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[Listeners] Farewell/Taking a Break/Returning Thread: Send Your Regards
by MonBon
Last post
 Friday
...See more This is the public support counterpart of this thread [http://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenersOnlyForums_38/ListenerSelfCare_95/FarewellTakingaBreakReturningThreadSendYourRegards_4132/1/] [L] so that listeners can let the whole community know if they are leaving or if they have come back. Below excerpt taken and modified from the original thread: Some Listeners decide, at one point or another, to take a break or in special cases to leave the site as a Listener. During their time here they may have made connections with others in the community and sometimes people aren't aware that they have left or are misinformed and thus never get the opportunity to sent their warm wishes. Thus, this thread is meant for Listeners to inform the community that they are leaving or taking a break and leave their appropriate comments for others to read. Moreover, returning Listeners can post here as well to inform the community that they are active again. Returning to 7 Cups after a break? We have a welcome Back Committee now, you can find information here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/WelcomeZone_2385/WelcomeBackCommittee_295611/] (clickable), and reach out. Your peers and mentors are here for you. <3 Lastly, others in the community can send their regards to these Listeners. [L] indicates a Listeners Only thread [Welcome back committee information added by Sunisshiningandsoareyou, 02/10/23]
Listener Classifieds: Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)
by Heather225
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more This space is for Listeners who actively and currently support the topic of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) to introduce themselves. Members: review the replies below to find someone who aligns with your needs. Remember to check their listener bios for further information before connecting. Listeners, please share the following details: Are you an adult, teen, or ATL (Adult-Teen Listener): Gender: Languages you speak: Are you open to taking on members for long-term listening support? Your experience with DID: Any other things a member should know: (Optional) Your availability (in EST time) and day(s) if applicable: (Listeners, if at any point you no longer accept DID chats or wish to update your information, contact me or CheeryMango to delete or edit your response)
🐶😺How It Started/How It's Going: Pets Edition!!😺🐶
by ShadowFaerie
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more We all adore our pets. They bring us joy, comfort, sometimes a little mischief 😁 and enrich our lives in so many ways. Here's your opportunity to show them off and bring smiles to the community! Share some pictures of your fur babies, feathered friends and other pets over time. 
What Brought You to 7 Cups?
by Heather225
Last post
 4 minutes ago
...See more Hello, everyone! Folks come to 7 Cups from all walks of life, and every single person here brings something to the melting pot that is our unique community. I'm curious to know what brought you to 7 Cups? A challenge, a transition, peer support, healing? Something else entirely? Maybe you found us on a whim and signed up out of curiosity: what caught your interest and what made you stay? Feel free to share only what's comfortable for you! I think it would be fun to see what kinds of similarities emerge from your stories!  Remember, you're in a safe space here. Looking forward to reading your stories!
Halloween!!
by genericbeing
Last post
 2 hours ago
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I don't know where to put this vent - Diaries. and how i'll never have one ever again. (by nate, 13, all pronouns, if i didn't introduce myself)
by Nate715
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more I don't know why, i don't know how.  A few years ago i was told by my mother that she would never check a single notebook or diary i had to keep my privacy to myself. but as i rebelled and got older, it seemed like she completely forgot about that. the first diary/notebook/journal she went through was a book she got me herself when i was around 10 or 11, i ended up drawing tons of OCs and writing tons of problems i was going through in it, and that included tons of cussing - my mom doesn't allow extreme cuss words such as the b word, f word, or others. i eventually finished using that journal and hid it in my drawer and eventually forgot about it. a few months go by and i rediscover it and look through it and i find some unexpected embarrassing notes from my mom, i was *** off. how could she do this to me? i thought she didn't care about this stuff! recently, a few hours ago, she and my uncle and my younger sisters went out to shop and get food, and i went through into her room to find some things, and i ended up finding them along with 2 old diaries of mine, which i haven't used in years - one of the diaries contained an old nsfw art from when i was 11, really scared she saw it. the third diary, is one from recently. i'd say, one from when i was 12 years old up until now i've been using it but i haven't used it in months, knowing she'd kept it from me makes me cringe just thinking about the potiental notes she's written in there. i wanna burn it but all the time i've placed into the diaries make me not want to. what do i do in this situation and should i open up the diaries to check? (and no, i don't wanna talk to my mom about it.)
