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Welcome to 7 Cups! Introduce yourself here!!
by Heather225
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Welcome to our community! We're excited to meet you! Please introduce yourself below. — Afterward, be sure to check out our welcome pack for everything you need to know starting out: * Members [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1M53Nm5-pbtxx2_jKfXYgYzo3NgXxjNfMwfzVSRC1rZg/] * Listeners [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1LTMvBFOgWICNHLlfNvzeQf2vkF3PPRn_jQUxJxjASOk/] We've got vibrant group chats too! The Sharing Circle is open 24/7 for adult users! Drop in HERE [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmJndHyWk5edlLBlWVrCnQ!!] so we can get to know you better!
Re-Introducing Member Compassion Course
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. This post is about - 7 Cups Compassion Course [https://www.7cups.com/forum/KitchenTable_133/SelfhelplearningwithLaura_743/7CUPSCOMPASSIONCOURSE_6809/1/] which was created by Laura. The course is for members only. Not for listeners! The goal of this course is to understand and know the basics of practicing compassion and help & support our members to have a compassionate experience in the group support chat rooms. This course allows you to foster healthy conversations and connections as well as be a compassionate, loving, supportive, and amazing member of the chat rooms and the community. Who can participate? Any member can take this quiz. Even if you are an experienced member, then also welcome to take part in it. Because we are all learning and practicing compassion. How can a member participate? * Once you have completed the course, please let us know in the comments of this post. * Also, tag any 3 members you know to invite them to take the quiz as well. * Your responses to the course will be graded and if you successfully passed it, you will receive, “Compassion Hero” badge. * If you didn’t pass, that’s okay. Feedback will be shared and then you can retake the course. Please remember that this course is designed to help you practice compassion and empathy for yourself and others. Because it is kindness that makes any place a better place to live in. Also, it will make you feel more comfortable, and well equipped to participate and be a wonderful participant in the group support chat rooms and forums. If you have any feedback to improve the course or any other ideas, please let us know in the comments of this thread. On that note, I invite you to take the compassion course here: https://tinyurl.com/4us8x8ue A big thank you to @vivelespatates for single-handedly managing this initiative for all these years! ------------------------- Edit: by ASilentObserver on 04/06/2022
Calling All Verified Listeners: Help Wanted on the 7 Cups Welcome Committee!
by Heather225
Last post
 Monday
...See more The hardest part of the journey is sometimes the beginning, and this is especially true of our newbies. We as a community have the power and ability to ensure they get properly oriented and supported so that their journey is smooth. I have been actively contacting newbies over the past couple of months and the results have been inspiring. Roughly 80% of those I sent a personal message responded to me and very appreciatively! That's a really big deal because those people have a much higher chance of being retained (retained = staying on 7 Cups). But I need help! So it's with great excitement, that I announce the revamped relaunch of the Welcome Committee! Through this initiative, we can meet our newcomers at the start with a friendly welcome (think hospitality, a greeter, etc.). We will also provide guidance and resources they need to navigate their first steps. The tasks are simple. PMing brand new members off a list, saying hi, giving resources, answering their questions and sending follow-up PMs to make sure their transition is complete. There's a few requirements just to be sure Welcomers are familiar with the basics of our platform. Requirements: ✔ You must be a Verified Listener (find out how to get verified here) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/listenerjourney/ListenerVerificationProject_1839/GetVerifiedon7Cups_290064/] ✔ 25+ chats ✔ No behavior reports (BPS) within 3 months ✔ Maintenance criteria: 2-3 hours a month to dedicate to this project ✔ Adaptability to changes! This is a new team so we're still figuring things out and like to try new things. ✔ Note: The team uses a google spreadsheet to copy/paste names and log PMs so you'll need access to a computer/laptop device. We apologize for the inconvenience! The monthly quota is 80 messages sent if you're an adult, and 40 sent if you're a teen. This includes both your first welcome PMs and your follow-up PMs. This may sound like a lot initially but it's easier than it sounds once you get into the swing of messaging. You can make a huge difference in our community's growth by joining us. I look forward to building this team with you! >>> Apply here! [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdye3w6JNdBiU4gNfilMGSxEfnqXXsQb-lR_xTvJmGD3GHKiA/viewform] <<<
Noob
by mhb710
Last post
 31 minutes ago
...See more Hey everyone new here looking forward to growing here. Thanks for having me.                                                       Mh     
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by NoJudgingNoAdvising
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more What do you do when you are sad?
Welcome to 7 Cups! Introduce yourself here!!
by Heather225
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Welcome to our community! We're excited to meet you! Please introduce yourself below. — Afterward, be sure to check out our welcome pack for everything you need to know starting out: * Members [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1M53Nm5-pbtxx2_jKfXYgYzo3NgXxjNfMwfzVSRC1rZg/] * Listeners [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1LTMvBFOgWICNHLlfNvzeQf2vkF3PPRn_jQUxJxjASOk/] We've got vibrant group chats too! The Sharing Circle is open 24/7 for adult users! Drop in HERE [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmJndHyWk5edlLBlWVrCnQ!!] so we can get to know you better!
