I want to forget my ex please help me
This is my first post. I don't know is it ok to post like this problems. I had a bf in 2022 I loved him so much. It's like I felt love day by day increasing. our affair only had 1 yr. but at the end of 2022 his parents disagree to the affair and he stopped. But it was very hard me to stop feelings toward him. after few months like 1 or 2 he found a new girlfriend. I didn't know about that even though we stopped affair I chat with him. (actually it's like I begged for him that I need him) later he said he has a new gf. but I didn't stop chat with him. time to time I sent messages. he also sent msg to me. in 2023 june I met a man kind hearted. He started to love me. but in my mind I had feelings for my ex. last month I married to that person. he is so good. very kind. I love him than my ex. but when we start to be romantic I still remember my romantic moments with my ex. that make me so stress. I want to forget my ex and live my husband. but my heart don't allow me. so I'm suffer because of that. my husband loves me more than ex loved me. but now my feeling which I had toward ex is stronger than feelings I have toward my husband. please help me to forget ex and love my husband.
@lavenderZebra7651 I did to I forgot about my ex he’s the one at fault with a crime sent somewhere else released from jail
not in a good situation it’s where he’s staying he did a lot of awful things to me I was in school the bell ring I was trying to go home head home it’s walking back home he threatened me with a deadly weapon
It's brave of you to share how you feel. Often in these situations emotions defeat logic. While you know deep down what's right for you, the strong connection you feel for your ex is making things worse. Try to navigate what are the things that make you feel such way? The past can have a deluding impact on the mind, often when we remember the good and the negatives fade away. Try basing yourself in the reality more. I hope things get better with time
@lavenderZebra7651
its important to understand that the universe let a bad thing go, and gave you something better. That has to be respected, and appreciated.
And, also understand that anything, and everything on the planet, has a purpose for why they are and why they are not, a part of our lives.
If your ex's parents had a problem with the relationship, imagine how drastically worse it would have become if you continued, if there was a time to be married. Your life, is much better of now, thanks to the breakup
You have a chance here, to live and enjoy the present, and appreciate how lucky you are given how the situations have evolved. But the choice, to allow your past to control your present and your future, thats on you! Only you, can jeopardise your present.
Its better to have a broken heard and move on, than to have a broken soul later and never being able to move on. But the first question you must answer is, do you even want to move on? If the answer to that question, is not a shouting YES, if there is even a slight doubt in your mind, than, you have in good conscience, even destroyed your current partners life
It sounds harsh, i understand that, but im not a listener who likes to sugarcoat things. The hard, raw, unfiltered truth is always better
@lavenderZebra7651 it happens but the thing is in future your husband only support you in all your difficulties but not your ex. After breakup honest and innocent people suffers a lot because they emotionally choose wrong people rather in real life. But when passage of time your husband became soulmate and everything then you understood. So feelings are short term but love only for honest and caring people who will stand with you.
yeah now I understand. you guys make my life easyð¥¹
@lavenderZebra7651 No worries, we always here to keep you in right path and listen to your anxiety makes you feel better. Life is enjoy
