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by integrityblues

18 hours ago

I'm Lost I don't know what to do

by shyWalker6995

20 hours ago

...See more Hi everyone, I don’t know where to begin, but I know that I don’t feel normal. My childhood wasn’t easy, my family relationships are complicated, and I often feel like I never truly experienced love while growing up. I always believed in the kind of love we see in movies and books. In school and college, I never let my guard down because I feared people would leave. But this time, I opened my heart. While working in Delhi, struggling with my job and feeling frustrated, I tried a dating app. After some hesitation, I met someone. At first, I wasn’t sure about him, but he kept trying, and we started going on dates. Even then, something felt off. I suggested we stay friends, but he insisted on being together. Eventually, we got into a relationship. I was happy, even with the bare minimum. We had small fights, but we were okay—until the fights became about why he could go all day without talking to me while I was waiting to hear from him. I started feeling like I didn’t matter to him. He reassured me, and I chose to believe him. Then, things changed. One day, he drunk-called me and broke up. I was shattered, begging him not to leave, but he had made up his mind. Even after that, we met again and acted like nothing had changed. But deep inside, I knew it wasn’t the same. I struggled with anxiety, sleepless nights, and overwhelming pain. I sought help, but nothing seemed to ease the emptiness. The only person who could comfort me was him, and I kept reaching out. He met me again, and for a moment, things felt normal. But then he backed out once more. I was left questioning everything. I tried to stay strong, but I couldn’t stop thinking. I needed answers, so I checked his social media. What I found broke me—he had been cheating on me from the beginning. He had already moved on while I was still trying to hold on. I was devastated. In a moment of pain, I made a reckless decision and ended up hurting myself. Even then, he never reached out. I messaged him, hoping for some concern, but instead, he blocked me. His excuse? He claimed that what he did wasn’t really cheating. When I confronted his ex, she didn’t believe me either. I was left feeling completely alone. I keep asking myself—why do I still miss him? Why do I still want to talk to him? I know I deserve better, yet my heart won’t let go. I don’t want to love him anymore. I want to move on. I feel like I lost myself, my trust, and my self-worth. A part of me still wonders—will he ever realize what he did? Will he ever understand the pain he caused? Right now, I’m scared—scared to live, scared to feel, scared to trust again. But I don’t want to be stuck in this pain forever. I want to heal. If anyone has been through something similar, how did you move on? How do you unlove someone who broke you? I just want to feel okay again.

Healing from depression

by understandingDog4297

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How do you stay strong in the face of uncertainty?

