What is the role and responsibility of a good member?
A lot of talks happen about the role and responsibility of a good listener, and a lot of training, guides, and support is available at 7cups on how to be a good listener.
But I want to take a moment here, to discuss an equally important question! What is the role and responsibility of a good member?
Members come at 7cups to seek support, but there must also be some responsibility of the seekers too. One is not free to behave in any rash way just because they are on their member account. There is decency required on the member account too. Furthermore (and it's a fact), those members who behave in a kind and respectful manner to listeners get more support than the ones who are disrespectful and judgmental (the giver is more motivated to give when the seeker is kind and respectful.)
Please share your views about the role and responsibility of a good member, by replying to this thread!💛😇
Appreciate that everyone heals and grows at their own speed.
@EmbStitcher33 Excellent reminder.
@Fristo
In my view, a good member is one who not only seeks support but also shows empathy, understanding, and respect towards others. It's important to approach each interaction with kindness and an open mind. This not only benefits ourselves but also contributes to the overall well-being of the community.
This is very helpful. Thank you for posting this! 💖
@Fristo
the role and responsibility of a good member is to always be polite and respectful during a chat, while they are conveying their thoughts, messages and feelings.
I whole heartedly agree with redd.
@Fristo
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I think its funny if you think everyone is capable of being a "good" member
Mental illness is tiring. Sure, some people are on here because their cat died or something but a lot of people on here have mental illnesses/disorders etc
You want someone to listen to you where you can be yourself no matter how messed up that is. To be authentic for once. Bear in mind that most people with mental illness have to spend most of the time putting on a front to the world, different to how they feel inside
Not everyone feels or is even capable of being kind and compassionate and loving and whatever else. Maybe in the 7cups dreamworld of rainbows and unicorns but not in reality
Some are bitter or angry or irrational
The best listeners are those that be themselves and let you be yourself too
The listeners who think they are good because they say positive things and act compassionate and kind. Note the word "act", are not as much use as they believe they are
@Fristo Thank you for your thoughts. I believe as a member it’s my job to treat everyone like a close friend. Or someone next door. Someone I really care about. So I can insure they feel welcomed in 7Cups.
@Fristo
I totally, agree. We come from all walks of life. This is a safe space for everyone, irrespective of being a member/ listener. And even if one cannot help the other in every way, not harming the other is the single most basic thing we can do to help others.
Thank you @Fristo for this post. It is often, we oversee the roles and responsibility of a good member. As a matter of fact, listeners are supposed to be an ideal cupser tending to all the rules and regulations. While members are assumed to behave as per their convenience. This is contrasting on the grounds of community and guidelines that simply make us human. We all deserve equal respect and reciprocation of behaviour on this platform as well as in the real world.
I think just being kind, and being aware and respecting others and your own boundaries.