Unloved
by sensitivePal85266
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more I feel so unloved, like the pain of being alone in this world is too too heavy on me How do I keep going? I'm just so overwhelmed, I've been crying daily for like 3 days now I lost it, I'm not doing anything good, I'm lashing out on others. Whenever I try to make a friend I end up being selfish, and I hurt them I can't make friends, but I still need them. I've been alone almost all of my life, nobody cares about me, how do someone like me function without any of the important feelings that everyone gets? love, kindness, joy, enthusiasm, passion, ambition, humanly connection with others, nostalgia (As I never had good childhood memories, never went to any parks, zoos, oceans, traveling for fun, cinemas, or any of those places that are memorable memories for people in their childhood), and hope.  I just wanted a hug for too too long, ever since I was a child, but nobody gave it to me, and now I'm a broken guy reaching adult age, and I will be blamed for my trauma as if I chose this.  Unloved by parents, siblings, and everyone else who starts to know me hates me, in one way or another.  2 failed relationships, 1 blocked me, and one cheated on me I tried making a friend here, and I ended up hurting them, and now they dislike me.  I wonder when they'll either block me, or use me for being too weak, I just don't think that they'll treat me any well after being this vulnerable to them, especially when they have issues themselves that could lead them to using me, or hurting me, and I understand that. I'm already a failure of becoming a man, and even a human being. Just a narcissistic who pretends to care. And I don't know what to do. Don't even have money for therapy, and I'm too broken to even go into this journey of college and jobs, I can barely survive while I'm with myself. I literally wrote this an hour before a final exam that I barely studied for, I didn't even know what was the subject till I checked it last night.  People say that men can show their emotions, but that is a pathetic lie that gets told, just to pretend that we're equal, but nobody actually cares when a guy shows their emotions, unless they have a good amount in their bank account, or I guess a fancy wolf cut, or a six pack.
Brother/ Sister-In-Law Problems
by neonHuman185
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more My brother has no personality of his own. He ia social chameleon and his personality depends on whomever he is around. He has a habit of letting his partners control him. His first wife, whom he has 2 kids by, controlled him for 17 years until he had break down and couldn't take it anymore. His current wife, that is also divorced with 2 kids from a previous marriage, is controlling like the first one. It's getting out of hand. My niece and nephew were staying at their house for a few years and their stepmom was really mean to them. I witnessed the bad treatment. My brother let her treat them that way and treats his wife's kids better than his own. Well... They moved back in with their mom and they are much happier. But his wife seems to be getting worse. They have been married for 8 years now. The one thing about her that I do like is that she helps my parents out, whom are sick. I have noticed throughout the years that she is an insecure and jealous woman that has to have things her way. I wanted to introduce my wife to my brother and she had a problem with it because she doesn't like him talking to "other women." Lately, she convinced him to delete his *** account, which is where he and I would have fun joking around and chatting. I texted her 2 days ago to ask how they were to be polite and now she is giving me the silent treatment. I love my brother, but I really can't stand that woman and I hate that he lets her act like that. I'm trying not to start any drama, especially because my parents are sick. My mom is undergoing kemotherapy atm.
How to Cope with Physical & Psychological Pain?
by whimsychaser99
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more Hey, I’m Whimsy im new here. I’m 24 and have been diagnosed with BPD along with a few other mental illnesses since I was 18. As I’ve gotten older, my mental illness has gotten worse and I’ve noticed now that my physical health is deteriorating extremely quickly. I’ve now been diagnosed with multiple chronic pain conditions, and it’s likely they were caused by the years of stress. Has anyone else gone through something like this? We’re now pursuing a fibromyalgia diagnosis, and it’s really hard to cope with going from working out 6 days a week to being unable to even work right now. Just looking for some ideas / support with getting through this, I guess.
I'm so hopeless, I don't know what to do
by Zae1
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you're all doing well, anyone reading this. It's my first post here so I'm a little anxious. I would like to share a little of how I feel. I won't share much of my personal information, but I am a girl. I'm in my second semester of college, and so far I'm doing very well. The thing is, about 5 years ago I started to develop low self-esteem. But it's something I was able to control. But over time, everything got worse. I looked for support from my friends and other people and those things. Everything was going well. But about 4-5 months ago I started to suffer from something similar to anhedonia. My life has always been one of constant stress because of the fear of disappointing my parents with my grades. I developed gastritis at an early age.Well, getting back to the topic of my supposed anhedonia, I feel weird. I'm being honest. I feel bad and very weird.Before, (I mean about a year),I was a very compassionate and emotional person. I spent a lot of time playing my favorite video games and characters, enjoying my hobbies and spending time with my friends. A lot.I have always been a good student, daughter, and daugther. I was passionate about mysterious things and magical, medieval vibes.I had a talent. Yes, I did. I loved drawing since I was little. I have an art account on ***, but I haven't posted anything there for a month.I feel hopeless. For a couple of years now I guess I really was suffering from depression. Nothing