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craterlake
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Not Approaching vs Not In The Mood - Period
Women's Issues / by craterlake
Last post
 October 15th
...See more When it's that time of the month I don't generally approach my husband for sexy fun times. It's not that I'm not in the mood, I'm just not driven to initiate anything. So why does he take offense? How can I remind myself or fake it along to keep from causing problems? If I don't take care of his needs during my period, he "pays me back" by withholding for at least 3x the amount of time. It's so frusterating.
Are the meds actually working?
Anxiety Support / by craterlake
Last post
 October 15th
...See more So I was talking to my husband the other night and reflecting over how we've been doing better lately, less fights and all. I mentioned that I thought I was getting better even though I know I still have a lot of improving left to go. I've been on anxiety meds since January so we're going on 10 months now. His response was that the improvement is all credited to him because he just doesn't care anymore and I'm still screwing up the same amount. Turned what I thought was some great reflection at the end of the day to feeling like c**p and emotionally targeted instead of supported. So am I actually getting better or is he gaslighting me?
Stress Eating Guilt
Anxiety Support / by craterlake
Last post
 January 2nd
...See more I know I'm not the only one who will stress eat when going through tough times. How are others getting past it or stopping the habit?
When Women are Manipulated
Women's Issues / by craterlake
Last post
 December 29th, 2023
...See more I was chatting with a guy and it turned very manipulative. It started out like he was a genuinely carrying person. Reminding me to take care of myself and that I was important. Then he started asking for pictures of me and even my phone #. I'm mad at myself for letting him manipulate me to where it even got to the point of those requests. I feel like I was too trusting and now I was taken advantage of. When I refused, he started being mean and calling me fat. I know I'm not a super model and I could afford to loose some weight, but I also know he was trying to be mean. I ended up blocking him. Still, I feel used and upset. I know there are good guys out there. But why do so many of them end up making women into material for their happy endings? That's not what I'm signing up for. It's non consensual. 
Keeping This Private or a Secret
Relationship Stress / by craterlake
Last post
 November 29th, 2023
...See more Currently my husband does not know I have an account on this platform. Is that common for anyone else? I worry about him finding out about it. I don't want to lie to him, but I also feel I need this private space to talk to like minded people who are in need and on a growth path towards getting better. 
Mommy Tummy
Women's Issues / by craterlake
Last post
 January 14th
...See more For all the moms out there, do you struggle with mommy tummy? I had my last kid 5 years ago, been through 3 cesarians. I can't seem to tighten up my lower mommy tummy and it really bothers me. I try to wear some sexy lingerie but the front is cut so dang narrow and my mommy tummy just doesn't look that great (at least to me) when it's not covered. Anyone been through this, currently dealing with it, or have suggestions to cope or fix? In all vanity I wouldn't be above getting a tummy tuck but it would have to be at the bottom of a big line of other things I'm working on myself first like general weight loss, removing tonsils, maybe some permanent hair removal, and getting regular doctor appointments. Sorry for the vanity but I want to look and feel good going into my 40s. They are closer than I'd like. 
Out in my high heals
Journals & Diaries / by craterlake
Last post
 November 21st, 2023
...See more Most days I don't leave the house unless it's to the post office or the grocery store. Going out the front door two feet to pick up an Amazon package doesn't really count much. I've been stuck inside so much that my solar powered watch won't even keep time now. Tonight, however, my husband surprised me by without warning told me to go to the store to buy drinks for us while he had the kids at home and got dinner in the oven. He even helped me "get ready" by suggesting I put on some lipstick and high heals to go with my red dress and tights. 💃 It was nice to be out of the house and not with the kids. Sure I only drove to buy drinks and come right home. Yes it was probably controlled. But I still felt seen and I felt important. I wasn't going out as "Mom". I was going out as Me. Maybe slowly I can be more Me and less Mom. I have my own identity outside of the roles I play.
BDSM Relationship Experience Anyone?
35 & Over Community / by craterlake
Last post
 November 26th, 2023
...See more I'm wondering if there are any people here that are involved in BDSM relationships and are open to sharing/discussing about the challenges and difficulties we experience. Bedroom only? At the clubs? Or fully public?
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