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User Profile: xucaen
xucaen December 29th

I chatted with 2 listeners. They were both nice. But I just feel like im bother them. One person had a weird description and now I'm wary of chatting with anyone. I'm just not sure if it's really ok to chat with a listener...

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User Profile: jacek73
jacek73 Sunday

@xucaen

Hello and welcome to 7 Cups 😊

It's a bit sad to hear your first chat experiences here might have been not like feeling at home. I believe that no matter whether it is listening, a regular therapy or just a normal life, you may need some "chemistry" between two people, to feel good together. So, I would kindly recommend you to be not too much discouraged by these first encounters.

What do you mean by "weird" description? Our Listeners (and I believe Members, too) are great variety of people. Some of them may just talk to you like to a friend, some may give you a compassionate ear, and some may accept the challenge of helping you navigate your own way through difficulties.

We're also people (I mean both Members and Listeners, again) of various backgrounds and generations, so some of us may prefer the old style "pen pal" communication (like here on the forum) to live chat.

User Profile: QuietFay
QuietFay Sunday

@xucaen Of course you can chat with listeners. Listeners are here to provide emotional support for us 💜 You can tell them your troubles and they will be there to listen. But to ensure anonymity and safety you cannot talk about inappropriate content. Because many of our listeners are volunteers, some of them may not pocess good listening skills. You can try to chat with our verified listeners.🥰

You can also check out our community guidelines at Community Guidelines | 7 Cups

Hope this helps, and hope you have a wonderful healing journey 💜💜

User Profile: Niaea
Niaea Sunday

@xucaen

Honestly, we (the listeners) are only human too. Some of us are a little weird, some of us have a first language other than English which can give a bit of an bad impression, and some of us maybe just write slowly, which a lot of people interpret as not caring. And of course not every listener is suitable for every member. 

But one thing we have in common, we all want to listen, help and support. 

Feel free to contact as many listener as you want. And if someone doesn't seem like a good fit for you don't be afraid to tell and contact someone else. We're used to it. It's all about making you feel comfortable.

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User Profile: Misty87tn
Misty87tn Sunday

I love this!

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User Profile: JanusPi
JanusPi Sunday

@xucaen 

Sorry to hear that your first experience with listeners weren’t great. As listeners they went through training to learn what not to do and what to do. But from my experiences with listeners, they all have their unique ways to be listeners. For me I prefer those that are more informal. And don’t worry about being a bother. The way listeners work is that, when you request to talk to a listener, you’ll be put into a queue where listeners can choose who to talk to depending on the tags picked by the members. Most listeners will pick the tags that they’ve experienced themselves so I can confidently say most of them have good intentions. Hopefully you have better interactions in the future!💕

User Profile: yanaa3
yanaa3 Sunday

Don't worry; As a listener: You are not bothering us at all, talking to people about their issues is basically what we signed up for :)

User Profile: Remina
Remina Sunday

@xucaen

Hey you're not a bother to listeners!

no no i get that. i lowkey feel like they are AI or something?