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1 day ago

My body hurts n im sad cuz of this

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1 day ago

A note to myself

by Bostonyourmyhome

1 day ago

...See more Below is a item I wrote to myself. I recently read it and it helped make me feel better. Please don’t believe everything you tell yourself when you are depressed! It’s not true! Hey How are you doing? Listen, I know how you are feeling and I’m sorry you are going through this again. The darkness can be so suffocating and Scarey and makes living really hard. I wish I could make it stop instantly and help you feel safe inmediately. But, let me tell ya something, I know you will get through this. I know you will be okay. Trust me. Since I know you are in a dark place right now, please listen closely. You are worth it man. You have come a long way. You have so much to be thankful for. Yes, I get it. It’s hard to see right now so let me tell you what you already know but can’t currently see. You have a beautiful family. You married the greatest woman possible. Yup, you got very lucky and who knows why she picked you or how and why you were worthy of her but you are together. And now, you have 5 beautiful, healthy, talented and smart children. Did you ever envision that when you were younger? I’m not done so keep listening….You also have two great families that can help you when you need it. Make sure you let them know when you need help. I know it’s embarrassing when you feel like a failure but just telling someone how you are feeling will help. Don’t keep it locked up inside. That doesn’t help; ever. Ok, let’s get to what’s bothering you the most, the company. Keep in mind your company has had good years. This was a tough one and things happened that you did not see coming. You don’t want to be in the situation you are in but it happened. Just continue to do the next right thing, every day. You are smart enough to know what that means. It could be easy or difficult decisions but you know what needs to be done, what is right for the business, what is right for everyone. Would you really change your past if you could? I think it’s easy to look at all the awful *** things that have happened and say I wish that did not happen to me, why did that have to happen to me? But that’s not how you learn. You never were much of a planner, more of wanderer and let’s face it, depression has slowed you down. But it doesn’t need to be that way. You have learned how to work at staying mentally and physically strong. You have ways to fight depression. Don’t skip exercising, ever. Just don’t. Be grateful your legs, heart and lungs are strong and workout as much as possible. For you, excercise gives that relief your brain needs. I know that first 10 seconds of starting a workout sucks but the after effects, the rush of seratonin and dopamine well outweigh how hard it is to start the workout. It outweighs depression man. Promise me you wont ever stop working out. Now, I know you like listening to as many mental health experts as possible but at some point you need to start doing what it is they are telling you to do. I think praticing mindfulness could help you. Just *** try every day for 6 months and see if it helps. Just try, please, for me. Keep it simple. Do the breathing exercise first then add something else once you can do that for 10 minutes at a time. Pay your bills when you can but only when you can. Otherwise, focus on the next right thing. I know you hate to hear this but you have wasted so much time on negativity and rumination and it’s *** doing nothing. It does not solve anything. If it did, trust me, you would have zero mental problems. You have put the time in thinking about your problems, over and over and over again and it got you knowhere. Create a plan, excercise and take action every day as if your life depends on it. The alternative is to end up with a mind invested with negativity which leads to anxiety and then depression. You don’t want that! Go gentle on yourself right now especially. I know it will be hard to do so but you must try. Keep your routines as best you can. Keep getting things done. You’re in a fragile state so please go easy on yourself. *** the worry, embrace hope and think positive. See a future you want to have and be honest with what you want. Know what truly matters. Then protect that with everything you have! I’ll say it again, don’t ruminate. If there is a cure for rumination, it’s action. Stay in the action lane, not the rumination one. Think about what worrying does, how it makes you feel. It’s all bad feelings! Think of positive outcomes. Be deliberate with it, say positive things, do positive things. You know I’m right and ai’m not full of ***! Lastly, learn to love yourself more. I think it mostly starts with that. Find the happy, find the peace. Love you forever!

how to not let depression get me

by orangeHuman7383

1 day ago

Unheard.