Count to One Million
by juliak1968
Last post
 4 hours ago
...See more Count to One Million 1
Just needed to get it all out (Narcissistic/Emotional/Mental/Sexual abuse)
by modestRaspberries7557
Last post
 5 hours ago
...See more I'm fairly new here and shared some of my story in the Sharing Circle today but I felt like I needed to get it all out so here it is: Ive been in a ten year long committed relationship with a person who is most likely engaged to someone else. We started off great. We met in 2013 after I had my daughter but before her father and I split. My current fiance and I both worked at the mall. He claimed he was single but I told him I was in a relationship. We were just aquantences. We exchanged numbers but I didn't talk to him much. He would ask me if I wanted to hang out but I always said no. At that time I was in an abusive relationship. My daughter's father would monitor all my devices, watch me in the bathroom, hit me, and rape me throughout that year. In 2014 my daughter's father and I finally split (he had enough of feeling like the bad guy). Weeks later I asked if my current fiance wanted to hang out, he said yes and we set a date. Things went great. We got along well together and we started dating. Within a year he was telling me he loved me, talking about marriage, and taking me on vacations with him. He started saying we were soulmates and everything. He made me all these promises. Thoughout the next several years red flags began to raise for me. His stories about working at the hospital made littlle sense, his sudden departure to Hawaii for work when he asked me to go with him, his work trips to the upper part of the state every week, his unwillingness to cohabitate despite claims of wanting tto live together. It was all strange but I trusted him at his word and thought nothing of it until last year. He rented a shed a couple of cities over, had it since I met him, but the rent was beccoming too expensive so he wwas moving. He had his things, my things, and things that his aunt, uncle, and cousins own in the shed along with items from previous relationships. I had asked a few times about the relatives' items and the ex's but he was always defensive about it. I figured since he had lost his parents at an early age he was just unable to talk about things like family and relationships so I dropped it. Until I found a frame that I had never seen before. It had cardstock cut into hearts with 2 maps underneath, the first was labelled where we met and was dated 2005, the second was labelled where you proposed and was dated 2014. We had started dating iin 2014, we met a year prior to that and he said he was single and had just gone through a bad break up.  I asked him about the frame, he turned white, and immediately started laying into me calling me crazy and asking me why I was looking through his things. The frame had been laying on top of a pile of frames. I did not go looking for it, it was just there, like it was something new he just recieved. I had never seen it before. Then I asked about the dates. He said it was from another relationship from before we were together. He said he had told me about it. He never said he was enaged before, as far as I knew I was his only fiance ever. Regardless he kept yelling at me and calling me crazy for looking or even asking about it. Making it sound like I was in the wrong when he told me he was single in 2013. Somehow we moved passed this. This year, in about April, the situation at the shed was bothering me so I decided to do a background search on him. I ended up finding adresses between him and another woman his age from 2011-present. The woman had the same name as his cousin whose item's he was keeping in his shed and instead of being a teenager like he insinuated, she was almost 40 like him. I ended up finding all her soical media accounts that claimed he was her fiance since 2014, and that they had been together since 2005. On top of that I found messages on his work *** between him and another ex where he claimed to still love her and miss her and made a huge story about how he was sailing off of the Florida coast when he was in Michigan, with me. Everything I found destroyed me. I didn't know what was real annd what wasn't.  I confronted him about what I had found and he told me his cousin is an immigrant and he posed as her fiance to help her with immigration. This story sounded  tooo ffar fetched to be real so I made an effort to contact her directly. He continured to belittle me and make me feel like a monster for looking into the situation. Then word got back to him that I had emailed her, suddenly he started telling me that I needed to stop looking into this because his aunt was going to file a restraining order against me because the email I sent whent to his other cousin which is a minor. Note that at this point we had been together for 10 years and I have never met his aunt, uncle or cousins. The only names of cousins he had ever mentioned were 2, one boy and one girl, and he made them sound like children between the ages of 7-15. Then with the email, suddenly a new name is added to the list of cousins. The name he used for this cousin was  the same name he used when talking about an ex's friend.  Nothing he was telling me made sense. I just felt like a monster and I started thinking I was wrong and paranoid because he said I was. Then in July I recieved a pocket dial from him. I answered and heard him talking to another woman, telling her not to kiss him because his breath smells, saying to her let me see that sweet a**, she told him she made him cookies, and they traded I love yous after he said he had to go. I was shocked. I tried facetimiing him 3 times. He denied every single call. Then I just cried. He called back minutes later and immediately went on the defensive. I told him I heard him with another woman, he denied it and told me to talk to his firend. He claimed he was trying to facetime me so I could see one of his aunt's tenants, he said the voice I heard was a man and he was not talking to a woman. I did not want to talk to his friend, I just told him over and over again I did not want to be with him anymore. He yelled at me and told me to shut up and listen and to talk to his friend but I wouldn't I just kept repeating what I heard. He told me I was wrong and he wascoming over. When he arrived he walked straight to my daughter and told her I was crazy and paranoid and I didn't know what I was talking about (I did not talk to my daughter about any of this). Then he came into the room with me and proceeded to tell me his version of the story over and over again while calling me crazy and claiming I did not hear what I heard. He offered to take me to the location where he was and I accepted. We drove past the parking lot where he was but he would not take me into the actual lot. I asked him to go in but he refused.  