I think I set myself an emotional trap
Hello, everyone. 👋I'm new here. Hope all of you are doing well!
I just needed to vent a little about something that's been over my mind these days.
So, I have a good support system, wich I know is a luxury in these days and I am truly grateful for that.
My problem is, I think I set myself in a bad cycle. Every time something bothers me, even if it's small, if I'm a little anxious, annoyed, sad,etc. I will rely on them. Ask advice, or just vent to them like I'm doing right now. And I know that that in itself isn't bad but I think I'm in a point where I can't help myself anymore. Like I got this addiction to being helped? Or like now I get bad for miniscule stuff, ridiculous even and I can seem to think rationally until I talk to them and I realize "wow I did overreact or overthink that".
Right now, for example, I've been so irritated and angry by the most stupid things, and it shows, I know it shows, but I have no real clue to why. I just have this bad mood.
Is it possible that I got stuck in a cycle of getting my mind and emotions in trouble so that I can feel good after being supported? Is it possible that I became addicted to a victim mentality and self pity?Â
If so, how can I get out of it? I don't want to be a burden, or become the type of person that always demands too much from people and does nothing to change their current situation...
Have you ever felt something similar? How are you processing it?
Sorry for the mistakes I haven't practiced my English in a while
@affableCity3680 I know it's a bit apples to oranges but I do understand relying on others and feeling stuck there. My husband took me out to a nice restaurant and I couldn't even decide what to order myself. I knew it annoyed him and I felt bad that I couldn't make such a simple decision. He said he'd help me work on it and I think in time I will be able to rely on myself and I know with practice and effort, you can too!
By the way, you're English read better than enough Americans I've talked to.Â
@craterlake Thank you! Is good to know im not that out of practice in english😅
I´m sorry to hear you are going throuhg something similar, even if it helps knowing im not the only one, but i think is good to know your husband is there for you. I guess it all comes down to how much we trust ourselfs, so maybe getting to know us a little better is a good start to being self reliance. Idk, but at least is conforting to know we are both in the same kind of boat and that we can get better with time and practice...
I wish you the best of lucks on your journey!!Â