by cherrych0co

1 day ago

...See more TW: mention of SH, thoughts of attempting, verbally abusive parents, mild physical abuse, toxic household, etc. Hello. This will be a very long entry... I'm also not fluent in English, as it is not my first language. I'm a 17 years old female, and I feel so lost in life and tongue-tied. I don't even know where to begin... when I was about 5 to 6 years old, I realize that something's wrong with the way we live. The earliest memory I can remember was my parents were shouting at my younger brother (he's 2 years younger than me, probably 3 or 4 when this happened) while we have guests at home. I went to console him, but I didn't really do well because he kept crying. There are times I got hit with a clothes hanger, a belt, got hit with my mom's hand, my father's, but I thought it was normal because I was young back then. Growing up, my parents often fight, shouting and cursing at each other. They do the same when they scold my brother and I. When I was in 5th grade, I discovered self-harm from some of my classmates, who were doing it because they think it'll make them 'cool', but it felt strange when I first did it because I was hurting, though it did distract me a little. Since then, I always keep a razor blade with me, up until now. I remember having to sleep on a very hot day without using the fan because my father will get mad. We have to minimize the use of everything as we are not financially well, after all. I remember them waking me up when I fell asleep after I got home (when you turn 5th to 6th grade at the school I studied in, the class starts from 5:30 am to 4 pm, so I was really tired when I get home + not to mention sometimes we have practice for extra activities) to do the dishes. The feeling of my father's hand hitting me, his drunken cursing and shouting while I wash the dishes, shaking in fear will forever haunt me. These were only a few of many rough experiences I had growing up. I was also pressured in staying at the honor's list, which I did manage, until highschool. Things went even downhill when I hit highschool. One Christmas, I had to go out at night looking for my brother (he's always outside, with his friends... I do understand because it's some sort of an escape from our home) crying because my parents had a huge fight. My father was drunk, and he even told me to "be prepared" at the time. I honestly thought they were going to leave each other. But they didn't. I was having thoughts back then that maybe they should leave each other instead of fighting all the time. I had to drop out of school for a year because my depression got really bad because of the bullying I get, since I was on the chubbier side, plus the unfair treatment of the teachers. The toughest part was that my parents were extremely mad at me, and it even got to a point where my mom would punch me while screaming at me. When I continued school the next year, my self-harming got worse. My classmates saw it, one of the teachers noticed it, I'm sure my brother saw me a few times, but I couldn't bring myself to stop doing it. It's what's keeping me sane at the moment—to be able to be at honor's list again and get high grades. My brother was in the age where boy's get involved with groups of friends who were no good, and he also would punch me every time he gets upset. He's much more stronger than me, and it will bruise at most times. From ages 11 to 14 I'm having thoughts of attempting, but it worsen when I was 14, 15, 16, and now, 17. I was searching for ways to do it, at some point I almost did, but I knew I can't—I promised myself I'll stay alive for our dog. My father brought home a puppy when I was in 6th grade, and it's no doubt the best thing that happened to me. During these difficult times, even when my parents can clearly see the signs, even when I beg them to listen to me, they didn't. My mother said I should just pray, and that I'm overreacting. What hurts and anger me the most is when my parents say "toughen up," and "learn how to control your feelings," when I know too damn well this is out of my control. I did learn how to suppress my own feelings... but I've grown to be a people pleaser. It's not good for me, but I am so desperate for validation—for genuine care. I've lost faith in heavens when I was groveling, begging for it to save me, make my life somewhat bearable, but my situation kept getting impossibly difficult. Last year was probably when I feel like I've had enough. I had to drop out again because of health issues. My mom took me to a clinic near our subdivision, it's a free one. The doctor diagnosed me with acute gastritis. The symptoms were very familiar to me—I started feeling discomfort and difficulty breathing, my chest tightening when I was 14 or 15. Words simply are not enough to describe how mad they were. My parents. My father cursed at me, and I heard things I never thought I will ever hear from them. They completely ignored me for a few months, acting like I'm not there—like I don't exist at all. I also had an experience that completely shattered my trust in everyone, causing me to shut down and retreat. To sum this entry up, I've been isolating myself from pretty much the entire world for a while now. My symptoms are worsening, sometimes I feel like I'd faint, sometimes I feel like I can't breathe and something's squeezing my chest really tightly. I have to cry the pain out at most nights so I can fall asleep. I can't help but feel like there's something terribly wrong inside me. It's just really uncomfortable. My skin, especially my wrists, are deeply scarred and probably damaged. I feel so lost and left behind in life, and I don't know how much I can take anymore. I am so young, but I am so lost. I apologize for the long entry, but even after all these words, I feel like I haven't said enough. After forcing myself to stay quiet, I feel like the emotions are bursting out as I'm typing this. I'm the firstborn child; the daughter, yet I feel like I'm the one looking after my own parents. And it hurts to be scared and mad at the people who created you, but I can never bring myself to hate them either. Despite everything, even when my heart and hands can't hold any emotions anymore, I still find myself looking out for people... because I know what it feels like to be unloved and unheard. But it really hits me hard when I'm the one who needs guidance, understanding, and protection, but I have no one to call or nowhere to go. I can't help but question the universe why it made me live such a cruel fate, and what did I do wrong to deserve this.

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