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idk if any1 here belives in God but i do and i know he put me here on this earth for something but i with i knew what that something was, sometimes i think he put me here just 4 his own entertainment i
Hey! I am here for support when I feel alone. And I have became a listener to be there for others who need someone to listen to them!
Hello,
I’m not doing so great. Ian started to spiral back into my “sad state.”
I made an account earlier this year and I ended up not using it because I started to feel better. But I’m struggling again. I know another person can’t fix my problems but I feel so alone. Hoping to just find people going through similar feelings so I know I’m not alone in this.
@theriverissinging
Hey everyone! I’m feel in a slump and am having a hard time getting through it.
Hey @neonStrings9971, feeling stuck in a slump is quite overwhelming and challenging to experience, especially when it seems like there's no way out anytime soon. I'm glad you're reaching out in 7 cups, and hope you can find your way out of this slump soonish. Taking it one day at a time is helpful at times, we all deserve to take breaks from the challenges.❤
I'm in my thirties and for the past few years I've been asking myself what the heck is wrong with me. Trying to get it together. I'm not well but I want to be! I like the chat rooms, I'll probably roam there a lot. For now connecting with a listener is a bit nerve wrecking I gotta be honest.
@forwardCircle
Aw I get the ever so commonly used question to put oneself down "what's so wrong with me?" when things don't seem to work out for us, or the way we want something to be, when we start losing touch with reality and simply start feeling stuck in a negative spiral, these are only a few experiences here, I'm certain it varies for everyone, and it's all too much to deal with. An assurance, whatever it is you experience or feel, is human, something about yourself you never will have to question.❤
I really like how you said, "I'm not well but I want to be!", and how you're trying to keep it together, shows how resilient you are, and willing to keep trying your best at getting better. A great way to keep it moving is to reach out for support, and yay *you* for being here, exploring the community, it's nice to know you're enjoying the chatrooms so far.
Connecting with a listener can be daunting, I feel you on that. It's good how we do not have to rush through anything, specially that involves our feelings and/ or comfort, while talking about one's feelings and struggles is hardly ever 'comfortable' so to say, it is worth something taking the first steps in what I fondly like to say "testing waters" lol, with listeners it's amazing how there's different people here offering support, and we can always read through the profiles/ bios see if we catch a vibe with someone, to start off slow building rapport and letting the trust build.
While you do that, If forums like these speak to you there's also a place to sort of "journal", have your personal diary in cups (you can mention if you want others to reply there or no), Here (clickable).
It's okay to take your time exploring this space, and to connect with listeners, when you feel ready. Rooting for you.❤
@theriverissinging hi. I’m so nervous. I have never actually done this before. That is joined a site or platform like this.
I have so much to say but i am speechless at the same time.
I do not know what to do.
I need someone to listen. I have people who love me and listen to me but i do not want to worry them with my stupid overthinking.
@dapperOak8858 ditto mate.. I chose to move to the woods as didn’t want family and old friends to see the person I have become, broken but willing and wanting to find ways to cope.. family and friends wanted to help years ago, but it hurt so much to see their faces when I started to spiral.. wishing you much luck, and in my world I call it puppy luck the best kind.. hope today is a better day than yesterday 🐾✌️🌄🦘🇦🇺 👍 g’day from the Mutz and I..
the so much to say but speechless is very apt for myself also.. unless I am talking dog stuff, I try not to talk or go out as I end up annoying everyone +++ yet I do see there may be hope.. new here today.
Hello I’m a newbie here, still kinda confused about the app.
@elizabling welcome here. Please let us know if you have any questions or need help navigating 7 cups. We're all in this together!
Hello
I’m doing ok, better from earlier this morning, I’m looking to have someone to speak to, since I recently graduated and if possible some advice. or ways to find a mentor and friends.
- @Kujo2099 hello and congratulations on graduation, already ticking boxes in life 🐾✌️🌄🦘🇦🇺
- I am new here also and 43 you are reaching out for help to set yourself up for future support and success, wishing you well and here if you ever need to chat.. I only know the things that have helped me get thru life to this point, learning triggers and how to defuse them.. for me it is removing myself however this is not always possible if they are work or family related..