matters to me. I stopped talking to many friends. I have a void in my chest. I can't cry the way I'd like to. I've never been completely happy for long in my life. I'm always going from here to there. I've always felt like I'm weird. I'm not happy with myself. The last few months have been about getting through my day to day life. I have a music playlist. I loved that music and it made me feel things and feel good, wanting to fight for my passions. But now I don't feel anything. I listen to them and I don't feel anything. I've been looking into this a lot and I think it's "emotional burnout". But I'm not interested. I don't want to go outside. I miss how I used to feel. With my tastes and my passions and the things I loved. I used to have a lot of projects with my art and stuff like that. I've tried to convince myself that I'm supposed to grow up. But adults are also happy and feel things, right? I guess I've ruined my life with my pessimism. I'll never feel anything again, I think.All my pleasures for which I fought three years are not worth it.I have been looking for new interests in case you are wondering. Yes, this year I discovered a sport that I love and that did not affect my other interests. But now I no longer feel that spark when I watch my favorite sports. I can't really talk to my parents for help right now because they are in a difficult situation with their jobs. And I can't get a therapist at the moment... I miss my video games, talking to my friends, enjoying my art and my favorite characters.I miss my emotions. I miss being sentimental.. I miss everything. And I blame myself every day.. it's hard to cope with all this.. for all these years.. All these four years of holding on and thinking that the next day will be better. All those nights I cried because I wished I wasn't here.All these years doubting everything. I've been miserable.I'm the oldest sister, so I don't want my little brother to go through what I've been going through. My chest hurts. I feel lost. I feel bad.I don't care about myself. I miss everything. That's all.I don't feel well enough to give more details. I'm sorry if you read all this and thank you for reading it. Thank you for your patience and your valuable time.I would appreciate if anyone could leave a comment if they could. Just wanted to share this. Thanks and have a nice day.
Idk wht to say properly so this hope you'll understand
by sliaa3quii
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more So... Idk if its ok for me to say but i will i started playing a game online where i met a guy he told his age his 19 i was 16 at tht time later from one of his i got to know he is 26,,, 10 years older than me I was ald so madly in love with me tht it was hard for me tk let him go we are not in a relationship he is not my boyfrnd but he gets hurt when I talk to guy i removed them immediately Once he was there in game flirting with a girl I was so upset so for like a revenge like thing i added a guy named ash to my socials n i didn't told him I removed tht guy ash after 5 to 6 days but after several month because of some arguments of my frnd ash was the mutual frnd so i had to add him again but this time somehow he got to know this so he was very upset still he gave me a chance but now he is very mean like always he is very rude n says if there was some other guy he would never keep a girl like me with him he would kick me n let me suffer n stuff,, he are on good terms sometimes n sometimes bad ,,after our argument he regrets being mean to me so he says sorry as well but now my mental health is in a very bad state im depressed n he doesnt know tht now he only ignores me n misunderstands me idk how to make him understand my side, n my words are so weird sometimes like sentence tht he thinks am lying to him i tend to forget things easily n yes i did lie to him about tht ash guy but later told him evrything ik its my fault as well
My parents called a psychiatric ambulance to hospitalize me by force
by yellowSugar5679
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more I have been struggling with mental health for the past 8 years and my parents were mostly unsupportive during this time. This ranged from taking away my prescription because my mother said that I made everything up and made the doctors believe that I have bipolar disorder to showing absolutely no support after scide attempt and overdose. Last few months I have been dealing with so much pain, trauma and betrayal. I was already way past my breaking point. My father passed on flu or some other virus to me days before my birthday because he didn’t wear a mask despite me asking him to numerous times. I was supposed to go away for my birthday, but faced logistical issues that delayed the trip. My mother completely ignored me for 2 months and then suddenly wanted to give me a present on my birthday without trying to make any amends, not taking any responsibility for her actions and expecting me to just pretend like nothing happened. I snapped. It was the worst birthday ever. Few days later yesterday I was laying on the couch watching tv, completely exhausted from the flu when she was making loud noises in the kitchen that made my headache unbearable. During that day she was ignoring me again (that’s her favorite pastime) not even asking if I need help or anything. I snapped again. I started screaming at her because of the noise she made and how inconsiderate she was to my pain. And she was intentionally making me more and more infuriated. She told me that I should go to my room if I don’t like it, that I should be working and earning money, despite knowing how triggering the money issue is for me and how much I hate being financially dependent on them and the fact that every time I have to ask them for money they make it a humiliating process and always reminding me how much money they spent on me. It’s not my fault that they gave birth to me in a *** country that provides no social support whatsoever and I didn’t ask to be born, neither could I predict that I will be in this situation struggling with finances, mental health and just about everything else in life. She kept coming at me with hurtful words seeing that I’m not taking it well and already mad and infuriated. My father joined my mother so now