’t feel judged, and I can just be me. I hope this helps, and just stay strong things will change if you work towards it ?

I totally understand the way you are feeling, sometimes you have those days where you get out of bed and have zero motivation and no energy, try to just breath for a second, and think about what makes you happy, and why you are still alive. For example your best friend and partner your dog anything that you feel a connection with, then get up and do what makes you happy, live for you not anyone else. If you feel unmotivated, listen to a podcast about motivation. Don’t just sit around, do what makes you happy. Life is never pointless I promise you, you were put on this earth for a reason, you just need to figure out what it is.

Why don't you keep a victory log of all the things that you have achieved in your life so far that are positive, and write a plan for yourself every day so that you have something to look forward to say like 1. Read a book 2. Go for a walk 3. Watch tv show, and put mealtimes inbetween and stick it on your kitchen wall? You are not alone in feeling like its pointless to live, we just have to remind ourselves of our past triumphs and how we can achieve them again, and remind ourselves of our friends and family who care about us very much.

I’ve been in a situation when I felt like everything was meaningless and life felt pointless. It made me feel so detached from life and like I was failing in every single way. It didn’t help either that people around me weren’t supportive. It was a very tough time and many times I felt like giving up. So I get what you mean, it’s so frustrating. But you know your situation the best and the best possible solutions that would get you out of that funk. You’re life feels messed up, but you’re not a mess. You’re capable of achieving good things and messing up is a part of life.

This is a difficult place to be in, because the usual answer is just to find some reason to get up in the morning, or find something that you're passionate about. While these are good ideas, sometimes depressive feelings can overpower your motivation. I've found that not everything needs to be on such a large scale. Small things can change your mindset for the long-run. Even if it's as small as getting to pet the neighborhood dog, or hearing that one friend's laugh- every little thing helps. If you can first begin to see more worth in the smallest of joys, then you can go on to find bigger, better things to work for.

People say that happiness is a choice, but I don't believe that's true. If you've ever felt hopeless, depressed, or if you've ever someone or something very important to you, then you know that happiness doesn't come that easily. Gratitude however is a choice we all can make every day. It's not easy, but it helps. Being thankful isn't always the same as feeling thankful, but you can be thankful even when you don't feel that way. Think of one thing every day, small things. Even something funny you remembered, or your favorite song, or finding extra cash in your pocket. You can think of something every day to be thankful for. Life is filled with good things all around us. When life gets very very hard and painful, and we struggle to see light or hope in our lives, we search for ways to fight for ourselves. Gratitude is one weapon against hopelessness. It helps us find the road back to peace.

Whenever I wake up, I head to the mirror and say 3 compliments to myself, ending off with 'whatever life throws at you today, you WILL overcome it'. I then set one target for the day - it doesn't have to be ridiculously complex. It can be something as easy as smiling at 3 people.