- my biggest thing found and told, find what you love and would do for free as a “job”. I help rehabilitate animals mainly dogs who are rejected by rescue groups, vets, or trainers.. animals never judge or care how I see myself, offering the only unconditional love I have ever known..
- keep up asking if your not happy with dr, find another one you like.. have a frat day or night 🌅👩🎓
Thank you that helps, I’ll try and not be a nag but I’ll definitely consider asking for advice and if I can keep a group a people in a ever evolving circle if I can. How do I gain more confidence and know what I love, I’ve been going with the flow and I don’t really have a personality or a love for anything, I just watch anime and play video games.
I apologize if that’s a lot to read
@Kujo2099 hay again, or to keep status quo I should say G’day 🦘🐕 your not a nag :) and I talk LOTS so long posts more than ok with me 👍 if I can answer I will try..
as for nothing that you know how to love and the things that your interested in are great.. I have a mate who is 50 and writes anime for Japan and he loves it.. he has a family and a job this is what he does in his “free time” or makes time for.. also the video games is a huge industry now I see and has conferences and events all over the world.. this may be something that you could have a look at joining or going to? You already have two things that give you that happy feeling, what a great start :)
when I was 21 travelled to the north east of USA and went working at a summer camp as had no idea what I wanted to do with my life the education stuff I had done, I didn’t like the field and could see a very busy unfulfilled life if continued down that path.. I had $600 USD in my account and jumped on a plane.. I met a lady (amazing lady who changed my world by the things she loved) who walked dogs at the pound and volunteered to help do book work for them.. I was old school mentality with animals but fell in love with those unwanted animals and could see the light from within in each of them..
as for confidence that is a hard one that most adults could not honestly say they have full confidence in anything they do.. I faked it until I made it.. read everything I could on others views and techniques yet this only helped so much.. it was actually getting in and offering my time for free to try.. not always successful yet always thinking about what I had done, right or wrong, I was actually just trying..
when people started asking me how did I do that.. I had to rethink what I was doing, before I knew it the feeling of “confidence” began to appear.. the only way is to put yourself (this bit is going to suck at the start, sometimes alot sometimes not so much) in areas you want to learn about and ask questions.. lots and lots of those who are actually doing the things you love.. you have two already and I know you will find more.. alas two is more than I have.. lol..
the saying fake it until you make it, may seem weird but it basically only means go and try, then try again.. lol.. not so easy when we have our own special diagnosis etc.. confidence only comes with time and repetitive action.. also the most important thing is when you fail, to know that is a part of the deal with all who seem happy and the “best” ALL have failed and felt uncomfortable many many times on their journey..
maybe write down what you would do if you had a lotto win and never needed to work again, what would you do with your time.. ? After spending lots and doing all the $$$$ things, what would you want to do then.. you don’t have to have an answer or even write anything down,,, but start thinking about that.. I would have an island for rescue animals and fly friends and family in for visits, lol.. watch ufc and chillax.. i also would be playing with some video games and the ones I know are almost ancient now, hehe..
please don’t hesitate to write, short or long.. I struggle with short and restrict the time others have to deal with me, as I talk a lot and high energy around others, when at home often curl up in bed with the Mutz., which ever one’s here at that time.. there is no right or wrong, it is all just life and we can chose to do what we want, weird as that may be.. your doing great and so far can see your thoughtful, (mentioning your worried about long posts, don’t be..:) your willing to explore and try.. that is a huge step forward.. I see a young group of people won like $7m prize, not everyone can be the world class, like ufc but still very occasionally go and watch when they come to Oz always meet people there who also love it.. I don’t keep in touch with them but a few of the animal people met and helped over the years became almost family to me.. so there is lots of hope and opportunities for you now your on the path to next phase of life..
That’s actually a good way for me to find out what I love, I did want to travel to the outside of the country, (USA, I think you know that already) and just be scared and meet new people, improve my confidence and have as many friends that I meet along the way and have them live with me I guess.. that and make YouTube videos.
