No friends

@considerateFan5574 Hey there. I'm 30 years old. Making friends as well as keeping them can be  very difficult. Please don't blame yourself.  Sometimes others have a difficult time dealing with life plus keeping relationships. They probably aren't thinking about us which can hurt, yet it doesn't always mean they don't care or are like being mean. Everyone deserves deep, personal connections. It's ok if you don' have that yet. Enjoy life whether with many friends or just flying solo :)

Things happen in life when you least expect them. You just need to keep moving forward with more focus on yourself than the fact that you don't have a compatible friend. I know it's easier said than done, but the thing is we can only keep trying. When the time comes it will happen. I also know that waiting for the time to come is also painful but that's how life works. A friend on this platform once told me, hope is a prayer too maybe God will grant it.

And no you are not needy by wanting a friend. You are good. Everybody needs a friend.Just keep doing things to make yourself even better than what you are. That doesn't mean you need to change yourself completely to fit with other people to be friends. Just be your true self and strive for a better version of yourself.

@considerateFan5574

Hello, thank you for sharing your troubles. It was real brave of you. 

So, when I was in high school and still to this day, I feel like I litterally have no friends. I do have one best friend but me and her do not hang out often as we both have our own lives to tend to. 

Loneliness has been such a norm to me especially in high school. But one thing I’m glad that I stopped doing in high school was forcing myself to be someone I wasn’t or no longer was. I used to be much more open and talkative to people but that died down as I grew older and now all I wish for is mental health and peace for myself. 

I’m not saying being lonely or by yourself is cool because I understand those times in between peace and silence where you just want someone to be there with you smiling and sharing memories. You’re not wrong for wanting a friend. 

There are many good people out there. Don’t change yourself to fit into certain groups or with certain people. But be confident in who you are and the way you approach people. 

Don’t force connections or be desperate for them. You won’t be happy with “friends” that way. You will know when someone is right for you. 

I am currently struggling with the same problem. I lost all my friends, then after I finished school I lost my best friend. I don't go out to social events, and even if I go I'm so introverted that I can't seem to enjoy it. I used to think being alone is the best for me.. self isolation was the best because no one can hurt me if I don't have no one in my life, except the fact that I hurt myself even more by doing that. The fact that you are wanting a friend is the first step. You just need to keep looking and you will find the friendship that you need. ✨️

I am 32 and a very few friends are left in my life. I understand your situation completely but as you have started making efforts you will find someone.

Also I am available if you want to talk to me and see how it goes

@considerateFan5574

Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable, you did something really valuable in your journey to find your friends.

I believe one needs to be ok with being on their own to have meaningful relationships so that they spring out of curiosity rather than need. Having said that, I also believe we need to make an effort to meet new people or old friends, etc. to combat loneliness. But it needs to be in the right terms, most people would go to a bar and drink some beer... which may make wonders for extroverts. For some others may be to join a club or a group activity. Each of us need to find the way that best suits us.

I wish you the best of lucks in your juorney and feel free to drop me a line if you want to chat a bit more :)

I’m the same, I have social anxiety make it hard for me to find friends.