That night, at 3 am, I took the door camera off my apartment door and changed the locks. The next morning I turned tracking off my phone, blocked him, and took off for the day. Towards the afternoon he started calling me from a different number, testing me, and threatening to use law enforcement to fake a wellness check in order to regain entry to my apartment. I told him we were fine but he would not relent. Eventually I returned his call. Eventually it came to a point where I had to go back home. He made me realize that I was not financially stable at the moment and I did not have access to transportation. He used these things against me to get me to calm down and come back. I did. Then he was back in my apartment that day. He erased all the calls and messages he left but when he was gone, I recovered them. For my sake. A month later I recieved another pocket dial from him. This time from the other number. This time, it went to voicemail and was recorded. I saved the recording to a seperate device. I listened to it. It was him and the woman from before talking about thier anniversary. She was asking if he was going to keep her company and he said he couldn't because he had listing appointments (he didn't). Again when I heard this I wanted to break it off again. He made another story about the woman being his aunt and he was at lunch with his whole family, it wasn't just them. At this point he has changed his story about both of these incidents everytime I have brought them up and I caught him in another lie when I made a white lie of my own the other day. Last week I was feeling down about this situation and he was wanting me to talk. I made up a lie saying I found her birth certificate stating she was born in the states. He told me it was a fake just like his was when he had to come over here. He said her documents didn't work which is why he had to pose as her fiance instead. (I never found her birth certifiicate but I did find an article from 1991 placinng bother her and her mother here at the time, she would have been 5 or 6, plenty of time to become a naturalized citizen in the united states). Now I am working to become financially independant from him so I can move on. I am done.
Need a Hug? FREE HUGS!!!
by Laura
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more FROM ME!NEED ONE??? POST HERE, I GOT YOU!ALL WELCOME
Share a favourite memory and be grateful :)
by carefulWest6083
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more To all the newbies and others, come and share a favourite memory with us and be grateful to have had it. Gratitude is a blessing.
Hey, 👋
by calmingKiwi3308
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more Hey ....just wanted to welcome the newbies....I'm a newbie too lol ....so not much to say but hope you'll be a great counsellor here🙂
Re-Introducing Member Compassion Course
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. This post is about - 7 Cups Compassion Course [https://www.7cups.com/forum/KitchenTable_133/SelfhelplearningwithLaura_743/7CUPSCOMPASSIONCOURSE_6809/1/] which was created by Laura. The course is for members only. Not for listeners! The goal of this course is to understand and know the basics of practicing compassion and help & support our members to have a compassionate experience in the group support chat rooms. This course allows you to foster healthy conversations and connections as well as be a compassionate, loving, supportive, and amazing member of the chat rooms and the community. Who can participate? Any member can take this quiz. Even if you are an experienced member, then also welcome to take part in it. Because we are all learning and practicing compassion. How can a member participate? * Once you have completed the course, please let us know in the comments of this post. * Also, tag any 3 members you know to invite them to take the quiz as well. * Your responses to the course will be graded and if you successfully passed it, you will receive, “Compassion Hero” badge. * If you didn’t pass, that’s okay. Feedback will be shared and then you can retake the course. Please remember that this course is designed to help you practice compassion and empathy for yourself and others. Because it is kindness that makes any place a better place to live in. Also, it will make you feel more comfortable, and well equipped to participate and be a wonderful participant in the group support chat rooms and forums. If you have any feedback to improve the course or any other ideas, please let us know in the comments of this thread. On that note, I invite you to take the compassion course here: https://tinyurl.com/4us8x8ue A big thank you to @vivelespatates for single-handedly managing this initiative for all these years! ------------------------- Edit: by ASilentObserver on 04/06/2022
Tackling me and Adhd
by staticfoil
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more Hi . . . . . That is all ;w; I'm trying to accomplish my schooling, tackling how my adhd has contributed to my anxiety and maybe depression, and reparent myself. Adhd with no meds or doctors, I can take all the advice coming in these next few weeeks. THank you so much.
Hi people!
by PsychPrashansa13
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more Hi guys! How are you doing? I hope everyone is fine!  Share one good and one bad thing that happened lately. Let's support each other.  Lots of love!
Adhd spouse support
by imaginativePal5167
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more My spouse has ADHD and his rejection sensitivity is ruining our relationship. It feels like there is no way to get through to him on our issues so we can resolve them. It's like walking on eggshells and I'm becoming an emotional volcano ready to erupt from so much frustration. He doesn't think ADHD should be medicated because his mom told him long ago that it was bad medicine that caused more problems than they were worth. I'm curious if anyone is going through this with their spouse and how do you get around it or if someone who is ADHD and medicated can tell me if they can see a difference in themselves on it.

Newbie Hub

Welcome to the Newbie Hub! This is a space for newbies to learn, ask and get involved in the community. A safe and inclusive space to help settle you in on your new 7 Cups journey. You can check out our introduction video here!


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