I know that I don’t want to be stuck in a rat race per-say with a prolonged a part time job and stressing, I wanna improve my looks change my style and be happier, find love and my own passion(s) and live my life how I want to, have the *confidence to never subconsciously doubt myself or second guess myself. I wanna become a becon of strength popularity and confidence to other people and radiate that wherever I go.*
I wanna do spontaneous things without having to worry about money. And bless even the smallest of people that have made a positive change in my life, and have humility (oh yeah and maturity… that’s what I was thinking) in order to be trustworthy, and to kill off all of my underlying negative behaviors and find the root cause and pull it out from under. And have the confidence to become a magnet for people that are lost to ask me for guidance (and for women, even though that’s not the goal… 😅)
And I wanna find ways to get rid of past negative triggers that were connected/ connotated? To past experiences I’ve had, wether they were from an ex girlfriend or a depressive episode or both (and yes I’m referencing my recent and past relationship with a toxic ex). But that’s all I can think of.
I wanna be popular and energetic and entertaining. I thought of using improv classes to be funny and witty on the spot and not radiate the awkwardness and scares frail person that I feel like that (*PROJECTS THATS IT that’s what I was looking for, I don’t want to project that to other people I wanna get rid of it and have the confidence to KNOW who I am and that I am confident in my self and not acting like it) I wanna have a personality and not be a people pleaser (this is where I think all of my insecurities lie from, me people pleasing)
And I wanna go off the grid and change my looks and self image and become less manipulative towards people and find out why I’ve been mean and manipulative to people even though I don’t mean it like an a**hole.
@Kujo2099 hay mate they sound like some great plans, with potentially amazing outcomes.. I know you can do it, once find the key to unlock that potential.. I had a pretty bad day yesterday myself, and today went thru a self healing, thing on here for last few hours.. it has really good ideas and can see 90+/-% that is hopefully going to help myself.. managing emotions i think called? Something like that.. new as you know to this site, so still learning how to drive it.. lol..
many many moons ago use to be a part of a couple of drama groups and loved improv and singing like a fool, (not a great voice but had fun) it really helped forget things in my head at the times doing it.. living off grid is life changing and saving for myself.. travel definitely opens the mind to soooo much, I did it on a very tight budget as only had camp councillors wages and small savings mostly when I travelled. Did find a few hacks with flights and getting to go several places..
getting an around the world ticket, instead of straight there and back.. it still gets you home but can choose to stop in 5 places along the way.. the price early 2000’s was $2k+/- and enabled me to have stop overs for a few days at lots of places.. so instead of just flying Sydney to NY and return, it allowed Syd - Ny - London - Paris - Copenhagen - Rome - Cyprus- China then back to Syd.. the direct ticket cost $1800 so the extra $200 more than worth it.. I worked at maccas to save the money for initial travel trip.. I bet a travel agent would have better information now on it all, and with the world as it has been, may have good deals for the next year or so.. and lots of places around the world looking for workers in fields picking fruit, etc..
it is great also that your thinking of some things that you like and looking ahead for plans.. don’t stress to much with what has been done in the past, just what you want and how to change things not liked.. I think this site is going to help me lots also 🤞🐾
looking forward to hearing about you signing up for a improv class and visiting a travel agents if your able.. maybe also check out where some big festivals for anime or gamers on your trip away.. much easier from Usa to visit places in Europe for a month or 2, with a short term job lined up and then could check out some of the Comicon type things, if that’s what floats your boat?
Hope you have a good day or night mate 🐾🌄✌️ 🦘🇦🇺👍
@Kujo2099 hay mate how was your day? had a good one here today, actually got some things done that been putting off for ages as they were pretty difficult BUT done 👍🐾
saw a red belly black snake today while clearing some of the land prepping for summer, as where the Mutz and I live really remote and snakes, spiders, scorpions, centerpieds all share the same land.. we all get along, in that they do their thing and I avoid, as much as possible lol..
have a good one and chat soon mate 🦘🇦🇺 🐾✌️🐶🌅🌄
Beautiful way to welcome in our newbies @theriverissinging 💜
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