Seeking Support- Spouse cheated on me and we're heading for divorce
Hi all,
Not sure if I'm posting this correctly as it's my first time. As per title, I'm going through a very difficult time in my life right now. I wonder if there's anyone here who's been through something similar or could help me. My spouse cheated on me and blamed me for it. I was gaslit and made to doubt myself as they kept playing mind games with me instead of being upfront. Now I'm in a very complicated situation as I can't leave them right away, but we plan to eventually divorce. I was told everything is my fault, and even when confronted, they refused to accept any responsibility. I was compared to this other woman and I was told nobody would want me if I didn't change everything about myself from my appearance to my attitude and personality. Does it get better with time? I have many fears about the future as I was fully dependant on my spouse for the 3 years we've been married and I lost all my self-esteem and confidence. I'm afraid I won't be able to find a job to support myself. I'm afraid of loneliness. I'm afraid of a lot of things, but trying to be positive.
@ZombieLife89
When aman wanna go or have another girl he creates excuses to make himself not to feel guilty about his wife/girlfriend and those excuses will definitely harm his wife/girlfriend but, he will think only about himself.
It will never happen that his inner voice will say your wife is perfect go and cheat on her so to make that voice shut up he should make excuses to say to his inner voice.
About being afraid, let's say that you never met wouldn't you find a job and depend on yourself?
The life is not a man if he chooses to leave don't hold because sometimes letting go is less painful than holding.
How to avoid fate arrows? Be next to the archer and it won't hit you.
Allah will fix everything and he knows well what will heal you, believe in Allah plans and don't worry.
@YahyaAhmed How to avoid fate arrows? Be next to the archer and it won't hit you.
Like that muchly thanks!
Thank you Yahya for reaching out. It means a lot to me that you cared so much to write to me still and encourage me. You are absolutely right and I should not treat it as the end of the world.
Nice line about the arrows :)
Thank you again for helping me.
@ZombieLife89
I wish you the best and that situation ends sooner than later.🙏🏻