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Dogsaregreat44
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Hello, all.. well what to say???? Had a car accident 22-2-2010 and changed my life / world and “future”.. work did not want me back, my mind went to mush, I was also helping with whistleblowing national scale, against major animal welfare org that I was poster boy and worked for.. on their t.v. Ads, wrote the rules on body language for dogs, what lives and dies (heartbreaking, those who love them the most, have to at times do the worst things to - for them) in Oz.. 

several breakdowns, and attempted to end it all a few times.. over 5 years ago for last major issues, yet also don’t go out now apart from the pub.. oh and gave up drinking 2 weeks ago, therefore that friend network is also about to break down.. however…. I truly believe; ever soooooo lucky that I had personal insurance and received a payout that allowed me to by land in the bush away from everyone who knew me before the accident, as I am 1-10th if that of the person I was.. one of the reasons for breaking, the court case for the accident lasted 9years, 6months, 5days and it was my own legal team that drew it out.. grr.. I went from 6 figure job+ biz for “red flag” animals to doing on disability pension and get enough now for dog stuff and basic life.. it is all I need don’t get me wrong.. Alas, quite the shock.. 

started a email relationship with my father recently and that is going ok.. I know that he is saddened by who I have become and I get that… ++++++ noticing writing this lots of I, this and I that.. so going to stop writing.. really looking forward to the chance to speak with others who have remade a life with this brokenness and how they got to that point.. 

choosing to live remote was a great choice at the time, maybe not for mental health support or medical help, lol.. closest real town, hospital or people a few hours drive.. it is beautiful in the bush and the dogs that been thru this little rescue all appreciate it I know.. yet still feel empty and I (again, grr) KNOW not really a person people want to be around for more than about 10-30mins.. Restricting the time others have to endure me.. 


if anyone actually read all of this, thank you and looking forward to what may be? 🐾✌️🌄🦘🇦🇺🤠🌅🐶

nate & the Mutz.. 













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Should I keep my long term friends, like family before sober.. now?
Alcohol & Drug Addiction Support / by Dogsaregreat44
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September 16th, 2022
...See more Sorry it’s long but new to this Sober and happy about it thing.. should I keep my friends I don’t really like, when I am not drunk last two months? Some I have known for 12+;years and love them bit put think they may be toxic and new different values, I guess? 🤷🏼‍♂️🇦🇺🦘✌️🐾🌄 👍🐶
Ideas to help when around alcohol, that is our only social scene, last life I had and present isolated.
Alcohol & Drug Addiction Support / by Dogsaregreat44
Last post
September 9th, 2022
...See more Hello, very recent non drinker myself from 30 years of being “one of the lads” and drinking in Australia is a huge thing, especially when I live in the country with our only form of social life (well only one I had- have known evolves drinking and bbq). Last night was my first time at the pub not drinking and telling people.. surprised ++++++++ how it was taken by my drinking buddies guys and gals.. EVERYONE said well done.. I told them wasn’t for life (but I think it has to be, as 1 is too many and 1000 beers never enough.. I was last to leave and didn’t finish until no drinks left) but until nye.. i don’t really have any advice as also very new to this world, I do know that I felt proud of myself for saying no to ALL offers and being able to be in that place where I thought non drinkers not welcome.. turns out I was wrong and they seemed to still like me and want to be friends without a drink.. that sounds very school yard tacit mentality yet heard so many people say those who don’t drink are x, y or z.. happily surprised and a lot more confident that I can do this.. it was taking over my life and at 43, realising that almost all the bad things ever occurred involved drinking.. not always my fault but it seems it was the only constant in all situations.. I am looking forward to when i look back nye and not want a drink.. we’ll 🤞🐾🤷🏼‍♂️ That’s the plan.. Wishing you a fantastic day or night and I am going to try to come onto this site each day or close to.. if you ever want to chat, please drop a message.. take care and I know this is not any real help but wanted to say hi.. p.s. yesterday had a pretty bad day, went to the pub thinking I need to get away from it all and actually drank soft drinks - lemonade.. first time ever didn’t just go straight for the bottle or other.. a start I guess?? Sorry I talk lots, and have pretty much no one, dogs are great but they are out of ideas to help 🐶🇦🇺🦘 below some of the unwanted and declared dangerous.. I can relate at times.. Ugg think that’s why I help them? 🤷🏼‍♂️🐕
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