Stuck Procrastinating - Anticipating Pain - Get Unstuck
Question: Do you procrastinate to regulate your negative emotions?
Do you focus on:
- Anticipating emptional pain of doing an unpleasant task?
- Avoiding that emption pain rather than dealing with it?
Does that make you:
- Avoid even trying to solve a task?
Does just thinking about doing a task:
- Cause you great emotional pain?
Putting it off feels good for a while:
- Procrastination temporarily solves the negative emotion problems
But procrastination doesn't solve the root problem.
Procrastination actually makes the problem worse:
- Now you have less time to do the task
- Then you end up worrying about it more and more
- Time available gets shorter and shorter with procrastination
- You'll end up doing the task worse
- You gave yourself less time to do the task
- You spent more time worring and had much more pain overall
So why is it you felt forced to procrastinate?
- Why do others not feel that way?
Your problem is how you:
- Dealt with your strong emotional avoidance reaction
- Dealt with your complex emotions about the task
The non-procrastinator:
- Dealt with their emotions first quickly with less drama
- Avoided falling into a vicious procrastination cycle
Instead, non-procrastinators focused on:
- Finding an easy first step to get going
- After that finding it easier to do the next steps
Solution:
Learn to constructively manage:
- Your complex negative emotions about the task quickly
- Focus then on just doing the first simple step to get momentum
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