How to be Friendly?

@purpleMoon1120

First to talk to new people , you need a reason atleast if are meeting people in real world. It could be anything , you like about the person you wish to chat with.

I'm in the same situation. Its hard to initiate or continue conversations. What I tried is online chatting and posting on forums. It helps.

@purpleMoon1120

In my opinion, it gets difficult if you go to strike a conversation with the sole purpose to make friends with them. It gets awkward soon. Try to just strike a conversation in general. No expectations. Friendship isn't a one day activity for adults like it is for kids who just walk up to the person and say, "hey wanna be my friend?" this will sound creepy coming from a stranger in case of adults.

So just try to strike up general conversations. You will get to know people that way.. And gradually you Will find your circle.

I hope I wrote this as clear as it was in my mind. If not, I am sorry.

Can we be friends?😊

@purpleMoon1120

Hi. You can find growth paths steps and web resources on "making friends" and "getting unstuck" on my profile page here:

https://www.7cups.com/@7motivation

@purpleMoon1120

you are like me

@purpleMoon1120 I feel like communication is a two way street. Trying having some general "conversation starters" handy, and just practice. The world is generally a safe and friendly place.

Hi @purpleMoon1120, I hardly spoke nor was social a couple decades back... In my preteen-teen years, I was asocial. Hardly had friends, didn't speak unless spoken too. Didnt like people in general, but felt lonely and still wanted to have some friends despite this.... When college hit, I forced myself to say "yes" to every hangout and joined a couple groups, played sports, and that was the beginning to me learning how to socialize with others.

Though, I did burnt out from "friendship" for a while after college years, and wanted to be left alone, spent a LOT of energy having many different friend groups in college and doing things EVERY day... constantly, without any alone time[I'm actually quite introverted, I can be social, but it drains my battery after awhile.]

Nowadays, I can make friends easy, but have the problem of keeping them or making ones that aren't... Leaches or negligent to our friendship...or just generally too busy to keep in contact...

My advice to you is maybe start off small?

Try to join groups where there's people with common interests. Maybe a movie night, writers circle, programming or videogame nerds, sport fanatics, the library, a concert, or go hiking/trekking on the beach, fishing, etc and meet like minded people.

And...depending on your vice... You can also meet people in bars or go to facilities for 420 smokers and meet people--- if you like those kinds of things. I don't drink as much anymore, hardly really, but I used to like chatting it up on the bar. I only go to bars for karaoke now and their food. I usually just get myself a glass of water. I like to sing! So it's fun. I do smoke greens... Though if that's not your thing, it's cool!

Like another poster said, don't automatically assume friendship on the first meeting, just have fun chatting and have a good time! My hobby is language learning, and when people first ask me to "be friends", it makes me not want to be their friend for asking that so early on. I don't like it in general when someone asks to be my friend, I like it to happen organically. It feels fake and forced, like I have an obligation to them, when I don't.