they were 2 against 1 verbally attacking me. Normally, I would go out for a walk, remove myself from this toxic environment, but I was sick. I think I had a dysphoric mania episode or whatever else. I completely lost myself and started physically attacking them. All the past trauma and hurt and pain from the time they were constantly beating me when I was a child together with new trauma blinded my eyes and I couldn’t store it inside any longer. Unlike me not being able to defend myself when they were hitting me when I was a child, they were quite actively defending themselves. My mother bit my hand with her teeth and then pressed the door on my hand stuck between the door and the door frame. My father and her were hitting me back. She continued to verbally abuse me throughout all of this. She said that nothing in this house belongs to me. I took let vase and slammed it on the floor and some other stuff. I couldn’t control myself. I turned to see my father laughing and filming me on his phone to have evidence against me. They told me that they will put me into a mental institution and started calling an ambulance. An ambulance came. I locked myself in my room and my father told them that he knows how to break the lock. He was basically all in in helping them break into my room and take me by force. I told the doctors that I will call the police if they try to break in. As I mentioned I live in a *** country with horrible medical system. The doctor was a two faced lying piece of garbage when she talked to me she tried to act all compassionate and told me that no one can or will take me to hospital by force. But when I listened to her talking to my parents she basically told them that they don’t need my permission and can hospitalize me by force if they want to. In the end they didn’t do anything because I had fever because of the virus and they said that no hospital will admit me with fever and left. I don’t know what to say. I lived a real life horror story unfolding in front of me. My worst nightmare. I’m not proud of physically attacking them. I’m not that kind of person. I’m not violent. But years of physical and emotional abuse and pain can drive anyone mad. But if I’m crazy they’re just as crazy. If I should go into mental institution, they should also be there in another room. They’re not any better. But the way they tried to paint me as a problem and a crazy one is beyond betraying. You know there are so many stories when parents hide their kids from police when they commit crimes because they love them and want to protect them no matter what. Mine called the ambulance and gave me up like rats. Like I’m not their daughter, but an inconvenience and a burden. I’m screaming in pain inside, but no one can hear me.
An Anxiety Nightmare
by placidWheel4915
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello, I joined this group like 10 minutes ago so I don’t know what I’m doing. I’m just going to share some of my struggles in hope for some advice or people who can relate…… I got into a serious relationship freshman year of high school and that relationship lasted a little over a year and after we broke up I noticed I wasn’t ok being by myself…… I needed to find a boyfriend, not having a boyfriend made me anxious. I got anxious attachment style over any boy I dated and our relationships ended ubruptly because of my self sabotaging behavior even tho it was the opposite of what I wanted to do. Present day: im dating this guy we’ve been dating a little longer then what my Average relationship lasts I need advise on how I won’t be so scared all the time that he’s gunna leave me. Im sick of living in anxiety and fear.
Where is everybody?
by azuleyes
Last post
 15 hours ago
...See more So I was pretty active listening several years ago when, if I recall correctly, there would be like 80,000 requests handled per week.  I dropped out for a while but came back about 4 or 5 months ago for a couple of weeks and the number of requests had dropped to around 45,000, if I recall well. I figured it was just around the start of summer so maybe that's why the number was so low so I dropped out again and figured I'd try again later.  Now I check again and the weekly number is 37,000, and the queue has maybe 2 or 3 people waiting, sometimes none, at a time of day when typically there would have been 20 or 30 requests in the past. So what did I miss? Is the model now mostly to send people to the online therapists, and no longer utilize the volunteer listeners? Or has something else happened? Can someone please enlighten me?
Life really kicking me
by ShadowMyCat
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more My bf dosnet work and hadn't for a year. My youngest child of 3 Is going to be 1 in January. My elsedeet is going to be 4 in February and my middle child 3 in May. These are his children. We have no money and are not even pay check to paycheck. I'm baby bonus to baby bonus paying rent with it aks the rest is bills and food. App he needs is a part time job. But here we are.. Anyways yesterday he said he was going to go and get sole money form his mom so I cjs do.laundy. I'd typically go there to do it but we hagebno Gas and this man had chosen to do to much thos weekend without any gas. (He plans to go put mon-wed but we again have no gas or money so..plus we live on the other side of town) He later tells me he not asking his mom for money. Cool. Youngest needs milk but k. Ao I scavenge for milk. I go to the store to grt thr milk. Turns out I was 30cents short. She still gave me the milk. Bless her heart honeslty highlight of my day. I leave the store walk to the road. I'm paying attention to the lights. It's my turn to walk. Ik walking and I got his by a car. Dude was drinking you could tell by hos demeanor and smelled of weed. I screamed. I'm hurt I wobble home. My neighbour who saw it wll was asking me if.im okay and actually caring about me and my well being. Hold on to this it's important. I grt in the door hug my child and tell my bf I was hit by a car. He hasn't moved form his Xbox. He tells me how didnyou manage thar.. like it was my ultimate fault not the guy driving. Like he showed no.csre ajs instead was Mad at me. I'm broke sore and beaten down

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